[dyunysus]

This happened to me a few years after marrying Graham. I just didn't fancy him as much anymore. We spoke about it and he realised he needed to lose a bit of weight and get his confidence back, as I found the confidence sexy. He lost the weight and his self confidence came back so quickly, he went from hassling me for sex to me not being able to keep my hands off him. Maybe you need to do what Jen said, man up a little and she'll start to want you again.

Well GillT ... YOUR SHALLOW!

[Seantsm2001]

Jen, could you elaborate on "let her drift" or any other women on her. Thanks.

That's true ^ men who always want to kiss your butt can be irritating. But I think another dynamic may be at play here, which is simply that if we are not into somebody, honestly it can kinda be that whatever they do irritates us, because we're ....not into them. So that would mean super-accommodating might be irritating, but if he calmed it down and did not try to be that, we might find that irritating too, just because it was him doing it. And I can tell you for a fact that dialing up the smarmyness in response to the feeling of us drifting away does absolutely nothing to help matters. If you feel your woman drifting away, the best thing to do is have some balls and let her drift (as hard as that may be when you're feeling lovey-but-rejected). It might not have the desired effect, but it's a better shot than putting yourself in our faces right when we don't really want to see you.

This all sounds crappy I know, but it is what it is.

[jen1447]

What do you want to know specifically?

[angel23]

Dude I'm sorry to tell you this but the reason she does this is because you are either loosing her or already lost her. She doesn't want to have sex with you specifically. The important thing here is that you don't lower yourself to the point to were you become a ************** (sorry for the lenguage it's the best way I can put it) It's extremely unattractive and pushes her away even more. Be the man she met and don't be needy. Take the time to think about yourself and what you want and focus on yourself. Woman are weird and if they think they really are loosing you then she'll be the one pursuing you. Woman like playing games and they don't even know what they want. Show her you are a man, collect yourself and don't be another man that lost his marriage because he lost his true self. I don't think she is cheating because she is pleasuring herself so don't worry about that too much. I went through this already, it's the hardest think I've even been through. I became her slave and gave in to everything she wanted but I never got her heart back. Woman want a man not a wimp. But I learned from my experience and now I'm married again to a even hotter woman and happier. Focus on yourself focus on your kids, go work out, look good, be who she fell in love with. Realize that she might not actually be the woman for you and make her pursue you instead. Try this.... the moment she realizes she doesn't have the same hold on you she'll act out, don't give in to it. But always treat her with love and respect.