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  • Patti-here
    Banned
    • Mar 2014
    • 2602

    Submissive or Dominant .

    I would imagine that in one way or the other we all have a role in our relationships, in mine I’m the submissive one and my G/F is my dominant figure, I think we were born to be the way we are, but I could be wrong.
    Maybe we should be equals ? I’m not sure,, I’m not looking for advice, I can’t change the way I am I’ve tried, it just doesn’t work for me.. I am who and what I am..

    What I am looking for is opinions on the matter..

    Thank you.
  • Something_Awesome
    Veteran Member
    • Apr 2014
    • 1219

    In bed I like being submissive! But I can be dominant with my GF, so we can at least mix it up a bit. Outside of bed I am generally leading, though I wouldn't mind for her to take the reins (but she doesn't have it in her).

    There was a lot more I wanted to say but I forgot, and I am in a rush so that doesn't help. I will be back!
    "Are you serious? You're bleeping THAT girl?" - jen1447

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    • Patti-here
      Banned
      • Mar 2014
      • 2602

      Originally posted by Something_Awesome
      In bed I like being submissive! But I can be dominant with my GF, so we can at least mix it up a bit. Outside of bed I am generally leading, though I wouldn't mind for her to take the reins (but she doesn't have it in her).

      There was a lot more I wanted to say but I forgot, and I am in a rush so that doesn't help. I will be back!
      LOL Something,, well at least you know your place in the bedroom

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      • rcoreyus
        Veteran Member
        • Sep 2007
        • 4369

        I think that how people are in bed, and how they behave in the rest of their relationship may be different.

        I'm happy to be either dominant or submissive in bed. My wife really doesn't like either much.

        In the rest of our relationship I wind up being more submissive, mostly because I'm easy-going enough to be happy with lots of things. At work I am a PITA.

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        • chaya
          Veteran Member
          • Sep 2010
          • 1819

          I've been both ways with my husband, both dominant and submissive. With a female friend, I am totally submissive.
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          Not thinking about anything is Zen. Once you know this, walking, sitting, or lying down, everything you do is Zen.
          ― Bodhidharma

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          • Patti-here
            Banned
            • Mar 2014
            • 2602

            Originally posted by chaya
            I've been both ways with my husband, both dominant and submissive. With a female friend, I am totally submissive.
            Thank you Chaya, I thought you would be with another female...

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            • Something_Awesome
              Veteran Member
              • Apr 2014
              • 1219

              Originally posted by Patti-here
              LOL Something,, well at least you know your place in the bedroom
              I was never conscious of the submissive or dominant roles with prior partners. Before we ever did it she whispered in my ear that she wanted to dominate me in bed (using more explicit and suggestive language). It was so unexpected (in multiple ways). We were in public and I just wasn't prepared for that. She had me at that point. I turned into mush!
              "Are you serious? You're bleeping THAT girl?" - jen1447

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              • atskitty2
                Assistant Admin
                • Aug 2013
                • 4467

                I am more submissive in bed generally speaking. I love to play the dominant one when role-playing on occasion, and take charge of things, but I like a strong man to "put me in my place". I tend to be a strong personality outside the boudoir, tho. And I do like a strong man by my side then too, but I'm less willing to let him control the pace and all decisions outside the sexual realm. I do ask for what I like and say what I don't want, but I don't think that's unsubmissive.

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                • Stillness
                  WH Poster of the Month April 2017
                  • Feb 2012
                  • 3679

                  Neither of us are either dominant or submissive. We're equals. We're Christians, so I lead. We make decisions together though and generally move without much fuss from either of us. We're both easy-going.
                  "Those sowing seed with tears
                  Will reap with a joyful shout." - Psalm 126

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                  • Patti-here
                    Banned
                    • Mar 2014
                    • 2602

                    We're both pretty easy going too, unless I misbehave, which can do a lot.

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