[darthfavre]

I am a new poster who could use some advice from a women's perspective. I have been married for 10 years and together for 12.

One of the things I would like to experience is to ejaculate in her mouth without a condom. She does let me finish in her mouth, but only with a condom. I don't care if she would spit or swallow.

She doesn't do it because she is afraid of throwing up. Her issues are texture (too thick and sticky) and how it feels in her mouth when I orgasm.

She knows this is a fantasy of mine and feels bad about not being able to do this for me. She has even joked about finding someone to do this for me.

This isn't an option for me for many reason, especially since she is the only one I want to share this intimate experience with (while I had sex with other partners, she is the only one I ever finished in without a condom and that wasnt until we were married).

Are there any techniques to address her concerns? Or, am I out of line for trying to convince her? Sorry for the length and thanks in advance

[rcoreyus]

Its a common fantasy / fetish, and unfortunately there are a fair number of women who are not willing to do it. Is there anything she wants that you are not willing to do?

Has she ever tried doing this?

Its sort of sad, because something like this can grow all out of proportion in your mind. The thing you can't have becomes the thing you most want. I generally think that within reason, people should do everything they can to satisfy their partner's sexual desires.

[Trixareforkids]

I'm all about texture and smell (and of course taste), I'm a pretty picky eater because of those things. I also have a really bad gag reaction (I just know my dentist and dental tech hate me ) and I still say that this is something that can be done because I do it on occasion. A pretty accurate way to gauge how it'll be for her is if she can tolerate swishing an oyster around in her mouth for a few seconds. The act itself has to be about the intimacy inherent in the giving and receiving. It's good to have a glass of water and a spit rag standing by, though even with my gag reaction I find it easier just to swallow. If you're willing to tell her you've been on here seeking advice, tell her I said if it's really just fear of the taste/smell/texture and not a problem with the act itself (which some women do have) then I really suggest she go for it AND even if the 1st time feels completely nasty to her, to try it a second time because the 1st time is always a bit shocking since you don't know what to expect.

Good luck!

[jen1447]

I'm gonna go ahead and disagree (just to stir the pot! lol). Do you really want your partner to do sexual favors for you that will make her vomit? I think this actually crosses over to the other side bearing the responsibility to cooperate and respect her feelings in that what you're asking is too much. Not everybody feels that way about semen, but for people who do, it's just disgusting. Imagine asking your beloved who hates shellfish to eat an oyster for your sake and then throw it up afterward because it would make you happy ....

[rcoreyus]

Depends on whether "makes her vomit" is literally true, or just means she doesn't like it much. It sounded from the description like she hadn't tried.

I happen to really enjoy getting BJs, and my wife really doesn't like doing them. She'll do it once a year for my birthday. There is no obvious sign of distress, she rinses her mouth when she is done, then I go ahead and do nice things for her. You are right that if she vomited, or gagged badly or something that would be different, but this seems like a a cased of dislike, not some horrible reaction.

I give her long back rubs, and sometimes do various intimate things with my fingers that can leave me with sore muscles. I'm happy to do it, only requested that we do some things less often because they were causing longer term joint problems. Right now I'm spending 15 minutes a day doing throat exercises that are supposed to reduce the amount I snore because it sometimes keeps her awake.

Its all a matter of degree as to what one should or shouldn't do for their partner.

[jen1447]

You are right that if she vomited, or gagged badly or something that would be different, but this seems like a a cased of dislike, not some horrible reaction.

She doesn't do it because she is afraid of throwing up.

Sounds significant, which I assume it is because ....she told him it was. Also you having sore muscles doesn't really compare to nausea and vomiting.

[kdc]

. . . Right now I'm spending 15 minutes a day doing throat exercises that are supposed to reduce the amount I snore because it sometimes keeps her awake. . . .

My pulmonologist told me that you don't have to snore to have sleep apnea but that, if you do snore, chances are that you do have it. I would highly recommend you get tested. It could save your life.

[darthfavre]

Thanks for the responses. I appreciate the feedback.

To answer a question, no she has never tried it. The vomiting is a hypothetical reaction that has been brought up as a concern.

[Sonny]

I am a new poster who could use some advice from a women's perspective. I have been married for 10 years and together for 12. One of the things I would like to experience is to ejaculate in her mouth without a condom. She does let me finish in her mouth, but only with a condom. I don't care if she would spit or swallow. She doesn't do it because she is afraid of throwing up. Her issues are texture (too thick and sticky) and how it feels in her mouth when I orgasm. She knows this is a fantasy of mine and feels bad about not being able to do this for me. She has even joked about finding someone to do this for me. This isn't an option for me for many reason, especially since she is the only one I want to share this intimate experience with (while I had sex with other partners, she is the only one I ever finished in without a condom and that wasnt until we were married). Are there any techniques to address her concerns? Or, am I out of line for trying to convince her? Sorry for the length and thanks in advance

Yes, I think you are out of line.

Whatever your (neurotic?) obsessions, no means no even in marriage.

Surely you have other fantasies she may be willing and able to accommodate.

[Justice]

I cannot seem to get how to multi-quote?
I was going to quote trixareforkids as well as jen

Sounds significant, which I assume it is because ....she told him it was. Also you having sore muscles doesn't really compare to nausea and vomiting.

Exactly. especially the second part. I normally agree with some of the regular guy posters but this just irritates me a bunch.

I think I've posted that I have emetophobia AND have a very small mouth and a gag reflex. (My dentist has to use a kids tray when I have had to have impressions and even that is sheer torture for me. ) I also have sinus issues and often have to breath through my mouth and cannot hold my mouth open for dental procedures when I cannot swallow because I cannot partially close my mouth.


Guys you cannot compare licking your woman's body parts with having your mouth stretched and filled, and then having semen/fluid which you might or might not like the texture or taste shoot into your mouth / at your uvula/throat.

I'd be than willing to lick, kiss, use my tongue or lips on his penis etc. But that is not the same as having a relatively large object feeling like it will suffocate or gag you. (how romantic or sexy to be wanting your woman to have to fight throwing up on you. )

I have heard some gals refer to some guys semen like "snots" -" honey if you loved me you'd let me,,,,,,,,,"
There are a lot of these "honey if you loved me you'd...... " I am not talking about more typical straight intercourse - or what ever acts you BOTH agree on. But the desire to pressure your partner to do something they tell you they find nauseating or disgusting or painful. Just no.

And great she fear throwing up on you - and because she hasn't YET - you dismiss her concerns? not nice