If it was a matter of you "not doing it right" he'd most likely say what he wanted done differently or change positions. But if he can't maintain his erection, he might feel like less than a man and lash out and blame you. The anger and cursing would be frustration at his own inability, not yours.
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Do you feel his erection softening before he gets mad? We're not really built to feel anger while aroused and being stimulated. That means he's probably ceased being aroused.
If it was a matter of you "not doing it right" he'd most likely say what he wanted done differently or change positions. But if he can't maintain his erection, he might feel like less than a man and lash out and blame you. The anger and cursing would be frustration at his own inability, not yours."Those sowing seed with tears
Will reap with a joyful shout." - Psalm 126 -
Pretty, there is no "right way" to do girl on top. Each person likes it different. It depends on the couple involved, what they want and what type of sensations they enjoy. We can't really give you advice on how to do it "right." Your partner is the one who needs to figure out what he wants and see if you can do it that way. There is no guarantee that the sensation he is looking for can be achieved in this position, even if he got it from a previous partner. Each person is different.
The problem with people like your partner is that you will never be able to "get it right." Usually people like that blame their own shortcomings on other people. You may try all you like to "get it right" but even if you are finally able to achieve the sensation he is seeking, most likely he will then blame you for taking so long to get it or some other excuse.Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)Comment
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Oh my gosh, I see all the red flags cover the sky....
Prettygirl, you didn't give us details so we might not be the best judges, but suppose a snake bites you and you're bleeding, will you say "I can't just walk away from the snake and stop this bleeding because I'm waiting for this snake to make me feel good?" Your investment seems to be down the drain, and this snake is abusing you, I'll suggest you leave before you bleed too much away...
Seek help. Right now.Comment
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"financially invested" can mean many things. She may be in debt and needs his money - in that case LEAVE. Declare bankruptcy if you need to, but getting ever more closely tied to an abuser is never the right choice.
She may be a gold digger waiting to collect an enormous payout. In that case its her choice as to what sort of behavior she will tolerate for the money.
There could be many other situations. Maybe she can explain.
That aside different people like different things in sex. I'm one of the guys who really enjoys woman-on-top, its one of my favorites. As with giving oral, it allows the woman a lot of range of behaviors: Is she doing the work to please her man? Is she just doing what feels good to her (which can be very hot for the guy as well). Gentle? Aggressive / dominant?Comment
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"financially invested" can mean many things. She may be in debt and needs his money - in that case LEAVE. Declare bankruptcy if you need to, but getting ever more closely tied to an abuser is never the right choice.
She may be a gold digger waiting to collect an enormous payout. In that case its her choice as to what sort of behavior she will tolerate for the money.
Ha. I thought of this as a possibility
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