[CHANDLERS WISH]

You can bet what ever you think is unlikely has the opportunity on the same accord to be "somewhat" likely...

Sorry regarding the above paragraph...

CW

[rcoreyus]

The case I know of (or actually suspect), the man has no idea that his spouse is feeling abused - she won' tell him. He is an OK guy, but just not very preceptive, and he thinks she is enjoying it as well.

It isn't terrible - but I think she is doing things she doesn't really want.

I think the risk of being tied up by someone you don't know well isn't really all that much worse than just being alone with someone much stronger than you.

Actually, i had a restless night thinking on your thoughts there rcoreyus.

As a single woman. One whom is of the middle age generation almost whom obvious to most, is wanting to experience more of her sexuality.

What concerned me, was a relationship can be entered into sexually after a few dates, but do you really know that person? You may think you feel comforable after a few weeks to "try" various simple things such as my thoughts originally on "scarfs" being tied up, blindfolded but truth be known, your vulnerable aren't you? He could be anyone, couldn't he?

I appreciate that this would be slightly unlikely as we follow intuition however, point being you are right, in as much as you must be careful that you understand what you are doing, whom you are with and that you know that person quite well before entering that arena, as further more, their actions the second, third time may drift into a different sphere one that leaves you scared after perhaps...

You can bet what ever you think is unlikely has the opportunity on the same accord to be to "someone" likely...

Guess those little things can wait then.....

PS: ANON, thought about that pole thing to, mmmm.... would get in your way abit, harder to position to suit her i think, and, well i still like the more seductive version kind of has it's own feel about it.

But interesting thought.


CW

[CHANDLERS WISH]

The case I know of (or actually suspect), the man has no idea that his spouse is feeling abused - she won' tell him. He is an OK guy, but just not very perceptive, and he thinks she is enjoying it as well.

It isn't terrible - but I think she is doing things she doesn't really want.

I think the risk of being tied up by someone you don't know well isn't really all that much worse than just being alone with someone much stronger than you.

Sure, i appreciated that when i read it and understood and i would suspect she is a tad submissive?... However, i also suspect she will get to a point where she will just blurt something out at some stage, as we all do. Depends on the level of independence as i would have no problem saying, that's to rough, or what ever...and what's the point of doing something you are not enjoying on-going? Giving one satisfaction but not equal?

Well yes, most men are stronger than the female without a doubt but most females have nails, at least we can lash out a bit, bite it, only joking...

I just feel that you made a valid point perhaps not your intention but never the less, to women on the Forum who are experimenting a bit, single just started dating and take it for granted " he's a nice guy" not to worry when that may not be the case. So to be a bit more cautious until you've been with him for a while perhaps before being more adventurous plenty of other ways to be adventurous in the meantime, and still have some control, rather than none.

I'm not concerened at this point in time, but if things don't work out, you have me thinking ahead now and nothing wrong with that, really is there....

CW