[Echo7]

I'm wondering about those of you that have been with your partners for 15 + years.. how you feel about your sexual relationship?

Do you consider you 'make love' or just '**********'? I understand it can be different every time and usually a combination of both. But what if you feel you don't "make love" or feel a strong feeling of love & connection after sex. Does that mean you no longer love your partner? Or does it mean you do, but just aren't 'IN' love anymore?

Interested in others thoughts.. TIA


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[Stillness]

I always feel a strong connection. Sex can help smooth things over and strengthen bonds, but it's not a cure-all.

Being "in-love" is overrated to me, unless you're a fairy tale princess. In real life relationships take work. If you lay a solid foundation, then sex can be part of the mortar that holds things together. If you've got a shaky foundation, then all the lovin' in the world can't fix it.

[Motorguy]

Well for me i still love my wife just as my much as when we got married. Are sex life is still very strong we both are very highly sexed and need sex 4 to 5 times a week after 27 years and 4 daughters. I guess we was both blessed to not had a fall off in both are sexually appetites for each other after all these years.

[Echo7]

Well for me i still love my wife just as my much as when we got married. Are sex life is still very strong we both are very highly sexed and need sex 4 to 5 times a week after 27 years and 4 daughters. I guess we was both blessed to not had a fall off in both are sexually appetites for each other after all these years.

wow.. you guys are lucky! That's a pretty good average for so long together

[JonDoe]

I always feel a strong connection. Sex can help smooth things over and strengthen bonds, but it's not a cure-all.

Being "in-love" is overrated to me, unless you're a fairy tale princess. In real life relationships take work. If you lay a solid foundation, then sex can be part of the mortar that holds things together. If you've got a shaky foundation, then all the lovin' in the world can't fix it.

I agree, but I'd also like to add that removing the mortar can and will cause things to fall apart too.

[kdc]

. . . Do you consider you 'make love' or just '********************'? I understand it can be different every time and usually a combination of both. But what if you feel you don't "make love" or feel a strong feeling of love & connection after sex. Does that mean you no longer love your partner? Or does it mean you do, but just aren't 'IN' love anymore?

When I've felt that way, it was because we weren't communicating very well. When we're both keeping the lines of communication open and moving, it's a wonderful thing.

I have to admit that, over the course of the past almost four decades, there have been times when it was more about sex. (Mostly in our first couple of decades.) It's all about making love nowadays. Since we've aged, we seem to appreciate each other more. We take more time and concentrate on satisfying one another a lot more now than when we were young and more about the lust.

Of course, since menopause hit, my hormones went into overdrive. I have to admit that has enhanced our relationship a good bit. ;-)

[Motorguy]

wow.. you guys are lucky! That's a pretty good average for so long together

Yes we are bless we both know are pleasure points with each other. I am more into getting the wife off first before I do that way as they always say it's better to give then received lol. I think that's more of gift giving i use it for sex as well lol.

[jilljames8184]

I make love to my husband because our love takes it higher than just physical pleasure. I have sex with my boyfriend because there is no emotional attachment. I guess that's why our "arrangement" works so well; because I can separate my emotions from my physical pleasure.

[bubba29]

I'm wondering about those of you that have been with your partners for 15 + years.. how you feel about your sexual relationship?

Do you consider you 'make love' or just '********************'? I understand it can be different every time and usually a combination of both. But what if you feel you don't "make love" or feel a strong feeling of love & connection after sex. Does that mean you no longer love your partner? Or does it mean you do, but just aren't 'IN' love anymore?

Interested in others thoughts.. TIA


(Please move thread if I have posted in the wrong forum)

you may want to read a book called "Five Love Languages". it will answer a lot of questions for you and may even help strengthen your relationship.

[Hell on Wheels]

I'm wondering about those of you that have been with your partners for 15 + years.. how you feel about your sexual relationship?

It really is a blend, at least for me. I think being deeply in love drives it, though. To me, she is the most beautiful and desirable women in the world, and this world is full of beautiful and desirable women. Her voice over the telephone makes me as horny as seeing her in something sexy or nothing at all. The non-sexual part of our relationship has yielded an emotional intensity that always carries over to our physical relationship to the point that I can't recall ever feeling just physical gratification.

Not saying all is perfect in our world. We've got our differences outside and in the bedroom, but I think we laid that foundation Stillness speaks of. So, even when things are much more wild than romantic, I still get that chill and wow like the first time with her. Like I won the lottery 23 years ago and didn't blow the money.