[ItsASecret]

I'm not sure why a lot of the posts in this thread have sexual diseases as a theme. I've seen threads that don't have sexual disease posts at all when discussing dating behavior. Such as:

a_dub made direct mention about him thinking she was clean and having unprotected sex as well as the mention of not really caring if something did get caught. When someone mentions STDs there will be responses to such comments. If someone is not mentioning things about catching diseases then it is less likely that it will be mentioned, even if it should. STDs are not a shrug of the shoulder matter, they are more prevalent than one would think. It should come across people's minds especially when unprotected sex comes into play.

[atskitty2]

Yeah, he brought it up so I commented. And to remind y'all, I'm one of those ladies with an incurable std, that has never been promiscuous or anything close to it. So, I am all for educating, as his comments clearly indicate his misconceptions-misconceptions that could be harmful for him. Otherwise, you're right, I probably wouldn't get preachy. .

[CHANDLERS WISH]

My dear boy, even if it was a rebound, she had sex with you again.. You said there was an attraction and obviously for her too.

Forget the 6 years Welcome to finding someone you like, chemistry wise.

Erm you are into porn right? That is why as you have learnt to do it for yourself for so long that you have to give it up when you mesh with a woman for real, as in long term.. Or now if you date her again and why wouldn't you?

First time I've ever had sex with someone I was actually attracted to.

[a_dub]

a_dub, are you looking forward to a second (maybe it should be considered a first) date? If you are, will you be starting to find out if you two have common interests? Have you two talked since?

First off I asked my friend who said she MUST be clean. But I also asked her before we jumped in the sack and she said she didn't have anything as far as she knew. You gotta trust someone at some point, right? I mean married couples have to have some sort of trust otherwise how does the human race keep reproducing if everyone always wore rubbers?? She asked about me and I told her most priests have seen more action than me so apart from a few cases of [fully cured] oneitis, I've never had a sexually transmitted disease.

Jns, thanks for asking, homie. I have not spoken to her since the encounter. I wouldn't mind a second date at all, in fact I'll drop her a text thursday and see what she's going on over the weekend. Definitely don't want to overpursue, especially as I am not sure if I was just a rebound thing for her to see if she still "got it" cuz you know after a long term relationship - she was engaged as far as I heard - most people's games drop off the planet, lol. Ahh the ironies of life...

I definitely would give her a chance to replace porn. I never thought I'd live to see the day I'd say porn is second rate, but it is. Granted, its still a pretty darn good substitute, IMO. So in the [rather likely] event that she's not interested in taking things any further, I've got dates with Sunny Leone, Veronica da Souza, and Breanne Benson lined up, haha. If we do start going out, I hope she's one of those cool girls who is ok with letting me watch porn during her periods or when she can't or won't have sex.

[a_dub]

So I texted her last night to see if she wanted to hang out this weekend. She texts me this morning asking why I took so long to contact her and why I didn't call her earlier. Seriously? Anyways, after 6 years in the doghouse, I'm willing to put up with some ish in order to get some so I apologized and we're sposed to be hanging out this weekend.

She's lucky she's hot, otherwise I woulda dropped her for acting like such a girl.

[catwoman]

Perhaps she acts like a girl because... GASP!...she is a girl. You should be happy she was looking forward to your call. It sounds like your goal with this woman is to just get laid, just be careful because since she's newly single she's probably will fall quickly and hard. I know when I got out of a 4-year and I met my now husband, the thrill of someone new and the idea of exploring a new person was so intense that it would have really sucked if he walked away from me with with only intentions to have sex. Then again, maybe that's all she wants too. I'm sure you'll find out on your date this weekend. Good Luck.

[KMonte85]

She texts me this morning asking why I took so long to contact her and why I didn't call her earlier. Seriously? . . . She's lucky she's hot, otherwise I woulda dropped her for acting like such a girl.

Dude. Seriously? You should take that as a compliment! She wanted to hear from you SOONER! And your response was, "she's lucky she's hot and I've had a 6 year dry spell or she'd be gone"... for acting like a girl, who wanted to spend time with you? What the?

Yikes, man... Hope you were joking. If not, it's no wonder it's been so long... hmm.

Glad you finally got some, though! Solid work. Hope it works out well for you both

[a_dub]

I didn't mean it THAT way, per se. What I meant was women are so difficult to figure out. If I called her the day after, I'd have been "desperate" and blown it. As it is I waited a few days, and I'm "cold and distant". There's just no winning with ya'll is there? There should be some award for men for putting up with that, lol!

[Stillness]

There should be some award for men for putting up with that, lol!

There is. It's called a woman.

[kdc]

I didn't mean it THAT way, per se. What I meant was women are so difficult to figure out. If I called her the day after, I'd have been "desperate" and blown it. As it is I waited a few days, and I'm "cold and distant". There's just no winning with ya'll is there? There should be some award for men for putting up with that, lol!

You boys ain't exactly easy to figure out, either . But once you've seen a girl nekkid, I think you should probably forget about those head games and trying to appear aloof and hard to get. ;-)