[305]

Is it better to find a guy in a relationship for a mfm encounter or ask one of his friends...my fiancé and I have talked about it...

[effy2014]

Ooh effy I really like '69' I can give and receive at the same time,, that's not a problem at all. In fact being on the receiving side makes me more giving.

I'm just not a great multitasker. One a time for me.

[Patti-here]

I'm just not a great multitasker. One a time for me.

effy, a '69' is one at a time,

[Something_Awesome]

Is it better to find a guy in a relationship for a mfm encounter or ask one of his friends...my fiancé and I have talked about it...

I'd imagine you should go for a single guy.

[jen1447]

Friends can be tricky unless you're all really clear on the rules and mindset well in advance. Strangers (or people less than friends) can just walk away.

[effy2014]

effy, a '69' is one at a time,

Yes M'am. One woman, two tasks. I should have said that I have issues focusing on myself and giving pleasure to another. Her tongue is also in the wrong direction for maximum pleasure. So, one task at a time. Let me focus on and complete my service on the V (or A) and then I will let her take her turn -- maybe. I might want seconds.

[305]

Thanks on the reply...weather to ask a friend or a stranger. I just get weary about a stranger and the sites kinda freak me out a little...if you know what I mean lol I've been thinking of a friend if his so it's not too weird...cuz I figure if it's my friend then it might have an "undertone" u know...plus we've been talking about rules...what should they be lol

[jen1447]

The main one is no hurt feelings, no matter what. You'd be the one having sex with both men, so your fiance would have to steel himself against the image of another man running his fiance (easier said than done), as well as any potential for negative comparisons. (Is he smaller sized, less stamina, etc.) It's easy to start feeling neglected or inadequate, especially if you and the other guy really started to gel to the point that you focused on each other and he became a bystander. I suppose it's easier for the guest, but he could feel inadequate too if your fiance outperformed him.

I've included the BF in threesomes with other women a couple times, and the way I've handled it was to emphasize that anything that happens between me and her doesn't reflect on him. (That applies to me having sex with only them as well where he's not involved.) I love him and accept him regardless of his performance compared against theirs. If anything that's been more significant with women because during the times he's been involved, he's generally done long before we are, so it's easy to feel like he's not measuring up. He gets this, but we've found it's still best for all concerned if he sits it out. That's why it's only happened rarely.

Enough with the scary stories tho ....if you all can relax and pull this off, chances are you'll have an incredible time. It's really a great feeling to monopolize the attention of two lovers ....like you're so awesome that you have the power to be enough and then some for both of them, and that you're so awesome they're willing to cooperate to have you. That's actually pretty rare, given the competitifve nature of humanity.

[305]

Wow thanks and great insight. Many of those scenarios him and I have already talked about...from the other men's size, performance and any tricks per say he may have up his sleeve. Even tho we already know that the guy we are planning on asking is well endowed, we still talked about it (:
We are not sure if we should put rules or not...and as far as trying to multi task...well I'm ready lol (: plus I'm kinda looking forward to the challenge of satisfying two well hung men lol
So rules or not? and if so, which ones should they be...

[CHANDLERS WISH]

A friend is a bad choice in my opinion. With these adventures out of town, never see them again, a friend may want seconds, may talk, may cause problems.

I understand the Internet is not the best place to find this person but just think about what I said above.