[CHANDLERS WISH]

Pretend it's one of those rainbow lollypops on a stick, even better buy one and eat it.

Same principal, at least to start with anyway

CW

[Richard S]

At some point it comes down to just giving it a try and seeing how you like it. That's how it was for me the first time I went down on a woman. Regardless of how I felt about it, the main thing I remembered was how much she loved it. If you find that he enjoys receiving more than you enjoy giving, my advice is to be OK with that and know that things will get better over time.

Take care, good luck...

[blondiej530]

Ok, soo I have to admit I have this problem..I've never actually said it aloud before "I'm afraid to give head" . Honestly, my ex wasnt into much oral so it never really came up...but now...yeah I dont know what to do. Just go for it? Should a girl tell her guy that shes never done it before..or is nervous? ADVICE!!

[mandy47]

Ok, soo I have to admit I have this problem..I've never actually said it aloud before "I'm afraid to give head" . Honestly, my ex wasnt into much oral so it never really came up...but now...yeah I dont know what to do. Just go for it? Should a girl tell her guy that shes never done it before..or is nervous? ADVICE!!

I told my boyfriend I'd never given anyone a blowjob, and the whole experience went relatively well. He told me when something felt good or bad and gave suggestions. It sounds really technical, but he said them in a sexy way. I think being honest is easiest, though I would talk about it before hand. I waited until we were actually fooling around to tell him....as I unzipped his pants, and I wish I'd mentioned it much earlier, though I guess it does provide an awkward story to tell.

Previously I'd been pretty terrified of giving head, but it ended up not being scary at all, in fact I like giving my boyfriend blowjobs. If you do get nervous/freak out at the last minute or while your giving him head for the first time, just tell him. It's important that you feel comfortable, and your boyfriend should try to understand and be supportive. It is much easier to feel sexual and up to trying something new when your partner isn't making you feel bad or pressured.

Although I know I was not good at it the first time, you get better over time and with good communication even faster when he can tell you what he likes and dislikes.

[Richard S]

Ok, soo I have to admit I have this problem..I've never actually said it aloud before "I'm afraid to give head" . Honestly, my ex wasnt into much oral so it never really came up...but now...yeah I dont know what to do. Just go for it? Should a girl tell her guy that shes never done it before..or is nervous? ADVICE!!

There are a lot of good books out there if you need specific advice about technique. You can also search this forum. My favorite book is "The Sensuous Woman" which is almost 40 years old but still has a lot of good advice and insights into the overall frame a mind a woman should have as she approaches this issue.

And, yes, I would say tell the guy all about it. Most guys would see it as a boost to their ego that they were a girl's "first" so I wouldn't worry too much about it.

[daniee.l]

yea definatly tell him hel b fine wiv it. my first time was horrible the man was an idiot and it jus wasnt nice at all!! so wen i got wiv my bf i was really nervous bout it but i told him that my first time was terrible and he understood it will be fine jus enjoy it.

[Hystorm]

Ladies, you don't even need to master the art of the perfect BJ.
Just having the desire to do so is TOTALLY A BLESSING for your current or future BF. Many if not Most women are not interested in touching their mans schlong let alone sucking on it.

Trust me, just the desire to pleasure your man puts you in a league of fab. women. The rest can be figured out together, that also part of the fun.

Enjoy.

[Fallen1]

Ladies, you don't even need to master the art of the perfect BJ.
Just having the desire to do so is TOTALLY A BLESSING for your current or future BF. Many if not Most women are not interested in touching their mans schlong let alone sucking on it.

Trust me, just the desire to pleasure your man puts you in a league of fab. women. The rest can be figured out together, that also part of the fun.

Enjoy.

Schlong ..... that word always makes me giggle.

I love to handle my guys things. I have asked him before if I bother him because I play with his stuff so much. Just about every time we watch tv I have a handfull. I know, I'm terrible, but I can't help it.

[Richard S]

Hystorm is totally right.

Men remember women who have the right frame of mind about the whole thing, that is, they really enjoy the act itself, and will initiate it spontaneously just because it's what they want. Technique is secondary.

[C]

Or you may do what I did.......Start with a condem and work it's way off.......No time schedule.......Doesn't take long.....and very erotic....