[Patti-here]

Tell you what S.A.

[Something_Awesome]

It speaks volumes? What does the question mark speak?

[Patti-here]

After "of course" you put a question mark, that lead me to believe there may be doubt, if he would want to participate.

[Something_Awesome]

I think that you think that a guy would be filled with uncontrollable lust. I'm sorry to disappoint you Patti, but I'd have no problems "resisting" and I don't see why he would have no problems as well.

Between watching two women or being with two women, I'd choose the former.

[Patti-here]

That's good to here S.A. myself, I've never found a man I could trust enough to have sex with my G/F in front of.

[jns]

I think that there are a lot of men like SA who would agree to just watch and abide by that agreement unless it was altered during the act. Of course they would like it altered and may even ask or plead to have it altered, so a proper agreement would include not speaking about what they are seeing. With that much priming of the pump, if the guy had his time with one of the ladies after, he would most likely last seconds instead of minutes. Maybe put in a clause for him not to masturbate or give himself any stimulation such as squirming in his seat so he doesn't go off prematurely. Of course there are guys that are untrustworthy, but a lot of guys would be honorable and not go against the agreement.

[jen1447]

I've done that for BF before, with similar rules. It's not really for punishment play or anything, we just find a guy jerking off in the corner distracting in a negative way. Plus there's actually more dignity for the guy in just watching - he gets to hang onto some sense of decorum, which is important in that context because it's not about him sexually and any acting up on his part will have a distinct fifth wheel feel to it.

Anyway it can be done, but the control is probably more about the rules than his self control. If he's 'not allowed,' it's generally not an issue to begin with. I do think Patti has a point tho that if you just randomly put random guy in a room with two women who were getting it on, he would have trouble controlling himself.

[JonDoe]

I do think Patti has a point tho that if you just randomly put random guy in a room with two women who were getting it on, he would have trouble controlling himself.

I disagree. I think there are unspoken assumptions at play.

Perhaps you are assuming he also finds these two women attractive, but what if he doesn't find them attractive?

What about the guys that are turned off by performing oral sex on women? Would these guys also have troubling controlling themselves or would they be totally turned off by it?

Perhaps you also assume that guys have no self control.

[jen1447]

Well obviously there are all sorts of particulars that would determine the outcome in specific instances lol, as opposed to the deliberately generic scenario I described. Do I really have to qualify them all? My assertion is not that any and all random guys pulled off the street would be unable to control themselves, but that chances are good some would be unable to, which would validate Patti's point that it's a distinct risk in general.

It sounds like she's entertaining the possibility of having an audience, so practical advice is pretty significant.

[Something_Awesome]

Go for it Patti! Have your GF keep her piece under the pillow

I want to be watched with my GF, but she doesn't want to be watched

The only rule I would say is he has to forfeit his phone! Take that crap away so he can't put you on the net! He might film without you knowing!