Second, start slow if you want to incorporate anal play in your sex life. When you are almost finished going down on her, slip your tongue a little lower and play outside (rimming her). There are lots of nerve endings there and she may enjoy it. (Note: never go back to her "V" after licking her anus). From there, you can try analingus . . . . if that goes well, maybe beads or a small toy. Baby steps to convince her that there is no place on or in her body that is gross.
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Two things might help. First, remember that female ejaculation is for her. Your role is facilitating her pleasure and the intensity of her orgasm even though there is a significant benefit to you. If she does not find the pleasure in a sexual act, there is no chance in the world she will squirt from doing it. By the way, porn is staged and I would not rely on it for sexual accuracy.
Second, start slow if you want to incorporate anal play in your sex life. When you are almost finished going down on her, slip your tongue a little lower and play outside (rimming her). There are lots of nerve endings there and she may enjoy it. (Note: never go back to her "V" after licking her anus). From there, you can try analingus . . . . if that goes well, maybe beads or a small toy. Baby steps to convince her that there is no place on or in her body that is gross."The only consistent feature of all of your dissatisfying relationships is you." Despair.com "Dysfunction" -
Thank you Susan. That opened my mind and gave me more info 'bout it. And you said it gives you really DEEP, DEEP org. I'll definitely talk it over w/ her later. This, I believe this will give us a new experience. But, honestly, my wife didn't want her clit to be touched at all. She said she being electricified, she can't hold for few seconds if stimulated directly. She doesn't even touch hers when during sex. I think she's not into clit. But she can come if she fingers and if she goes by herself. I'm just wondering.Comment
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Well certainty listen to her if she doesn't want her clit touched. I know there are times my clit is so sensitive if feels like a electric shock if it's touched. She can try sticking her fingers in her vagina and stimulating herself. That can be very very stimulating as well. In fact I sometimes like to use a toy in my vagina while doing anal (or a toy in my *** while having vaginal.)Thank you Susan. That opened my mind and gave me more info 'bout it. And you said it gives you really DEEP, DEEP org. I'll definitely talk it over w/ her later. This, I believe this will give us a new experience. But, honestly, my wife didn't want her clit to be touched at all. She said she being electricified, she can't hold for few seconds if stimulated directly. She doesn't even touch hers when during sex. I think she's not into clit. But she can come if she fingers and if she goes by herself. I'm just wondering.
Good luck with the anal. I hope she likes it. I've never been able to orgasm from vaginal alone but anal's a different story. It's mind-blowing.Comment
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i am curious....can you squirt with a penis in your vagina?I can squirt easily from anal, especially if I play with my clit during anal. I have really really deep deep orgasms that way and squirt over and over until the sheets are soaked.
I suggest you gently talk to your wife about trying anal. Many women have a real hangup anal about but if you can get her to try it I predict she will like it. Just be gentle, use you fingers and tongue to gently stimulate her anus, then use lots of lube and take your time, going slowly. Once you get your penis past her sphincter her anus will relax and accommodate you. Still go slow at first util she starts to relax. Play with her clit.
It will help her open her anus up to you if she pushes down like she's trying to have a bowel movement. That opens the anus up. And continue to use lots of lube so there's no discomfort for her. If she asks you to stop, listen to her. To many guys have ruined anal sex for the woman by going to fast and not listening to her.
I predict if you do it right she will enjoy it.Comment
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Funny but I've never been able to squirt with a penis in in my vagina. I can only squirt if I (or someone else) fingers my clit while also sticking several fingers in my vagina and strokes my g-spot or from playing with my clit while having anal sex.
Vaginal sex feels really really good (sweet and warm; it makes me feel so close to the man like I'm melting into him) but I've never had an orgasm just from vaginal, even while playing with my clit. Anal sex feels very different; deep and intense. I feel like I'm totally losing control and that's when I squirt. If can usually have two or three orgasms in a row from anal, squirting each time. By then the feeling is so intense I have to ask the guy to stop. I then collapse in exhaustion and feel totally drained for several minutes.Comment
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Well Susan, my wife is the same way as you. She can only squirt while her clit and g spot is rubbed together. Till she squirts but never with a toy or penis inside her. But after doing so she like drain till she rest a bit and then ready to go again.Funny but I've never been able to squirt with a penis in in my vagina. I can only squirt if I (or someone else) fingers my clit while also sticking several fingers in my vagina and strokes my g-spot or from playing with my clit while having anal sex.
Vaginal sex feels really really good (sweet and warm; it makes me feel so close to the man like I'm melting into him) but I've never had an orgasm just from vaginal, even while playing with my clit. Anal sex feels very different; deep and intense. I feel like I'm totally losing control and that's when I squirt. If can usually have two or three orgasms in a row from anal, squirting each time. By then the feeling is so intense I have to ask the guy to stop. I then collapse in exhaustion and feel totally drained for several minutes.When out driving always turn left. Then, should you become lost, you can find your way home by reversing the procedure and always turning right.Comment
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