[Susan Sweetlove]

I'm going to share my own personal experience. Having come from a family that said, "Don't get pregnant! Your life will be over!", oral sex seemed like a pleasurable thing to do.

I decided oral was the best contraceptive after a bad experience. When I was 18 I got pregnant even though I was on oral contraceptives. I later learned that oral contraceptives fail 9% of the time. After that I swore I'd always try to avoid letting a man cum inside my vagina. So I started using oral as a substitute. I'd still have vaginal sex (I switched to an IUD which is both easier and more effective) but I'd only let the guy have vaginal with me a little while. And I'd make him swear before hand that he wouldn't cum inside my vagina. Of course some guys would fail and cum inside my vagina but thanks to the IUD I never became pregnant again. (I'd say only about 10% of my sexual encounters since then resulted in the guy cumming in my vagina.) This is another reason why I started doing anal sex. It's a shame because I love vaginal intercourse; I suppose I should just get my tubes tied because I don't think I'll ever have or want children.

[Gary7]

I think whenever the goal involves giving the other person an orgasm, using a part of your body, it's sex. Sorry kids!

I decided oral was the best contraceptive after a bad experience. When I was 18 I got pregnant even though I was on oral contraceptives. I later learned that oral contraceptives fail 9% of the time. After that I swore I'd always try to avoid letting a man cum inside my vagina. So I started using oral as a substitute. I'd still have vaginal sex (I switched to an IUD which is both easier and more effective) but I'd only let the guy have vaginal with me a little while. And I'd make him swear before hand that he wouldn't cum inside my vagina. Of course some guys would fail and cum inside my vagina but thanks to the IUD I never became pregnant again. (I'd say only about 10% of my sexual encounters since then resulted in the guy cumming in my vagina.) This is another reason why I started doing anal sex. It's a shame because I love vaginal intercourse; I suppose I should just get my tubes tied because I don't think I'll ever have or want children.

Unfortunately nothing short of sterilization is 100%. And that's some pretty major surgery for a woman.

You could reduce the odds by using two methods. Oral contraceptive and a condom, or spermicide if you're anti condom.

[effy2014]

More men than women seem to view oral sex as sex. Most young guys I know feel that it counts, but the women will say it doesn't.

"Counts" -- precisely what I was getting at. Why does it matter what counts as sex - is it because the teens don't have to lie to their parents that they had sex? Or, better yet, lie to themselves? Maybe it's all wrapped up in feelings -- one needs less of a committment or relationship to engage in oral sex than intercourse. That's kind of interesting to me, since I believe that oral is more intimate and that you need more trust, not less, when performing.

I suppose as a teen or early 20s, it is important to be able to say that you had less sexual partners than more. The older I have gotten the less "numbers" matter. How many came before me is irrelevant. It's the now and future that is important.

[Susan Sweetlove]

Great point effy. Girls in their teens and early 20's maybe really obsessed with numbers because they don't want to be perceived as "****s." I agree that oral once seemed more intimate to me but if you think about it objectively it's probably not; I think of my vagina as being more intimate than my mouth. In any case, I think its normal to be less concerned with numbers when you get older. I now think of my "number" not as a determent but as an asset; The more experience I've had, the better a lover I am.

[Magnetism]

Great point effy. Girls in their teens and early 20's maybe really obsessed with numbers because they don't want to be perceived as "********s." I agree that oral once seemed more intimate to me but if you think about it objectively it's probably not; I think of my vagina as being more intimate than my mouth. In any case, I think its normal to be less concerned with numbers when you get older. I now think of my "number" not as a determent but as an asset; The more experience I've had, the better a lover I am.

Even if I wanted to use my vagina to be more intimate, I can't. I've expressed numerous times that my body needs a strong amount of emotional intimacy to let someone penetrate me.

The mouth is much easier to penetrate.

[Susan Sweetlove]

Even if I wanted to use my vagina to be more intimate, I can't. I've expressed numerous times that my body needs a strong amount of emotional intimacy to let someone penetrate me.

The mouth is much easier to penetrate.

My vagina seems more "tender." I never have any discomfort using my mouth. Also, I like having so much more control using my mouth. I can use my tongue and lips to stimulate a penis in ways my vagina never could.

[Magnetism]

My vagina seems more "tender." I never have any discomfort using my mouth. Also, I like having so much more control using my mouth. I can use my tongue and lips to stimulate a penis in ways my vagina never could.

Same.

[muffin70]

well I consider it sex and I'm happy to give and receive :-)

[jns]

Oral sex is sex.