[Justice]

Women are human beings, just like you. Treat her like you want to be treated.

She might not even want what you and the others are thinking she wants. If being on these boards has taught you anything, is that their views, desires, and outlooks are as varied as ours. She could be just trying to get clarity.

Very good points.

My assumption about women (or I guess) willing to "do" a(n almost) stranger, would be that she WAS willing to not require a commitment. (sorry to those other posters here who think stranger, one time time hook-ups are "cool" but I am not a fan)

In this case -
"Where do you see us going?"
might not be that she wants a commitment (and based on what has transpired so far, that would seem like a possibility) ...couldn't she be wanting to know whether HE wants one. I could see it within the realm of possibilities. I don't think wanting to be exclusive - at least semi-exclusive - as far as sexual partners means that someone is thinking marriage and babies. It may be a safe-sex thing.
Her take can be different than anyone's here.

I'd want the sexual relationship to be pretty exclusive (and hopefully make it worthwhile) - safe(r) sex- but am not even thinking about living together or marriage.

I agree with all the posts that say Think about it and have that discussion.

[jns]

a-dub, find out from her on how fast she wants things to move forward. She may want things to move fast, then again she may want things to move slow. I think your dread stems from uncertainty about her possibly wanting things to move faster than you are comfortable with. She may be amenable to a schedule that fits you. She may also be wanting to have enough certainty about the relationship to introduce you as her bf. You have to talk with her to find out what her thoughts about this are.

[a_dub]

Thanks for all the words of wisdom ladies and gents.

So just for the record, its normal for people to explicitly talk about "where is this relationship going"? Weird, I always just figured that was a saying and that no one actually discussed it that explicitly. I thought that people just kind of "realized" they were a couple and started calling each other their BF/GF.

Anyways so she came over and we talked today. She's asleep now. She's aware I've never been in a relationship and was quite understanding about my anxiety. Turns out she does want some form of committment. She's not ready to get married or anything but she wants this to be "official". When I asked what that meant she explained that she wanted to be exclusive. I realized that I might as well give this a shot and see where it goes so I said OK. I mean, I'm darn lucky to have managed to somehow get a girl like her. I told her so, and she just smiled and hugged me.

So I guess that I'm a boyfriend for the first time ever in life. Kinda nervous and excited about this. Perhaps I might be suited to something more than just jerking off to porn, haha!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

HAHA on the last note. Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Whoo hoo.

A new chapter of your life begins

[jns]

I echo what CW said. Many of these things require baby steps, not leaps. Congratulations on your first official relationship.

[Trixareforkids]

Congrats! Glad it went well.