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  • No Pleasure during Penetration

    Hi-
    So here is the short description my post:

    I am female, I feel no pleasure during penetration, regardless if I am attempting to masturbate or if I am having sex with my boyfriend. It has always been this way for me and it's kind of wrecking havic on my relationship because I am 29 now and it's so hard to force myself through sex because it is boring with no feeling.

    To be clear, sex is NOT painful. it just doesn't feel like anything. just sort of like pressure in there and sometimes I can't even tell he's im there. side note: He is not "small"...I have this same issue with masturbation as well. it doesn't feel like anything.

    It's very disappointing to have the passion on high with your guy and want it so badly and then not feeling anything as soon as you get started. I have read posts like this before and I have seen several people chime in saying that it is normal for a woman to not feel anything. That doesn't make sense to me because every woman in my life who I have asked claims the exact opposite saying that it feels amazing to them...

    Help...

  • I am 26, and have kind of the same experience. I rarely orgasm when I'm with my boyfriend, and when I do it's only from clitoral stimulation. I've had better sex in the past, but it was with someone that was muchhh bigger. Have you tried any toys? And different positions?

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    • Hi. Yes, it's not just during sex...it is masturbation as well. I have mastubated with a vibrator and felt nothing. I have been with him for 3 1/2 years and tried many things and I feel nothing in there.

      I have tried so many things while masturbating as well and there's just nothing. I do feel pleasure during clitoral stimulation but nothing internal. :/

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      • Please accept my deepest and most sincere empathy for you guys. Sex should be fun and enjoyable for both.

        I'd recommend seeing a physician. There might be a physical problem that can be easily treated.

        I wish the best for both of you.

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        • The majority of women (about 75%) don't orgasm through penetrative sex so need clitoral stimulation during intercourse.

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          • Originally posted by Maisie Dayz View Post
            The majority of women (about 75%) don't orgasm through penetrative sex so need clitoral stimulation during intercourse.
            I agree. There are two positions from which my g/f can orgasm. But she has do to it. I can't help her. She has to adjust herself to assure her clit is stimulated.

            I've yet to meet a woman who didn't prefer oral sex as their primary mode of orgasm. She can cum many, may times with my head between her legs.

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            • Originally posted by Maisie Dayz View Post
              The majority of women (about 75%) don't orgasm through penetrative sex so need clitoral stimulation during intercourse.
              Hi Maisie, I did know about the most women not being able to orgasm through penetration thing. But isn't penetration supposed to still feel good to a woman? I don't feel anything in there....which is the problem I am having. It's been that way all my life.

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              • lamjinxtx100,

                From my experience, women do want penetration after they orgasm. Very rarely will I cum in my g/f's mouth because I know she'll want penetration after her many orgasms. At my age, I have to conserve.

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                • Originally posted by Iamjinxtx100 View Post

                  Hi Maisie, I did know about the most women not being able to orgasm through penetration thing. But isn't penetration supposed to still feel good to a woman? I don't feel anything in there....which is the problem I am having. It's been that way all my life.
                  The pleasure in penetrative sex is in the mind, the emotional connection with your partner .... not a physical feeling.

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                  • Originally posted by Maisie Dayz View Post

                    The pleasure in penetrative sex is in the mind, the emotional connection with your partner .... not a physical feeling.
                    Does anyone have a suggestion about how to "reset" my mind set so that I could possibly experience pleasure the next time my boyfriend and I make love?

                    I have been telling myself that I am broken since I had my first sexual experience at age 16 so I am wondering if that's why I have not experienced pleasure during sex in the past 13 years... maybe it's because I know it won't feel like anything. Any advice is appreciated.

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