[C]

I thought you had things to do?

If you want to insult me, don't bother. You have your opinions, I have mine.

I'm 22. If that's a child to you, great, so's everyone else here most likely.

Most of the people here are younger but your attitude toward women sucks. You don't know what you are talking about. You think you know everything when in reality you know nothing. You are pompous and full of self importance. Yes, I have things to do but meeting the real you was more important than what I was doing. Many women and men at your age have grown and matured but your attitude is probably the reason that you are at this Forum posting. A confident man with no sexual hang up's would not be sitting at a Forum on Christmas Day talking about sex. Me, I am between the Forum and Germany, having some fun.

For your information I had 12 years of parochial school so sexually this poses no hang up's. It is all in growing and learning yourself as a woman. You think you know everything as a man about women and that is a dangerous thing to think. You cannot force happiness in pleasure. It is in the eyes of the one you love and not to be talked out about what to do next. Either you feel it or you don't. Now I have given you another lesson in life......Honey, no more lessons for today......I have to get out of here and this time I am staying.....

Merry Christmas....

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Here you go with the assumptions again. You can think what you want. As for the christmas day comment, I celebrate a scandinavian Christmas, which is on Christmas Eve, so christmas day is basically just another bank holiday. What's your excuse? LOL


I never said or even implied that I know how women feel about stuff, in fact most of the reason that I'm here is to learn - and to teach you how mens mind's works, since most of you haven't even the faintest idea. When people say things, of course it is THEIR OPINION. It's the same with everything everyone says, unless explicitly stated otherwise.

You are so excited about attacking me that it's almost funny. If it wasn't quite so sad.

As for what you were winging about a while ago, and insinuating:

You cannot even understand that a woman cannot respond to you sexually with passion unless she is in love with you.

My partner tells me she loves me almost every day.



So, basically, GROW UP. Just because your stuck in your ways doesn't mean you've got to attack the people that aren't. Just because people don't agree with you or you with them, you don't need to attack.

Take a chill pill with your heart medication this time :P

[C]

Here you go with the assumptions again. You can think what you want. As for the christmas day comment, I celebrate a scandinavian Christmas, which is on Christmas Eve, so christmas day is basically just another bank holiday. What's your excuse? LOL


I never said or even implied that I know how women feel about stuff, in fact most of the reason that I'm here is to learn - and to teach you how mens mind's works, since most of you haven't even the faintest idea. When people say things, of course it is THEIR OPINION. It's the same with everything everyone says, unless explicitly stated otherwise.

You are so excited about attacking me that it's almost funny. If it wasn't quite so sad.

As for what you were winging about a while ago, and insinuating:



My partner tells me she loves me almost every day.



So, basically, GROW UP. Just because your stuck in your ways doesn't mean you've got to attack the people that aren't. Just because people don't agree with you or you with them, you don't need to attack.

Take a chill pill with your heart medication this time :P

How dare you refer to my age....This I promise you I will report immediately...

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Meh, you reffered to mine enough.

Don't throw stones if you live in a greenhouse

[ChelseaRenee]

As an outsider, anonymousehousewife, CarolineWH is right. You tend to have this high and mighty way of explaining your opinion and passing it off as fact- meaning, you tend to insinuate that your opinion is one held by most males, which, considering you don't know most males in the world, is a ****** thing to do.

Heart medication comment, uncalled for. But, she did call you a child so I guess calling her "old" isn't any different? Either way, merry christmas everyone.

[rcoreyus]

I would have to say that vanilla is a fairly good description of where I am. Don't get me wrong though I'm not the lights off missionary only type. I am experimental to a point but within reason. As for toys, the few times they have been in the mix they have never added anything to the experience, at least not for me. Guess this might sound kind of dull to most but I love my guy and just being with him is very exciting to me.

(trying to get back on track)
Remember the old joke about how everyone who drives faster than you is a maniac, and everyone who drives slower is an idiot.

I think different people have very different ideas of what constitutes kinky - the poll may not tell a lot. (though it will be interesting to see).

Personally I think sex should be enthusiastic and fun. That can be 2 people in a candle-lit room. It can be tying someone's hands to the headboard of the bed and going down on them while they try to resist orgasm as long as they can. Is that kinky?

