[Texasred]

Sometimes you find your libido lacking because in your daily routine you don't have as much contact, physical contact, between the two of you as you once had.
Instead of going to bed and reading or watching TV, for example, just go to bed and cuddle - and make a habit of it. That's sure to lead to more intimacy.
:-)
As another poster suggested, having sex can lead to wanting to have more sex, but conversely, doing it less often can lead to NOT wanting it as much.

[Texasred]

There's no easy solution to a problem like this. Telling someone to "just relax" or "be confident" without giving them the tools to do that is like a doctor telling you "You've got a broken arm," without setting it.
First step *might* be to show your bf what you posted here, and take the pressure off him to satisfy you. Think about how much fun you can have working on this together!!

[Bowlly]

Thank you for all your advice.
I know that having sex makes you want it more. But the problem didn't come from not having sex. Everything was perfectly fine, until i notices that i just don't really want it anymore.
We had a normal sex life before.
I don't know...

[Bowlly]

There's no easy solution to a problem like this. Telling someone to "just relax" or "be confident" without giving them the tools to do that is like a doctor telling you "You've got a broken arm," without setting it.
First step **might** be to show your bf what you posted here, and take the pressure off him to satisfy you. Think about how much fun you can have working on this together!!

thanks! You're right.
i think he's aware of what's going on but i never really talked to him about it. I think it's time.

[Texasred]

i think he's aware of what's going on but i never really talked to him about it. I think it's time.

So... how did that talk go?
I cannot imagine there being a man who, when his says "I want to want you more!" doesn't want to do all he can to help!

Recently I've read of a drug they're trying to get approved by the U.S. FDA that is touted as increasing a woman's libido - it's being called the "woman's Viagra"
Can't think of the name, it's something like "Flbbertygibbetarin" :-)

But when I googled "woman's Viagra" I came across several articles on studies that show Viagra *does* help women achieve greater arousal if not greater libido. So that might be worth a try too.
Best of luck!

[JessyJess]

Bowlly, did you look into the god particle 4 all sphere?
What did you think about it?
I would love to share experiences with you if you got it too.

[Bowlly]

Bowlly, did you look into the god particle 4 all sphere?
What did you think about it?
I would love to share experiences with you if you got it too.

I looked into it and then forgot about it. But may look into it again.
What are your thoughts about it?

[JessyJess]

I looked into it and then forgot about it. But may look into it again.
What are your thoughts about it?

So far so good. I like it.
At least i think i do.
i think i'm gonna give it a few more weeks before i recommend it to people. Just to be sure.

[Bowlly]

Sounds interesting. I also read about it on some other forums. But i preffer to wait and see what you will say in a few weeks before i buy it.

[effy2014]

Bowlly:

Are you feeling a general malaise or is it specific to sex? Before thinking about taking supplements and drugs with no proven effectiveness, I would examine a possible emotional cause or cure. Depression, even mild depression, can effect desire in so many ways. You may not be completely aware that you are feeling depressed. Doing some self examination and talking this through with your husband is an excellent start. The drug that has been referred to earlier in the thread is Flibanserin, which has recently been approved by the FDA despite significant concerns about effectiveness and its side effects, works on the brain . . . certainly indicating an emotional component.

FWIW, Flibanserin is not a female form of Viagra. Us men usually do not need artificial stimulation for our libidos (lol). Viagra was an attempt to cure an actual condition (ED) and works to increase blood flow to help create and sustain an erection. It is far easier to fix physical issues then emotional ones. Stimulating desire with medication is very tricky. I would try some of the more conventional desire enhancers . . . reading erotic literature or watching erotic movies together, learning how to touch each other, reading about different techniques . . . all,of,which may be far more helpful. Even couples therapy to cement the great foundation the two of you have may help.