[Susan Sweetlove]

It depends. I like to start out sucking a guy as soon as we start having sex. After sucking him a while I'm ready to move on to other activities; him performing oral on me, vaginal; anal. I usually intersperse a little more oral throughout our love making. When I'm finally ready to make him cum I get down to business. I like to tease the guy, bringing him close to cumming and then pulling back until he's really going crazy. (Does that sound cruel? I'm really just trying to heighten his pleasure.) How long it lasts usually depends on the guy, how aroused he is, how long since his last ejaculation, etc. Some only last a minute or so, most about three to five minutes, one poor guy I tantalized for over ten minutes. I finally made him cum because I was afraid he was going to go mad.

[a_dub]

I certainty didn't mean to imply that my pleasure is independent of that of the man. I was just exaggerating to make the point of how much pleasure I get performing oral on a man.

I always try to let the man know how much pleasure I am having performing oral on him. I moan and gasp quite a bit while sucking because I find it so pleasurable. I'm not just putting on a show for effect; I really get so horny while sucking. I also verbalize my pleasure, saying things like "God, I love your ********." When I feel him getting ready to cum I'll say "Oh God, cum in my mouth, I want to taste you" or "Cum all over my face, I want you to cum all over my face." I know that sharing my pleasure and excitement heighten's the excitement for the man. I'm always quite loud and verbal when having sex of any kind; it's part of the sharing I think.

Sounds like you give a great BJ...How long do most men last when you blow them?

[Romy]

If partners get pleasure from giving pleasure, you know that you will have a wonderful sex life.

Couldn't have said it better.....so true.

[Susan Sweetlove]

I would add that it is the most intimate of acts and involves all five senses. The brain reacts to the scent, the taste and the feel. It can make me light headed. But I disagree with Susan . . . her pleasure is an integral part of the experience for me. Hearing her moans and encouragement heightens my pleasure. I agree with you both that there is independent pleasure for the giver as much as for the receiver.

To me, that is what separates a giving and considerate lover from the rest. If partners get pleasure from giving pleasure, you know that you will have a wonderful sex life.

I certainty didn't mean to imply that my pleasure is independent of that of the man. I was just exaggerating to make the point of how much pleasure I get performing oral on a man.

I always try to let the man know how much pleasure I am having performing oral on him. I moan and gasp quite a bit while sucking because I find it so pleasurable. I'm not just putting on a show for effect; I really get so horny while sucking. I also verbalize my pleasure, saying things like "God, I love your ****." When I feel him getting ready to cum I'll say "Oh God, cum in my mouth, I want to taste you" or "Cum all over my face, I want you to cum all over my face." I know that sharing my pleasure and excitement heighten's the excitement for the man. I'm always quite loud and verbal when having sex of any kind; it's part of the sharing I think.

[Magnetism]

Effy-Yes, I'm very sensitive to a partner's facial expressions. Them smiling, moaning, eye-contact, and groaning add to the sensations.

A partner staying quiet or having a flat affect would make me question if they were enjoying it.

[effy2014]

Susan Sweetlove

It's hard to explain (especially those that don't get it), but here's my theory why people like to give oral sex:

1) The mouth is an erogenous zone. Giving oral sex is much like eating or licking our favorite food.
2) The idea of putting your partner's genitals in your mouth is a huge turn-on to the brain, especially if you find a penis/vagina arousing. If you're attracted to someone, how can you not want to ravish their body?
3) It was viewed as "dirty" act back in the day, which makes it more fun.
4) Being in control is a part of it.

It's just not about the man's pleasure. A person giving oral can get very excited just thinking or talking about it.

I would add that it is the most intimate of acts and involves all five senses. The brain reacts to the scent, the taste and the feel. It can make me light headed. But I disagree with Susan . . . her pleasure is an integral part of the experience for me. Hearing her moans and encouragement heightens my pleasure. I agree with you both that there is independent pleasure for the giver as much as for the receiver.

To me, that is what separates a giving and considerate lover from the rest. If partners get pleasure from giving pleasure, you know that you will have a wonderful sex life.

[Magnetism]

Hey lady..I'm already drinking a creamy smoothie. Don't put ideas in my head while I'm doing some household work!

[Susan Sweetlove]

How about a popsicle shaped like a penis? And filled with creamy vanilla ice cream inside! That would be delicious!

[Magnetism]

I use the food analogy to explain to those that don't get it. If licking a popsicle feels good to most people, it shouldn't be surprising that licking your partner's privates feels good in your mouth too.

[Susan Sweetlove]

Magnetism,

Great thoughts! I particularly like the idea that oral sex is like eating delicious foods. That's just how I feel when I sucking a hard ****. It just feels so good in my mouth. Maybe the same idea of eating something luscious applies to my appetite for cum.

It's also true that it was seen as "dirty" when I began having sex. It made me feel like a "naughty" girl which I always find to be a big turn-on.

I also agree that it's not just about the man's pleasure. I'd love sucking **** even if guys didn't care. Fortunately for me and them, they do care-a lot!!!

"A person giving oral can get very excited just thinking or talking about it." Absolutely. Just having this discussion is getting me aroused.