[gyrator53]

Does she accept that it is a serious problem, not just for you but for both of you and, ultimately, your whole family? There are a number of medical conditions that can give rise to a reduced sex drive - has she been to the doctor to get this checked out?

[heatherh]

well lady i have not gone elsewhere yet,but if i dont feel something from my wife soon, well how long can a person put up with not having an intimate connection with their wife....its been way too long.as far as birth control she was on the pill for a while when i met her,and for a few more after. she was off it intermittently here and there. its been a year or so since she has not taken any birth control. i dont think its an issue though because it wasnt one in the first year and a half or so.?????????????????????????????????????/ i dont know what to do.hurry up,,,,dont touch me there,its gross, dont touch my breasts,it bothers me???????????????????????????????????????????????? ??????? how many years must a guy hear this before he actually does stray???? not that i am interested in anyone else,after all i am still deeply in love with the mother of my children...........any more ideas.....i'm begging,,,as usual lol

I know how you feel, my wife seemed to lose interest and I am gone a lot for work

[rwms498]

to answer your question gyrator,,no,she doesnt consider it a problem for her, she says she just doesnt like sex anymore...and that if it bothers me then thats my problem....

[rwms498]

heatherh, my wife is not cheeting on me,of that i am 99.99% sure.she wont leave our two kids long enough to go get laid.if i thought she was straying i would have left her long ago, but she isn't..

[C]

hi, can someone give me some advice ,or your opinion. i have been married to my lovely wife now for nine years.when we first met there was the usual fireworks.sex was great,oral ,giving and receiving.my wife would do it all the time and try different things.it has been nine years or so since that all changed.she has absolutely no interest in having sex with me,and theres no sign of that changing any time soon.i might sound selfish but its very frustrating to be shunned for years by the woman i love.ive tried every avenue i can think of and nothing changes.HELP???

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Try talking to her. Tell her you are tempted to cheat. Tell her other women are looking at you and a man needs what a man needs. Tell her to start masturbating again and find that hot inner woman that she used to be. We all learn how not to eat as much and she has learned how not to need sex enough or in some cases not at all.

[rwms498]

well C u sure can tell a story lol..i've told her i am tempted,told her its not a want but a need,tried everything so far that anyone has mentioned in these posts..seriously,,had 9 years to try em all and more,,and in those 9 years we had really good sex maybe five or six times.she wont touch herself,thinks its gross,doesn't want me touching her either,thinks its gross. she also says most of her girlfriends she speaks with dont really care for sex either,,which i hope is a lie. sometimes i wish i didn't have a conscience,or morals . its not easy.

[Fallen1]

well C u sure can tell a story lol..i've told her i am tempted,told her its not a want but a need,tried everything so far that anyone has mentioned in these posts..seriously,,had 9 years to try em all and more,,and in those 9 years we had really good sex maybe five or six times.she wont touch herself,thinks its gross,doesn't want me touching her either,thinks its gross. she also says most of her girlfriends she speaks with dont really care for sex either,,which i hope is a lie. sometimes i wish i didn't have a conscience,or morals . its not easy.

I just can't understand this. Maybe it's because I'm to the other extreme, I just can't get enough. I use a lot of self control to "behave".

[C]

well C u sure can tell a story lol..i've told her i am tempted,told her its not a want but a need,tried everything so far that anyone has mentioned in these posts..seriously,,had 9 years to try em all and more,,and in those 9 years we had really good sex maybe five or six times.she wont touch herself,thinks its gross,doesn't want me touching her either,thinks its gross. she also says most of her girlfriends she speaks with dont really care for sex either,,which i hope is a lie. sometimes i wish i didn't have a conscience,or morals . its not easy.

Actually rwms498, I was not trying to tell a story. I have since erased that post.. You missed everything that I was trying to tell you and instead I got a "LOL" reply. This I have no problem with as this is your problem. I will put it this way:

What she wanted was to stay madly in love. She wanted what once was, to still be there. She needed to be loved all the time and for you to keep that heat that once was there, to still be there. By letting this fade from her thoughts makes the inside of her change and that is where the lack of passion begins. It is nuturing that love for life between two people that is the secret to walking down the Yellow Brick Road. Missing something early in your relationship by both of you caused this to happen. She did not turn into a stick person overnight.......

[commonsense]

wife not interested

well C u sure can tell a story lol..i've told her i am tempted,told her its not a want but a need,tried everything so far that anyone has mentioned in these posts..seriously,,had 9 years to try em all and more,,and in those 9 years we had really good sex maybe five or six times.she wont touch herself,thinks its gross,doesn't want me touching her either,thinks its gross. she also says most of her girlfriends she speaks with dont really care for sex either,,which i hope is a lie. sometimes i wish i didn't have a conscience,or morals . its not easy.

She is either taking you for grant, too tired or interested in someone else. She is being unfair and selfish not to even try to get help/interested. Here is a test that will give you some answers: Stay out all night. You don't have to cheat just don't come home until the next morning. Tell her you just needed time to "think". If she doesn't want to loose you, she'll get her act together. Otherwise, I regret to say that she "likes you as a friend" but isn't in love with you anymore.

[rwms498]

thank you, common sense,it might be worth a try..although i will feel mighty guilty for doing that.i am afraid that she is not in love with me as you stated..i've asked her as much but she tells me she does love me.maybe she doesn't want to hurt me , i really don't know..