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Well my approach from the last time i posted was not giving him anything... i know that sounds cold, but i had to show him that if he wants it he has to "be nice, respectful to get it". So for awhile he just stopped trying or would say something like "why bother even asking, i know what the answer will be". Till one day he was asking (he works nights, 11pm) about 9 ish "please" so I said "when a bubble bath is drawn with a glass of wine beside it, sure"!. So he did it, and i relaxed in the tub, and it was very nice.... when i got out of the tub to go to the bedroom, he had lit candles all over. (wow, was i ever in shock) Then he had massage oil and gave me a massage to start off the foreplay..... Huh, who woulda thought he had that in him!!! ..... well now that I know he has somewhat of romance in him, I hope he can keep it up! The next time, he drew me a bath and i gave him a massage...

Looks like your standing up for yourself is working. Continue to let him know the things you like and don't like. Maybe it will all work out.