[noidea]

I'm very new here. I was born in the Easter block for those who remember. There was no such thing as sex ed, back then I was learning how do dismantle clean and rebuild ak-47. Plus was learning the language of my enemy...English. The nuns teaching risked their lives telling us where the enemy actually was. But i digress. I have been married 10 years together 15. My wife is a bbw so some positions get complex,I have since our marriage lost almost 100lbs. I love my wife very much. My wife only likes one position although we tried others that seems to work...however lately she wants whips and chains and all that good stuff. She never wanted me to go down there, but all of a sudden now she wants it. I asked if she would be willing to do some grooming down there(she makes me do it), she agreed! She never wanted that! So some fairly quick changes are happening to a person who was totally super conservative in these matters(I introduced her to a sex shop). Another problem is she never gets to the big O because she refuses to relax or tells me to stop before she gets there,from what I gather she is confusing orgasim with some thing else and as it builds up she wants to stop it. The irony is I cannot reach climax either but mine is due to a cancer I had 3-4 years ago. I a ed if she wanted another man or something of the sort and got a negative response. I want her to climax so she knows what it feels like but how do I get her not to resist. My idea which was accepted was to a g spot viberator so she can try on her own to know what to expect. Any other advice?

[noidea]

Did I say something to offend?

[Little]

Sometimes good answers take a long time. Members can't really input on situations they don't have experience with. Hopefully a lady who learned to reach orgasm later in her sexual life will chime in soon.

[noidea]

Thanks

[Stillness]

Does "something else" mean she thinks she's going to urinate?

[jns]

noidea, is she interested in having an orgasm? If she is, maybe a sex therapist could help her get through any misconceptions she has. It sounds like she is adventurous enough to move forward, maybe just needing some guidance.

An AK is reasonably simple which is what makes it so good in the field.

[noidea]

I think that might be it the urinate scenario

[BabyGirl]

I am Fascinated here.

I was born in the Easter block for those who remember.There was no such thing as sex ed, back then I was learning how do dismantle clean and rebuild ak-47. Plus was learning the language of my enemy...English. The nuns teaching risked their lives telling us where the enemy actually was. But i digress.

Hopefully the " English " are not still Enemies .. Lol
And Sex Ed . Here in the USA, really only teaches you the How to's of our Bodies and how to protect from unwanted Diseases or Pregnancies .

And also very uplifted that the " Eastern Block " finally has sex shops and that you are trying your best to please your Wife .

I asked if she wanted another man or something of the sort and got a negative response. I want her to climax so she knows what it feels like but how do I get her not to resist. My idea which was accepted was to a g spot vibrator so she can try on her own to know what to expect. Any other advice?

The G~Spot Vibe, might be a good idea , why not you try it on her ? When and if you see a change in her body at a certain way you are holding the Vibe, maybe try the Fingers or your tongue there, mimic the movement of the Vibe.
Also maybe a glass of wine and start with a Body oil rub.. With a little teasing around that area.. Might have her more relaxed and less inclined to " Resist " the Orgasm ..

[wino33]

Maybe she is unfamiliar with squirting, which can feel like an urge to urinate, but often results in an orgasm stronger than a typical orgasm. Talk with her and find out if that's what she's afraid of, then just bring in some towels and get her to relax and enjoy.