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  • owel1reuel
    Member
    • Jul 2014
    • 38

    Wife can't squirt unless fingered


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    Hi there!

    This is my first time posting concern since I've read lot of threads about this. I just need tips (if any).Thanks in advance

    I was glad when I shared this to with my wife that every woman has the ability to squirt. I searched about it, we've just learnt about it 2 mos ago. We experimented, she participated,fortunately because she also wants to squirt for me. I found her G-spot using my fingers. That day we had the best sex ever. She's always willing squirt for me, and I am extremely turn on everytime she does it.

    Here's my problem: She can't squirt unless I use my fingers to stimulate her G-spot. Before she used to pee just ONCE when we have sex on a monoblock chair and while she's sitting in a V position. But she used to pee once. THAT WAS BEFORE until we learnt to do it. I am currently in 6inches. I don't know if it has something to do with the girth. We tried different positions as much as we can think of. ALL the positions possible but still I can't make her squirt using just my penis. I really want to. I feel like my size is not good enough for her to do it. But after several strokes I switch to using my fingers and it DOES WORK! Then switch again. Every now and then she squirts but always using my fingers. So my question is. Am I too small for her? Am I not stroking her G-Spot during sex? She also really wants to squirt on me while I penetrate hers. What should I do? what positions can we try, but then again we tried every possible position. I need tips please. Thank you again!
    Last edited by Alison H.; 09-07-2021, 05:20 PM.
  • Stillness
    WH Poster of the Month April 2017
    • Feb 2012
    • 3679

    Hold your finger next to your erect penis. Which is bigger?
    "Those sowing seed with tears
    Will reap with a joyful shout." - Psalm 126

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    • owel1reuel
      Member
      • Jul 2014
      • 38

      You mean penis and finger at the same time? I think I tried that. I put my middle ones on top of my penis while mine is inserted. Thanks! But what about penis alone? The g-spot is hidden at the back of the bonelike at the outer part. So I can't reach the spot. Yeah I'm an Asian, but I think I have bigger size or average enough to hit that thing. I believe the girth is good, I just can't hit it using mine. I tried holding my penis upwards but can't move faster.

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      • owel1reuel
        Member
        • Jul 2014
        • 38

        My penis is way bigger than my fingers of course. I know the size is enough because sometimes at my peak I hurt her during sex.

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        • Euphoric
          Veteran Member
          • Oct 2012
          • 570

          I think Stillness is trying to help you see that your fingers are smaller than your penis, so size doesn't matter, it's not your equipment. Yes, the g spot is hidden at the back of the bonelike structure. In other words, your finger can bend to hit the spot, and erect penis isn't going to curl back and forth like fingers can.

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          • owel1reuel
            Member
            • Jul 2014
            • 38

            Originally posted by Euphoric
            I think Stillness is trying to help you see that your fingers are smaller than your penis, so size doesn't matter, it's not your equipment. Yes, the g spot is hidden at the back of the bonelike structure. In other words, your finger can bend to hit the spot, and erect penis isn't going to curl back and forth like fingers can.
            You got right, Euphoric! I just wondered why some women easily squirt by just the penis. Is it because their G-spots are located near the opening or shows more? For my wife it's fine using my fingers but she said she wants to let it out using mine. So, it really challenges me.

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            • effy2014
              Veteran Member
              • Apr 2014
              • 1777

              Originally posted by owel1reuel
              You got right, Euphoric! I just wondered why some women easily squirt by just the penis. Is it because their G-spots are located near the opening or shows more? For my wife it's fine using my fingers but she said she wants to let it out using mine. So, it really challenges me.
              Most, indeed the vast majority of women, do not squirt during vaginal intercourse. At least that is what I have read and, as Euphoric and Stillness observed, there is a anatomical reason for it. Don't let it challenge or frustrate you. Start a new ritual or routine involving your mouth and fingers . . . make it special for both of you and get a different "high" or "orgasm" from vaginal intercourse.

              I appreciate the challenge and I, too, love experimenting. But a singular focus make everything more difficult to achieve and we fail to appreciate that every form of intimacy has its wonderful moments.
              "The only consistent feature of all of your dissatisfying relationships is you." Despair.com "Dysfunction"

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              • Baboy
                Veteran Member
                • Aug 2012
                • 774

                Originally posted by owel1reuel
                every woman has the ability to squirt.

                I'll defer to your expertise on that score. While all may have the ability, not all achieve. Be happy with the fact that you and your wife are able to share the experience, by whatever means. As effy suggested, resist the temptation to make too much of a project seeking the "ultimate squirt" during intercourse. It may occur on its own when unexpected. But if not, so what?
                I do not grow old; if I stop growing, I am old.

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                • owel1reuel
                  Member
                  • Jul 2014
                  • 38

                  Originally posted by effy2014
                  I appreciate the challenge and I, too, love experimenting. But a singular focus make everything more difficult to achieve and we fail to appreciate that every form of intimacy has its wonderful moments.
                  For me it's really important to seek her needs first before mine.Foreplay, giving her oral. Sometimes if I'm not sure what to do I ask her if it feels good, or what she would like me to do, so the next time I would know not asking her too much questions that might hinder from good communication during sex. She's very open to me, that I thank her so much. The way she felt it she's more comfortable telling me things that she wants. And for me it's really important to help her achieve want she expects or wants. I don't know, I just wanna be the best man for her when it comes to this matter. I don't want her to feel bored during the act. I sometimes think if we go for threesome, but that's not a priority for me now. If I'm not mistaken both you, effy2014 and baboy are not into open marriage. Right?

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                  • owel1reuel
                    Member
                    • Jul 2014
                    • 38

                    Originally posted by Baboy
                    resist the temptation to make too much of a project seeking the "ultimate squirt" during intercourse. It may occur on its own when unexpected. But if not, so what?
                    Thanks! I totally get it. Every woman is unique when comes to sex. Her squirt is not that strong blast either. Unless she's very aroused. Even every now and then. And before we experiment for that I told her "This time no sex if possible, let's just find out how you can do it" she agreed. Then when she got it she wanted me to enter into her.She was surprised and she thanked me that day because she also really wants it for me. So we had that best sex ever that day. Both of us were happy.

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