[Romy]

When we are together and not away for work or whatever we have sex at least once a day. But we also include at some point during the day him spending time going down on me and I will give him a blowjob, does that count? Just recently he had me up on the kitchen bench.....oops I'm getting sidetracked.

[calibri~]

Farmer, I guess I do wish it was more regular...and I bet so does he. Those rare occasions that it happens things seem a bit better between us for a couple of days. I guess I think about sex a reasonable amount, and would like it at least once a week, but I find it hard to be in the mood for it because of the following reasons:
It must be initiated prior to 9pm else SO is too tired.
It must not be an evening before a working day else SO will be too tired
I am on antidepressants
I lack body confidence (or any other kind)
My progestin only pill makes me bleed most of the time and SO is not interested during such times due to the gross factor.
SO does not want me to come off the pill and will not consider having the snip (even though I'll have my tubes tied as soon as the docs say I can..,three more years).
The only time that SO treats me nicely or compassionately is when he directly wants sex, so I now start to resent this sudden flux of attention.
At weekends being home alone with my SO I am subject to a lot of negativity and criticism so do not feel very open to sex.
SO does not talk about sex or romanticism, eroticism or anything like that. He is ashamed to admit what he wants and sadly this has rubbed off on me.
I am ashamed and feel guilty that I fantasise and dream about getting physical with other people.
On top of everything else, my SO is losing his hair, so won't let me touch it, is very overweight, and has a permanent expression of disgust, aggression or sulking on his face when speaking to me. He criticises my body, telling me for example that my boobs look weird.

So how would I go about instigating regular physical intimacy to fix any of the above?

[cathy23]

Well Cathy you making up for the 5 days he is gone lol. That's not bad then.

oh he definitely makes up for it, (lol).

[Motorguy]

oh he definitely makes up for it, (lol).

Well that's is really good and exciting then Cathy, nothing wrong with that. So no argument from you then lol.

[Susan Sweetlove]

It varies a lot. If I'm in a regular relationship with a guy I usually want sex every day, but sometimes that's not possible due to work, fatigue, or if we are in separate cities. It also depends on the stage of our relationship. When I've been living with a guy and in the early stages I've had sex as much as seven to twelve times a week. If we are separated by schedules or distance, then it may have to wait for the weekend so it may be only two to four times a week. I can usually tell when a relationship is starting to end when we have sex less and less (and I wand it less and less.)

When I'm not in a regular relationship but just hooking up (which is my status right now) then it just depends on circumstances and opportunity. And how many men are available and how horny I'm feeling. Sometimes I've had sex with as many a four guys in one week if I'm really hungry for sex. Even when I'm just hooking up it's really hard for me to go for more than a week without sex so I usually find someone who's available. i thinks the longest I've every gone without sex is about a month.

[Motorguy]

It varies a lot. If I'm in a regular relationship with a guy I usually want sex every day, but sometimes that's not possible due to work, fatigue, or if we are in separate cities. It also depends on the stage of our relationship. When I've been living with a guy and in the early stages I've had sex as much as seven to twelve times a week. If we are separated by schedules or distance, then it may have to wait for the weekend so it may be only two to four times a week. I can usually tell when a relationship is starting to end when we have sex less and less (and I wand it less and less.)

When I'm not in a regular relationship but just hooking up (which is my status right now) then it just depends on circumstances and opportunity. And how many men are available and how horny I'm feeling. Sometimes I've had sex with as many a four guys in one week if I'm really hungry for sex. Even when I'm just hooking up it's really hard for me to go for more than a week without sex so I usually find someone who's available. i thinks the longest I've every gone without sex is about a month.

I know for my self and my wife we would be climbing the wall if we didn't have sex for a month. But each of 4 daughters was born we had to hold off on the sex for a while for obvious reason. But after a few weeks she was climbing the walls but went by the doctors orders and held out. But now the kid barring is over with we will not go more then a couple days without some kind of sexually pleasure.

[Nada noor]

I do like to have sex several times a day, im talking at least 3 times average but I have done it more than that in one day. Not really sure if its unhealthy but I have thought about it. This is all w/ one guy BTW lol, my fiance. We getting married in one more week..phew...excitement overload!

[MissCouture]

Research shows that married couples have more sex than single folks.

Haha funny stuff.
To answer OPs question, me and my OH are together 5yrs and living together for 2. We have sex 4-5 a week, which i am happy with. When we first got together we were doing it 10-12 times a wk but realistically nobody could keep up that pace after 5yrs

[Elena_EvilEye]

We getting married in one more week..phew...excitement overload!

hope you have a fun wedding and hope you have a long marriage. I've been in your position before I know what it feels like.