[a_dub]

Back in college a few of my buddies and I (we were all virgins) came up with the "wank test" to figure out if we should ask a girl out. Anytime we saw a hot girl instead of asking her out right away we'd sleep on it by jerking off to her. If it was a great session, it meant the girl would be a great lay and we should proceed to ask her out. If it was just a 'meh, I've had better' sessions it was a sign that she either wouldn't be interested or that she didn't warrant the effort of asking her and dating her. The logic being that if you loved jerking off to her actual sex would be mind blowing.

Did any of you ladies have similar methods of screening? Any other guys use the wank test?

[Element]

So, you are saying that you only asked girls out that you found physically attracted to and wanted to get into bed with, without even considering getting to know them as a human being, having a conversation with them, giving them some of your time to see how you two connect, or even caring about them?

[a_dub]

So, you are saying that you only asked girls out that you found physically attracted to and wanted to get into bed with, without even considering getting to know them as a human being, having a conversation with them, giving them some of your time to see how you two connect, or even caring about them?

No, I usually wussed out of asking out the girls that got positive test results - and there were a lot!

Secondly how can I care about a girl who I havent even asked out yet? People date for years before falling in love and getting married or even engaged. I made the mistake of falling in [unrequited] love a couple of times and now I just dont fall in love anymore. Its just an automatic defense mechanism I guess. Love would be great but frankly I just want sex that I dont have to pay for. A lot of people do that, some people just werent meant for love...to each their own I say.

[rcoreyus]

To me, how hot someone is, and how much I think I'd enjoy having sex with them depends a lot more on how they behave than how they look.

[Stillness]

Secondly how can I care about a girl who I havent even asked out yet?

It could be a friend first. It could be a lady you sparked a conversation with. It could be someone who's number you got and talked on the phone with.

[atskitty2]

I remember guy friends talking about this method years ago, in my twenties. I suppose that was fun for the guys then, since they had no intention of having a relationship or anything more than sexual encounters.
No, I don't remember the girls having any similar games to determine who was date worthy.

[Justice]

"Love would be great but frankly I just want sex that I dont have to pay for. "

I mean NO disrespect, but some other posts I have read have shown a kind of disdain for women (non-"perfect",flawed, real people). I have to assume that it is difficult to do well with most women in that case.

Secondly how can I care about a girl who I havent even asked out yet?
It is about a general attitude and maybe even just respect. I couldn't imagine with going out with (or asking someone on a date), if I did not respect them or even care about them as a person - even if it was not yet as an "individual". If you approach the person as someone you might consider being at least friends with (i don't mean a lifelong commitment, I mean beyond I want to do you but never ever see or speak with you again) I would think that would be "how".

I think the two statements tie together - if a guy doesn't really like women and just want some stranger to have sex with - but is not willing to pay..... I guess you are looking for what I would think would be kind of rare... or else pretty flawed (like someone who goes out and gets drunk and willing to do a stranger).

If I am way off on this, I would assume it was because I don't know anyone (women for sure and not most men I know) who has that attitude. (Of course I am Catholic and most of the people I grew up around did not screw strangers and want to never see them again.)

[sheepmama]

they make blow up dolls. That might be a better option for you.