[Romy]

I love it when my SO takes me by surprise. We could be in the middle of a conversation then the next thing he has me pushed up against the wall, kissing me passionately and things then go from there. I love it!!

[Stillness]

Now I Know

I don't know if I shared this or not, but I'm in a lot of pain waiting for some medication to kick in, so I'm trying to keep my mind occupied. I think I had decided not to share. It was just one of those private moments of awakening that happened between my wife and me. I need to focus on pleasant times.

Normally when my wife or I work out, the other person give us space and doesn't mess with us. So a few months ago when I was lifting I expected to be left alone like always. I had my music playing, and my wife doesn't always like my music so it's just extra reason for her to steer clear of my general area.

This day was different. We went to disney world early last year with family. On a day when we were alone in the adult park (can't think of name right now) we had a nice day to ourselves, went to dinner, and just shopped around. As the park was shutting down, some vendor in the Moroccan area sold us these hip cymbals. During a great dinner, we unexpectantly got a show from a belly dancer. She was awesome. I guess my wife was inspired. So while I was lifting this day, she decided to try them on.

First let me say that my wife and I romanced each other dancing. We'd go to parties together in school and have a good time. The party eventually started to move up to my dorm room with us alone dancing. I always loved the way she’d sway her hips. She’s also danced for me to seduce me, which is pretty cool. I always think that I don’t need to go to a strip club. A naked/stripping woman dancing is powerful stuff in a man’s mind. Primal. So I knew the power of dance…so I thought.

This was different. Let me also add that I hate strip clubs. Even before I was married and before I was a Christian, I’d always be puzzled at what my buddies got out of them. They’d want me to get into it, but I’d just stay off to the side. “Get a dance. Let me pay for you.” I’ve never had a lap dance from a strange woman. It’s always been disgusting to me – the thought of some stranger grinding on me. Even if I could appreciate the athleticism and the female form, I despise prostitution. I’ve never cheated on a woman. I view going to a strip club as cheating. But I’ve been to them while I had a girlfriend because they do so very little for me that I view myself as exempt morally.

But like I said, this was different. This was not overtly erotic. It was more aerobic. It wasn’t one of her naked booty-shaking moments. It was my wife giving me a private dance and exercising. She was smiling. She was sweating. She was moving – expertly. Her hips were hypnotic. I was in awe. Her booty – I touched her and she just kept twisting, grinding, and shaking. It was almost like I wasn't there. But I was. I got to see this because I'm her man. It was something that no one else could give me - it couldn't be paid for. As the beat went, so did her body. Song after song. I had never experienced a feeling like that. She’s got great rhythm. Great body. We’re the same age – exactly the same age – like same day, same year. The years have been very kind to her.

Now I know what my friends saw that I could not. I remember now. Someone had an anniversary or a reunion with their man. They were looking for special gift or romance ideas for the occasion. I was silent, I think. I’d recommend getting some hip cymbals and dancing – or just dancing for your man if you’ve never done it before. I think a lot of women have, but I'm not talking about an erotic, seductive, stripper-type dance. I don’t know if it’s the same for women. I imagine that it could be. I’ve tried to dance for her before, but I know that she didn’t get out of it what I did.

[effy2014]

I don't know if I shared this or not, but I'm in a lot of pain waiting for some medication to kick in, so I'm trying to keep my mind occupied. I think I had decided not to share. It was just one of those private moments of awakening that happened between my wife and me. I need to focus on pleasant times.

Stillness, I am sorry to hear about your condition. I hope that the medication kicks in soon and relieves your pain. You focused on such a wonderful event.

My relationship is much like Romy's. It all starts with passionate kissing. My SO loves the way we kiss .... even when she is not in the mood, kissing will get her there. When she wants sleep, she won't allow me to kiss her. She knows what will happen.

[Stillness]

effy, I just had to break down and take more. It's mostly working. Thanks.

My wife has told me that they're not "hip cymbals." Come to think of it, that phrase paints a weird image in mind.

[effy2014]

Stillness --

Don't think of pain management as "breaking down". There is nothing therapeutic about being in pain. Take what you need to be comfortable.

[sweetsaltyruchi]

when my man start playing with my hairs , sometimes grope me from behind and slowly moving his hands on my private parts...i feel excited and let everything go in a flow.......

[Elena_EvilEye]

My husband is smoking hot so all he needs to do is breathe and I'm turned on . I do love it when he grabs my bum unexpectedly I get that surprised turned on feel. I also love it when he comes from behind me, kisses my neck and puts one hand in my trousers and rubs my vajay and with the other puts it under my shirt and undoes my bra. He also does a very sexy wink which just melts me.

[muffin70]

when my wife gives me 'that look..... the one that says 'come and get me'...... but I REALLY go wild if she wears one of her sexy scarves and plays with it and rubs it over her body & breasts. She wraps it around her breasts, around her neck and dangles it above my erection - that sends me into overdrive!
She did this the other night..... she saw I had an erection so did a 'naked scarf dance' around me... took me about 2 minutes to release my load!

[natapee]

Don't think of pain management as "breaking down

[Motorguy]

Well for me my wife just has to give me that smug sexy look as I know she is turn on. Not counting that sexy chat she does that will really turn me on as well lol.