[Web-girl]

That's great! SpicyV, do you see the 2 at the same time what about your husband? He doesn't know about it of course, or?

[Web-girl]

Well Web Girl thank you for your kind words I am married to a great wonderful women who's a great mother and grand mother. We both watch amateur porn it's are favorite in our room doors lock being we still have a 16 year old daughter in the house. But we watch together not me alone or her alone doing it so we get are self aroused with each other in bed behind locked doors.Now my wife does have her ladies night out fun and she is bi and has her fun with other women no men as once in a great while she will let me watch on rare times if it comes about. If you want to be more active in the bed be the front runner go to your local adult book store buy a couple good porn dvd's and maybe a sex toy and take a night and tell your husband this is are night maybe send kids to grand parents house or friends this is your night with husband. This may light the fire and tell him if he like's porn you will watch it with him what can it hurt. I not sure if he addicted to porn and he masturbating a lot so nothing in bed for you only way to find out is asked him.But you need to figure this out because of no sex in the bedroom you just going through the motion day after day getting nothing from it.I mean even going to a sex therapist getting help there it's only going to tell your husband you have a problem he's not going to admit that he does men's ego are way to big for that to admit they have a problem with sex.So good luck Web girl.I sure hope what I said will help you in the feature only you can change it your husband needs a fire lit under him you can do this and make that sex in your marriage good again good luck and god bless.

Motorguy, I wonder if your sex life was like this always in your marriage? You say she let's you watch, does she also let you act when she is having fun with her girlfriends? Or you just watch? I am ready for many things in bed and out of it, As for watching porn, I just don't enjoy watching it... Can that be? It feels too soulless and not exciting to me, doesn't turn me on at all... I prefer to fantasize about my husband... Maybe with time it will change... And as for bringing other people to our bed....I can't do that either, because I love my husband to death and I can't imagine him sleeping with another woman... I don't think he could stand seeing me (in case of MFM) with another man.... But maybe it changes as people grow and mature. As I said I am only 29

[jns]

That's great! SpicyV, do you see the 2 at the same time what about your husband? He doesn't know about it of course, or?

About 8 years ago my now husband and I where fooling around and talking about secret desires. At this he told me he wanted to have an open relationship. Needless to say the mood for me got killed really quickly. I thought that it was him wanting to go out and have sex with other people because we didn't have a very active sex life. It took a lot of quick thinking and reassurance from my husband to keep me from leaving right then. He would come back to the topic every so often and explain that it wasn't about him going out but out us getting what we need out of our relationship and having some fun on the side. I was very very very skeptical. Well after years of discussions, me trusting that he wasn't wanting to leave the relationship, talking about all kinds of what if possibilities we came to and agreement. So to make a very long story shorter last year we decided to each try and meet someone and see what happened. If either one of is was uncomfortable then it would go no further.


Well a year into it we are happier than we have ever been. I didn't realize how unsatisfied I was, how much getting to meet new people and make new friends has helped us. Surprisingly I go out a lot more than he does. I have a couple of people that I see regularly. Sex isn't always involved, it is just getting out and feeling that spark and excitement of something new.

I am sharing this here because it isn't something that we share with people. We love each other and many wouldn't understand that we are amazingly happy.

I am hoping to get some conversation going with anyone that has questions or has a relationship similar to mine. So if you have questions ask.

SpicyV explained the situation in the above post and thread. Her husband suggested the open relationship.

[Motorguy]

Motorguy, I wonder if your sex life was like this always in your marriage? You say she let's you watch, does she also let you act when she is having fun with her girlfriends? Or you just watch? I am ready for many things in bed and out of it, As for watching porn, I just don't enjoy watching it... Can that be? It feels too soulless and not exciting to me, doesn't turn me on at all... I prefer to fantasize about my husband... Maybe with time it will change... And as for bringing other people to our bed....I can't do that either, because I love my husband to death and I can't imagine him sleeping with another woman... I don't think he could stand seeing me (in case of MFM) with another man.... But maybe it changes as people grow and mature. As I said I am only 29

Yes are marriage has been this way since we been married. My wife been bi since she was early teen as I told her if she wanted she could play with her close girl friends. I could enjoy another women but I don't need that, I do enjoy watching her with her girl friend if allowed. My wife keeps me happy I don't need to find another women to enjoy in bed no need to. But the porn for both of us just kind of puts good mood when we watch pretty much all amateur stuff.We both don't need to go hide to watch it's better to enjoy it together. We may never have intercourse that one night but just enjoy oral on each other and very happy that night.It's doing something together giving each pleasure. Maybe over time your sex life will change either you or hubby or you will want to bring a women into your bedroom to spice up the sex life time will only tell good luck.

[SpicyV]

That's great! SpicyV, do you see the 2 at the same time what about your husband? He doesn't know about it of course, or?

Hubby knows about both and they know about each other and hubby. I'm in an open marriage. I haven't seen the two at the same time but it's possible.

[Motorguy]

Hubby knows about both and they know about each other and hubby. I'm in an open marriage. I haven't seen the two at the same time but it's possible.

Wow Spicy does your husband watch or it's just a night out at either boy friends homes you enjoy your self with. Then come home and tell husband all about it. How long have you had your open marriage and does your husband enjoy other women as well or just you play. That would be a really good time with both at same time this would be a wild night for you three then lol.

[Romy]

The quality of the sex is amazing so I am very satisfied in that department. We are so compatible and it makes such a world of difference. I'm not satisfied with the quantity.....I want sex at least twice a day and there are times it's just not possible but I really shouldn't complain because I'm having the best sex of my life.

[HerHusband]

The scale is fluid. A 10 yesterday is a 9 today and so on.

As a guy I can safely say this a very true statement at least for me.

[HerHusband]

1/10. My partner is always tired and never in the mood, no matter how hard I try.
She doesn't like partaking in sexual activities other than sex, she's happy to receive but not give, I love giving her oral and can make her squirt but i get nothing back other than sex once every 2 or so.
I feel unattractive because she doesn't ever want to get busy, I'm made to feel like a creeper perve every time I broach the subject.

I at the end of my tether and am trying to look for help and guidance, hence my joining of WH.
I'll post my own thread soon.

If your not married and she isn't open to figuring out the issue move on. Now.

[HerHusband]

I think sexual satisfaction is strongly dependent upon my mindset. If I'm really in the mood, I can jump his bones when he comes through the door. It doesn't take as much during those "needy moments". It's physical and carnal need, period. It's sex. And as long as I get it, I'm satisfied.

Other times, I want the whole nine yards. I want the caressing, kissing, touching, etc. I want the connection. I want to look into his eyes and see his soul, no rushing, no outside distractions, just quality intimate time.

The physical release that comes from having an orgasm is exhilarating, however, I don't have to have the big O every time to enjoy sex. I have a pet peeve about being asked how it was. He should know if he's paying attention. It's not like there aren't visual, audible and physical clues. I know what he is really asking: did you get there? So long as I'm happy, it shouldn't matter.

You could be my wife. I wish she did have a screaming O every time but she doesn't. I would love to do what EVER it takes to make it happen but its dependent on her cycle. But when she does have one I know it. Its taken years but I accept it. FYI the way I see it my wife (and I can tell sometimes) is either going to orgasm or not before we ever start sex. If she is going to its all about making her happy and moan. If its the other times when she isn't going to come and she still is having a good time I flat out told her Im going to do what makes me come hardest. I finally figured out she likes to see me come hard and my eyes roll back as much as I want her to.