[amy40]

Is it unusual for the woman to be the one to mostly initiate and/or schedule sex in the marriage?

[cathygirl]

In the long run that would be an issue. In the short run it goes that way for me and my husband often. It's kind of streaky. But I would not like it if he stopped initiating ever. I would wonder what was wrong, and I'd try to see what we could do to change it. So far it has been pretty balanced for us over time. How long are you talking about?

[amy40]

thanks cathygirl

just curious

[Stillness]

I don't think it's unusual either way. I do think it's bad if you're not getting enough affection or if you don't feel desired.

[muffin70]

Usually it's me that initiates sexual activity between wife and I.... but surprisingly on Sunday night wife was in bed reading when she just lifted up her nightie, pushed her breasts together and jiggled them about.... I didn't need asking twice

[amy40]

was she reading erotic fiction? something she was reading made her think of you

[muffin70]

was she reading erotic fiction? something she was reading made her think of you

no it was a woman's magazine....nothing sexual or erotic about it *laughs* - I think she was just in the mood, and I am more than happy to oblige when she is :-)

[checkers]

I think each relationship dynamic is different. I would say my husband initiates most of the time and he certainly never turns down if I do.

[amy40]

I do think it's bad if you're not getting enough affection

my mowing the yard didn't help to save his energy for me as he said "he's too tired"

[amy40]

seems he thinks we're "caught up" cause said how about next Tues (a whole week away from last night!)
I give up