Maybe it is just a state of mind - its kinky if you think it is - and in that sense the results of the poll might be interesting.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

In terms of explaining a little, and with no intention of further derailing what should be a very interesting thread: When there is an issue of many women not really grasping what I see as the fundamentals of the male psyche, I try to get them to see an actual male perspective, and one that would be shared by most (young) men that I know. I don't write "in my opinion" before everything I write, as of course everything I write is my opinion. When a woman is saying something wrong about male nature, I will tell them that I think they're wrong - surely that's for the best.

I think a few ladies around here are still angry with me from old pornography threads, where there was practically no effort made to consider the male thought process whatsoever, so I had to persuade strongly.

Oh, and for the record, a lot of stressed individuals take heart meds, not just old.

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Now, as far as this thread goes:

What I said about christian (or indeed any religion) that basically labels sex as a sin, there is going to be an ingrained sense of guilt when the act comes to fruition. This is also true for an over protective mother or father. I remember even reading some psychological stuff to the same end, so this idea is not completely unfounded, nor my made up all-encompassing tidbit of wisdom.

Having the "choice" of sex taken from you (even in an unreal way), allows one to flee the stigma of their oppressive upbringing, enjoying the physical without some part of yourself telling yourself off. You can still be a "good girl" whilst doing something bad.

Obviously this doesn't mean that if you went to a christian school you have a 100% chance of loving bondage. It's a subtle trend.

[Little]

(trying to get back on track)

Thanks ... thread-jacking is a freakin' crime, I swear. You both (Anon and Caroline) should be ashamed of yourselves. Regardless of your respective ages, you're acting like babies. I'm putting away the claws on all non-forum-etiquette-related issues, and I'm sorry I ever brought them out in anyone else's defence.

I'm glad to hear that other people are generally more into the plainer sorts of sex. Penetrative sex is less than a year old for me, but I have to say that I just can't get enough ... with my boyfriend, anyways. My previous partner and I just didn't have the connection, I guess.
My experience is that without love, sex isn't much. But my experience isn't much either. I wouldn't want sex any other way than I have it now, though I crave it sometimes when he's away. I bought a toy, supposed to be the "best" G-spot finder. It's shaped like a dolphin.
For one thing, it's too freakin' big. For another, that dolphin nose, which is great for clit stimulation, just hurts for deep insertion.
But regardless of those issues, it's just not the same. Penetration from my partner, at any angle, sets my whole body aflame ... penetration during masturbation has all the sensation of using a Q-tip on my ears.
Has anybody had sex that was better OUT of love?

[Fallen1]

My experience is that without love, sex isn't much. But my experience isn't much either.

I don't have what people would call much experience either. There have been a couple of people that I have had sex with where love wasn't involved and to me it is just not the same. I was just going through the act, no emotion involved, no "connection". If it makes any sense I kind of felt empty inside. So I would agree, sex without love isn't much.

[rcoreyus]

Thanks ... thread-jacking is a freakin' crime, I swear. You both (Anon and Caroline) should be ashamed of yourselves. Regardless of your respective ages, you're acting like babies. I'm putting away the claws on all non-forum-etiquette-related issues, and I'm sorry I ever brought them out in anyone else's defence.

I'm glad to hear that other people are generally more into the plainer sorts of sex. Penetrative sex is less than a year old for me, but I have to say that I just can't get enough ... with my boyfriend, anyways. My previous partner and I just didn't have the connection, I guess.
My experience is that without love, sex isn't much. But my experience isn't much either. I wouldn't want sex any other way than I have it now, though I crave it sometimes when he's away. I bought a toy, supposed to be the "best" G-spot finder. It's shaped like a dolphin.
For one thing, it's too freakin' big. For another, that dolphin nose, which is great for clit stimulation, just hurts for deep insertion.
But regardless of those issues, it's just not the same. Penetration from my partner, at any angle, sets my whole body aflame ... penetration during masturbation has all the sensation of using a Q-tip on my ears.
Has anybody had sex that was better OUT of love?

There are a wide (and narrow ) variety of toys, and they can also be used with partners. Humans do come with a lot of nice built-in parts, but toys can add some variety. Also, if the man finishes first, penetrative sex may be out for a while - but he could continue to stimulate you with a toy.

Other forms of kinky, like bondage, or spanking can be fun as well.

I wonder if people become more interested in "kinky" as they get older - just looking for new things to do?

As far as I'm concerned, anything both partners enjoy is great. I like variety, though at this point I'd be happy with anything.