[Moni306]

I have a question...me and my husband are joining friend finder again to see if we can find another gal for a threesome. The rules with this threesome is it is only to be me and the girl touching each other and such. He is going to be in the room but he can only touch me and she can't touch him. I'm really streching myself trying this to put some spice back plus I'm totally horny and he would rather look at porn or other chicks than try to take care of his wife. My question is has anyone here ever had a threesome and if so how was the outcome...I do really have reservations about this~

[wolvesinthethroneroom]

Yes and my girlfriend regretted it, both times, once with a girlfriend of hers and then once with my best guy friend, but we had no rules and it wasn't planned and we had all been drinking. Be very careful, seeing it in person is way way different than masturbating and thinking about it. My girlfriend cried about it the next day and her friend had only given me a BJ, I was so wound up I came putting it in her friend and never actually 'did' her, still she was upset the next day. I acted totally cool about her and my best friend at the time and didn't let on that it had bothered me once they were going at it, but it did, I'll never forget seeing her have an orgasm with him and while it is 'hot' it also made me jealous. The two often go together.
I probably won't do it again with her and anyone else. I'd done it in the past with my buddy and girls I was not dating, but that won't prepare you for a 3 way with someone you love.

[Moni306]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm not sure what we will end up doing because I do have some doubts about it. I'm just always horny and he isn't until two minutes after I'm out the door and he is surfing the internet. Just like this morning...I'm lying there horny and kinda rubbing on him and no response...as soon as I was out the door he was surfing porn...looking at the local chicks on friendfinder then rubbing one out on himself...I just don't get it. I figured this might spice it up but maybe I'm wrong...would hate to see my marriage go down for something like this..we do have children. Oh what is a horny wife to do with a husband not interested in her?? Thanks :0(

[Texinator]

A threesome is just gonna put a nail in the coffin, Moni. If it's with another girl then you will become jealous, and if it's with another guy then he will. Also, if he enjoys the experience then he's more likely to be interested in having more of them rather than having regular sex with you again.

Both of you need to sit together and figure out why he is not interested in sex with you. Problems in the relationship? Porn addiction for him?

[rcoreyus]

I could imagine a 3-some spicing up an already good sex life. If your sex life isn't good (sounds like it isn't), bringing in another person will only make it worse.

I have no objections to porn, but he absolutely should not be watching porn instead of having sex with you. This sounds to me like he has a problem

[StillLearnin]

If he's avoiding sex with you, then surfing for chicks and watching porn as soon as you are gone, he has a sexual addiction that needs to be dealt with, or it will destroy your marriage.
I agree with Tex. If you want to save your marriage, don't do the threesome. Address your marriage sexual problems first. Then when you are back to a good solid relationship, reevaluate.
I think threesomes only really work in a relationship if it is either very strong, or if it just for casual fun, where a breakup with your FWB wouldn't be a big deal, or if it's just strictly business (paid for). (that's just my observation of them, I've never personally experienced one)

[Moni306]

I personally think it is the porn addiction! If he looks at it daily and masturbates most of the week then I think he is getting used to his hand! Then he is used to the young girls also...I'm 40 and the girls he likes to look at are in the "teen" area of porn. Well we have the rule of him not touching or her but am afraid that a line will be crossed and I don't think I will be okay with that! But you are right...I don't think it will help us so will still look at other avenues. Maybe I should just jump him in the mornings when I want it...then I know he wouldn't be masturbating as he says he is not able to cum more than once a day. I'm just sexually frustrated and trying to figure this out...I love him!

Thanks tex!

[hello_pitty]

I have the same problem. When mother nature leave me its on all day and night. Its like I have to catch one at all times or its a problem. Sometimes I will rape my partner if he's taking to long stalling. Even when he's sleep I'll climb on top and get me. To be honest I LOVE IT. We dont have any children so that is what makes it fun.

Hahahaha at time when I WAS really horny I felt like that too...only he wouldn't let me because he was too tired or sore (his first year of work at his job was horrendous!)

lol this response reminds me of that family guy episode where Lois rapes Peter then the next he's sitting there eating baby cookies. Brian asks him "what's wrong" and he says "Last night, Lois was the man"....hahaha

[rachel801]

I also have a crazy sex drive, but it's interfering with my relationship. It worries my husband when I always want to have sex, and he doesn't. He worries I might cheat on him and he worries that he's not pleasing me. I try to explain to him that I'm healthy and young and at my most fertile, so maybe that's why. Plus he's super sexy. But this is proving to be a problem, so I have to hide it and fantasize by myself from now on...any advice?

[mr.mansview]

hiding it and fantasizing is not going to satisfy you..build up his ego..men love that apparently tell him he is so darn sexy that you need him,NOW..most men love when their wife or gf attacks them..that ego thing again..good luck rachel