[jen1447]

It's amazing how the butt/gay association persists for men ....women have buttholes just like men, is it 'gay' for women to have anal sex? If it's all just down to switching the penetrative roles, people need to just get over it already. Fact - a man and a woman doing sex stuff together is not gay.

I'm puzzled too by how you seem so offended by fisting and yet you may want to do it again? I understand we don't always pick our appetites, but if you feel like a fan to some extent, it really is incumbent upon you to be less judgmental about it in others.

Lastly I agree that he's no newbie to fisting, whatever implications that might have. Bums are pretty elastic but you don't just wake up one day and back a semi in there. It's very very likely he has lots of experience with it, but again it doesn't mean he's automatically doing it with gay men. Could be he's got a woman doing that to him or he's doing it himself.

[Motorguy]

Thank you for answers, calling inserting half of hand into my man's body a little kinky, I think it is perversion. I mean I have been searching on Google and I have not found any young straight man who can insert so big objects. Usually those people are gays or old perverts. My husband is only 25 and I know him from school, I never knew that he can do something like that. I am not an expert but my hand went inside easy without tension, on other forum users said that he is gay for sure, but hiding it from me. Also they told me that I think that i liked so much to put my hand inside him and to see him eating his juice, because it is shocking for me and and it is not normal.
I do not know I have had very little experience with other man, so I do know why I feel so bad, but I do not think that normal couples will do it, do they ? How to get rid of my strange thoughts? I have tried to insert a finger into my bum and it is very tight and was not very pleasant, how he could do that with my hand ? He is very young for that

Well your husband probably been enjoying many years inserting items in his anus probably. This for sure something he probably been hiding from you. But does not prove he is gay by eating his own sperm or taking your whole hand. You finally found his big kink in life sexually. It sounds like you very disturb by all of this.I can only say have a chat with husband and point blank ask him is he gay what the worse can it be he is or not. Do you love him if so then what is the problem it's something you can add to your sexually pleasure behind closed doors good luck.

[rcoreyus]

Kinky but not gay. MUCH more likely he has been doing anal play himself rather than with other men or women. (yes, men use sex toys too....) Also, women's hands are a lot smaller than men's, so it isn't such a stretch (pun intended) for that to have worked for him. Anything you both enjoy is fine. Also if there is anything at all sexual you want, that you have been embarrassed to talk about, here is your chance. Now that you know his kink, you can comfortably tell him what you like.

As Jen said - its only gay if he is doing it with another man.

[jennypenny]

How do you know that?

I am just curious because you were drunk and he was drunk yet you can recall how it entered but then in your post you can't remember .

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To be honest I am not sure now, how much I remembered, how much I imagine this all discussion a bit problematic for me, I tend to not to discuss sex a lot, but now I feel that I need to talk talk talk about what happened to me.

[jennypenny]

Thank you all for your advises and comments, it sounds from your comments here that what happened to me is kinky, but absolutely normal, regular staff. Do not mind me asking how old are you people? Maybe I feel so bad, because of my age and luck of experience. I am scared to talk to him about it, I am scared to analyse my feeling deeper, I do not want to find out that I really enjoyed that experience, even my head and norms saying I should not like it, it is wrong. Sex subject has been always banned in my family.

[bubba29]

Thank you all for your advises and comments, it sounds from your comments here that what happened to me is kinky, but absolutely normal, regular staff. Do not mind me asking how old are you people? Maybe I feel so bad, because of my age and luck of experience. I am scared to talk to him about it, I am scared to analyse my feeling deeper, I do not want to find out that I really enjoyed that experience, even my head and norms saying I should not like it, it is wrong. Sex subject has been always banned in my family.

first off, yes it is very kinky and in general compared against the the average population it is not normal/regular stuff. remember though you are on an anonymous message board talking about sex. some kinky, open minded people are the participants. many of us equate "regular" with average. who wants to be average? if you enjoyed it, throw out your inhibitions and hang ups. it is pleasure between you and your hubby. no one you know needs to know about it. communication is the key to a strong relationship. communicate with your man and see what he thought about that night.

[Something_Awesome]

I'd be careful SA. Jen might send this to SAGF and she could take that as a challenge.

Yea, that would be my worst nightmare. I actually pictured her doing it while reading the original post. I visualize what I read all the time. I also imagined her trying to grab on to stuff while in there! I didn't mean to take it there though, my mind was just feeling bold.

Lmao at backing a semi in there.

[Motorguy]

Thank you all for your advises and comments, it sounds from your comments here that what happened to me is kinky, but absolutely normal, regular staff. Do not mind me asking how old are you people? Maybe I feel so bad, because of my age and luck of experience. I am scared to talk to him about it, I am scared to analyse my feeling deeper, I do not want to find out that I really enjoyed that experience, even my head and norms saying I should not like it, it is wrong. Sex subject has been always banned in my family.

Well first of all Jenny no need to discuss with your family if this bug you just talk with your husband about it. I think he will discuss with you. It seem you may have enjoy this kinky bedroom sex and not sure how to discuss it with your husband to do it again. If I am wrong feel free to tell me but I see nothing wrong what's going on you both are adults married nothing to be ashamed of i see no problem.Good luck Jenny.

[rcoreyus]

People are all ages here, men and women. I'm a man in my 50s, married for over 25 years. I'm not particularly kinky myself but have some kinky friends.

There is a phase "safe, sane consensual" that I think applies well to all sexual activity. If it meets those requirements then if you enjoy it, its fine.

Safe - means anything that isn't likely to cause injury. What you were doing is fine, though it might be a good idea to read up a bit to avoid accidentally hurting him.

Sane - that just means that you shouldn't take advantage of a disturbed person. You are not - its something he (and probably) you enjoyed. Men generally get physical enjoyment from prostate stimulation, so there is nothing strange about him enjoying it. (even if its something many men won' try).

Consensual - something you both are willing to do. He clearly is. If you are OK doing it, then there is nothing wrong.

I think that now that you've seen his kinky side its time to talk and find out what other things he and you would like to try.

[effy2014]

I am 55, divorced, but have been happily with my girlfriend for the past 5 years. We are comfortable sexually experimenting with what makes both of us feel good.

Never be afraid of your feelings. So what if you likes something a bit kinky? You are married and you and your husband can do anything you want sexually. Use the urge to talk to communicate with your husband and enjoy your sexuality.