[SwisherSweet906]

I was 18. It was my year of rebellion. I was finally legal and "could do whatever I want." I was wild and crazy and ready to lose my "innocence."

It happened at my sister's house. She and her boyfriend had their own place, and I stayed with them a lot during that time. They had a 23-year-old roommate who I was told by my sister's boyfriend that he "had a thing for me." He stayed out in the garage, so one night I snuck in there while he was sleeping. I woke him up and he was pleased to see me, and we sat in the bed and talked for a few hours. It was cold out in the garage, as it was just a few weeks before Christmas. So I used the cold as my excuse to weasel into his bed and cuddle up with him. He offered to give me a back rub, and everything escalated from there!

I have no regrets about it. I was young and wild, it was bound to happen sooner or later.

[effy2014]

I sort of like the idea that it's a gift we give each other. Male AND female. I don't get all swarmy (lol) when I think of mine either, but I think it's a pretty special thing and sort of wish more people thought that way, rather than that it's some filthy rash they need to "get rid of". Made me a little sad when I heard a teen girl referring to it that way. I hope that her philosophy on the matter isn't common.

I was 17, senior in HS and he was my ex-husband. We shared that together, and I have no regrets. Wouldn't have wanted it any other way or with anyone else.

You already had an ex-husband at 17? Was he an ex because you didn't sleep with him until after the divorce?

Sarcasm aside, I like Kitty's approach. It would be great to think that it is something special that we have given to our partners. But then, I have thought that way about sex in general, even after the first time.

[cathygirl]

You know, it is debatable when I lost my virginity? Is oral sex sex? What about rubbing parts together to orgasm but without penis/vagina penetration? When you're young you can come up with all kinds of rationalizations as to how you're still a virgin. Kinda funny when I think back. But actual penetration intercourse? Well, I was 17 and two months from getting married (when I turned 18) so it just seemed like a natural progression. I cried because we had waited so long, we just got carried away and gave it the "final push" haha. No regrets, though.

[Magnetism]

I was a teenager. It was awkward, and nothing like I imagined in my head. Effy-it's funny, because I didn't need an emotional connection as a teenager. I was horny, yet so numb, if that makes sense. I'm so different now as an adult. My advice to people is to make sure you like and respect the person. I think some teens have sex just for the sake of losing their v card.

[muffin70]

mine was when I was 21... I thought it was going to happen when I was 18 - I was at a party getting hot and horny with a young lady and we were fooling around, and I went to touch her vagina area and she said not yet, but she was happy to masturbate me until I came!
I did it with my ex G/F and it was akward... I was stiff as a flagpole as we were fooling around then as I got up and grabbed the condom and went to put it on I was limp and couldn't get it up again.... but managed to get it up long enough a couple of weeks later and had sex successfully!

[shyguy86]

So I've recently got the chance to be the other guy (with husbands blessing) with an older couple. They knew I would be clean since im a virgin. I've long had the hots for Saleena and a few weeks ago her husband finally let me make love to her without restrictions. Before that we had only engaged in foreplay, oral, massages, etc. But I think its been good because we've been able to figure out what each other likes. Its been incredible.

I always cum really quickly the first couple of times, especially in missionary. She's so hot and her vagina is so soft its hard to not bust right away. She said her husband took years to master stamina and assured me I'd get there and she would help me. We discovered that her being on top let's me last the longest. I can make it to 10 minutes that way. Overall its been amazing. She's impressed by how quickly I'm ready to go and how often I can do it each night! I tell her I'm making up for lost time and that she was worth the wait.

[cathy23]

I lost mine to my first serious boyfriend at 15., After him I guess I was somewhat promiscuous in high school. Lot's of boys wanted to date me. Regret?, Boys talk too much, and when you live in a small community everybody talks too much.

[atskitty2]

Yes effy-of course I married him at 14 but I was too young for sex then! Doesn't everyone wait til after they're divorced to begin having sex?

[effy2014]

Yes effy-of course I married him at 14 but I was too young for sex then! Doesn't everyone wait til after they're divorced to begin having sex?

Not everyone. I didn't have sex with my ex before, during or after the divorce .....

[Lorioella]

I lost my virginity about three weeks before my 19th birthday to my now-fiancee (who is almost nine years older than me.) I think I knew very early into our relationship that he was the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with. We had only been together for about half a month when we had sex for the first time, which I know he deeply regrets. We had planned to wait at least six months before becoming intimate, because he had been with several women before me and was extremely concerned about manipulating or hurting me since I'm so much younger than him.

I have to say, I don't regret my decision. He was extremely cautious and asked me dozens of times if I was sure I wanted to progress. He was gentle and respectful, and at no point did I feel used or out of control of the situation. I know how lucky I am to have found someone so considerate and careful.

My advice would have to be to use extreme discretion when deciding to have sex. Choose someone who doesn't have ulterior motives and isn't juggling you and other people. Reserve it for someone who you fully trust, who truly deserves to be with you when you are at your most open and vulnerable. Don't let anyone pressure you - if it doesn't make you happy, don't do it.