[atskitty2]

Time to say "next!". Move on from this guy...this is just unacceptable, regardless the reasons, and an indicator of many other problems likely outside the bedroom.

[jen1447]

The "move on" voices are all right, but something sounds odd here ....most guys with this sort of mentality (obviously he's in it only for himself) just want you to lay there while they have their fun. Participation is not mandatory. (Speaks to a rather pathetic level of sophistication, but oh well.) This guy tho wants you to 'perform' ....?

[Prettygirlsrock]

We live together, I been dating him for over two years, but living together for 3 months now, it's only the riding position, he always get mad and says I'm not doing it right, and pushes me off him, balls up his fist hits the bed, curses and then rolls over and ignore me and go to sleep. Am I the one to blame because I don't know what I'm doing when it comes to the riding position or what..I felt so bad about my self last night I couldn't sleep..I really do love him, I just don't know what to do.

[Prettygirlsrock]

23 we been dating for two years, and living together for three months, he is funny, and sweet and times, If I do everything right..

[jen1447]

I get the feeling you want us to tell you that he's really a good guy at heart and give you some instructions on how to be on top so he likes it ....I really doubt anyone is going to do that here, as we're all pretty strong feminists, or if not exactly that, we all feel pretty strongly about equality and fundamental human decency in relationships.

This guy has violated that pretty clearly and shows other rather serious warning signs, so I feel confident in saying the consensus recommendation stands - walk away, today, and don't look back.

[kira]

Woman on top positions tend not to be as directly stimulating to a guy, although it can be visually stimulating. It tends to please the woman more than the man. I've never had a partner who could finish in that position even though it's great for me. My husband finds it really hot though looking at my breasts and all the contractions from my enjoyment. When I'm done we always switch positions or just go to a hand job to finish him. It's probably nothing you are doing wrong if you are enjoying yourself. It probably just doesn't bring him along and he is too in to it for his own gains instead of helping you also receive enjoyment. The reaction also points to anger issues.

[DreamP346]

he is funny, and sweet and times, If I do everything right..

Classic abuser profile. Today he hits the bed. Tomorrow it will be you.

[atskitty2]

So he throws a tantrum like a child if it doesn't go his way?
And your last comment, something to the effect that things are OK, if YOU do everything right?

Sweetie, this relationship sounds abusive mentally and emotionally. I stand by my previous comment that you need to move on, without this loser.

I know that may be hard to hear, and you've invested time and energy into this man. But this isn't healthy and probably the best thing for you is to get away from him and spend a lot of time on YOU ALONE. Probably wouldn't hurt to seek out the help of a trusted friend and/or counseling.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

We live together, I been dating him for over two years, but living together for 3 months now, it's only the riding position, he always get mad and says I'm not doing it right, and pushes me off him, balls up his fist hits the bed, curses and then rolls over and ignore me and go to sleep. Am I the one to blame because I don't know what I'm doing when it comes to the riding position or what..I felt so bad about my self last night I couldn't sleep..I really do love him, I just don't know what to do.

Thanks for the added information Pretty. I'm sorry to ask, but are you suggesting that you "get everything right" usually and therefore things are fine BUT, just (and only at the moment because there will be something else), just this riding position you get wrong ?

pushes me off him, balls up his fist hits the bed, curses and then rolls over and ignore me and go to sleep

. I understand that you can't sleep, that you feel so bad, that you feel to blame, that you want to get this right too, then it's all good right? I want to ask you honestly. Do you ever get scared when he balls up his fist, hits the bed, curses?

[Fallen1]

I'm guessing that leaving him is not even a consideration? Just curious since just about every response you have gotten suggests this and you have not addressed it - it seems to be ignored. (Maybe I'm jumping the gun here and you're getting around to it )

I agree with sp346 in that this has the possibility to escalate to you being the abused and not the bed.