[Magnetism]

Effy-Yes, I'm very sensitive to a partner's facial expressions. Them smiling, moaning, eye-contact, and groaning add to the sensations.

A partner staying quiet or having a flat affect would make me question if they were enjoying it.

[Susan Sweetlove]

I would add that it is the most intimate of acts and involves all five senses. The brain reacts to the scent, the taste and the feel. It can make me light headed. But I disagree with Susan . . . her pleasure is an integral part of the experience for me. Hearing her moans and encouragement heightens my pleasure. I agree with you both that there is independent pleasure for the giver as much as for the receiver.

To me, that is what separates a giving and considerate lover from the rest. If partners get pleasure from giving pleasure, you know that you will have a wonderful sex life.

I certainty didn't mean to imply that my pleasure is independent of that of the man. I was just exaggerating to make the point of how much pleasure I get performing oral on a man.

I always try to let the man know how much pleasure I am having performing oral on him. I moan and gasp quite a bit while sucking because I find it so pleasurable. I'm not just putting on a show for effect; I really get so horny while sucking. I also verbalize my pleasure, saying things like "God, I love your ****." When I feel him getting ready to cum I'll say "Oh God, cum in my mouth, I want to taste you" or "Cum all over my face, I want you to cum all over my face." I know that sharing my pleasure and excitement heighten's the excitement for the man. I'm always quite loud and verbal when having sex of any kind; it's part of the sharing I think.

[Romy]

If partners get pleasure from giving pleasure, you know that you will have a wonderful sex life.

Couldn't have said it better.....so true.

[a_dub]

I certainty didn't mean to imply that my pleasure is independent of that of the man. I was just exaggerating to make the point of how much pleasure I get performing oral on a man.

I always try to let the man know how much pleasure I am having performing oral on him. I moan and gasp quite a bit while sucking because I find it so pleasurable. I'm not just putting on a show for effect; I really get so horny while sucking. I also verbalize my pleasure, saying things like "God, I love your ********." When I feel him getting ready to cum I'll say "Oh God, cum in my mouth, I want to taste you" or "Cum all over my face, I want you to cum all over my face." I know that sharing my pleasure and excitement heighten's the excitement for the man. I'm always quite loud and verbal when having sex of any kind; it's part of the sharing I think.

Sounds like you give a great BJ...How long do most men last when you blow them?

[Susan Sweetlove]

It depends. I like to start out sucking a guy as soon as we start having sex. After sucking him a while I'm ready to move on to other activities; him performing oral on me, vaginal; anal. I usually intersperse a little more oral throughout our love making. When I'm finally ready to make him cum I get down to business. I like to tease the guy, bringing him close to cumming and then pulling back until he's really going crazy. (Does that sound cruel? I'm really just trying to heighten his pleasure.) How long it lasts usually depends on the guy, how aroused he is, how long since his last ejaculation, etc. Some only last a minute or so, most about three to five minutes, one poor guy I tantalized for over ten minutes. I finally made him cum because I was afraid he was going to go mad.

[atskitty2]

Susan, seems like you talk a fair amount while giving oral? How do your partners like that you stop so frequently to talk? I could see how you'd work that into the teasing & play that you do, but I am curious. I can only imagine if he's THAT close to orgasm & you stop to talk, it would be a little frustrating. I know I would be I don't suppose they'd complain either way

I like to do the teasing too, with an intensity & then backing off a little, but I do that more with my motion, pressure & my hands, not stopping altogether to talk.

[Susan Sweetlove]

Good question, but i don't really talk that much when I'm performing oral. It's not like I'm carrying on a conversation. I just kinda mutter breathlessly when I take a break to rest my jaw or throat, telling them how muck I love their **** or that I want them to cum all over me while I rub their **** on my face or pump it with my hand. It' really for less than a minute, maybe on 20 seconds or so.

[a_dub]

It depends. I like to start out sucking a guy as soon as we start having sex. After sucking him a while I'm ready to move on to other activities; him performing oral on me, vaginal; anal. I usually intersperse a little more oral throughout our love making. When I'm finally ready to make him cum I get down to business. I like to tease the guy, bringing him close to cumming and then pulling back until he's really going crazy. (Does that sound cruel? I'm really just trying to heighten his pleasure.) How long it lasts usually depends on the guy, how aroused he is, how long since his last ejaculation, etc. Some only last a minute or so, most about three to five minutes, one poor guy I tantalized for over ten minutes. I finally made him cum because I was afraid he was going to go mad.

I haven't ejaculated in 5 days (I usually beat off 10-12 times a week) so I'd defo be one of those minute men, lol. My ex could get me to pop in 1-2 mins of sucking by the end.

Have you noticed a lot variation in the amount of cum and the consistency of it? Sounds like you like anal...do you prefer smaller men for anal? Ever had a guy say no to anal?

[Susan Sweetlove]

Yes there's a lot of variation in the amount of cum and its consistency. Sometimes it's watery and almost clear with little strands of white. Sometimes it's thick, creamy and almost pearly white. And the amount seems to vary from guy to guy and how recently they last ejaculated. Sometimes it's just a little dribble and sometimes it's great globs flying through the air.

Larger penises don't really seem to be a problem with anal. What I love about anal is feeling stretched and filled up, so to small is actually not good. With plenty of lube and enough fingering before hand, I find size not to be a problem. I guess I've done enough anal that I learned to relax my sphincter pretty much at will (and no I haven't had any problems with incontinence which I think scares some women away from anal.)

I have had a few guys say no when I've asked for anal but not many. Either they have already had anal with another woman or anal is something they've always wanted to try. I'd say over half the guys I've had anal with that I've been their first anal experience. I haven't had anyone really say "Gee, I really didn't like that, let's don't do that again."

[a_dub]

Yes there's a lot of variation in the amount of cum and its consistency. Sometimes it's watery and almost clear with little strands of white. Sometimes it's thick, creamy and almost pearly white. And the amount seems to vary from guy to guy and how recently they last ejaculated. Sometimes it's just a little dribble and sometimes it's great globs flying through the air.

Larger penises don't really seem to be a problem with anal. What I love about anal is feeling stretched and filled up, so to small is actually not good. With plenty of lube and enough fingering before hand, I find size not to be a problem. I guess I've done enough anal that I learned to relax my sphincter pretty much at will (and no I haven't had any problems with incontinence which I think scares some women away from anal.)

I have had a few guys say no when I've asked for anal but not many. Either they have already had anal with another woman or anal is something they've always wanted to try. I'd say over half the guys I've had anal with that I've been their first anal experience. I haven't had anyone really say "Gee, I really didn't like that, let's don't do that again."

Yes my cum ranges from 2-3 watery drops when I'm ejaculating frequently to 5-6 big globs of thick cream if I haven't unloaded in 4+ days.

What size penis would you say is too small?

From your experience what is around average? 6 inches is the conventional estimate.