[WildChild]

We don't share a household, so that's not really an option.

[Texinator]

Hide in the bushes outside his place? :tongue:

I'm sorry, I really wish I could give you better advice on this.

[WildChild]

Time will tell. I just go through these little times when I get a bit shirty about it. There aren't that many men that really attract me and I am kind of an odd mix. As you get older, it seems more difficult to find people who are healthy physically and emotionally, I've already done several years of nursing a sick spouse. I'm active but not sporty and really need someone who can keep up with me.

If we can get past this, he's exactly right in most ways.

[WildChild]

Just ran back through the entire thread- it's been going on for a year and a half. Wonder how some of these peoples stories worked out?

[PJhavinfunagain]

We are still struggling...

[WildChild]

Have you been able to get him to talk at all?

[Moni306]

Quite a few men who have posted here have lost their wives/women to sex toys, porn and masturbation as well.

Sweeping generalizations based on gender don't work anymore. There are lots of posters from both genders.

This is true of some women. But if a woman is married and has a high sex drive and her husband doesn't want sex with her or rather masturbate himself what is she to do. It would be better with toys, porn and masturbation instead of out cheating on him with another man or woman I believe. And here is a real possibility if a woman has to depend on those things to become to accustomed to the feel and visions to where that is the only way for her to be excited or orgasm....same true for men.

[PJhavinfunagain]

WC, not really since our initial discussions about my sex drives 180 a few months ago. I get the feeling he thinks I am nuts and should have more control. When we do I am a bit insatiable. I just want more! Is it that bad to want more than one O? I am happy to give him at least 2. It's hard for me to talk about as well, but I am learning. He has a tendency to chuckle at me (out of nervousness) he has promised to try not to but it makes me feel stupid. I also feel guilty, because I know I brushed him off a lot but am now getting tired of initiating all the time. I want to feel that he want's me. Yes now I know how he has felt for the last few years. At least I don't deal with the excessive porn or masturbating on his part. At least I do not think so.

[Texinator]

Yes now I know how he has felt for the last few years.

What was then? Did you have a low drive or were you feeling inhibited?

[PJhavinfunagain]

I had a low drive Tex.

Child bearing, surgeries, stress and over committing myself took it's toll. My drive was good before mommyhood. 4-5 times a week was good, during the low times it was 2 times a month. Now I am back to 4-5 per week would be good.