[muffin70]

I was talking to my wife about our love making the other day and said I’d like her to give me some foreplay now and then – as she very rarely touches my penis, except to guide it into her vagina for sex.

She last gave me a blowjob about 6 months ago (I wear flavoured condoms for BJ’s) and she won’t allow me to cum during a blow job so she will finish me off by hand – but she doesn’t like sperm on her hands or anything, so if she does give me a hand job (which again is pretty rare) she will stop as soon as I start ejaculating to avoid getting any sperm on her

When she’s in the mood we usually kiss a few times then I start kissing her body / breasts, then I guide my hand down to her clit and start rubbing it with my finger as I kiss and suck her nipples. Depending on how turned on she is, she can orgasm in less than a minute or anywhere between 1-6 minutes. Doing this to her usually makes me rock hard

Once she has orgasmed, she moves to my side of the bed while I get a handkerchief ready (to clean up afterwards) then I get on top of her and we make love. She likes me to make love to her straight after she has orgasmed because she is very wet and she feels like our making love is sort of like a continuation of her orgasm…. She also prefers if I go very fast…. But sometimes when I go fast I lose the feeling and can start to go a little soft - I like to go a little slower so I can feel the sensation of my pen!s going in and out…

Once I have orgasmed she likes me to get off her straight away and get the handkerchief to wipe my pen!s clean so nothing drips onto the bedsheets. I’d prefer to just lie there and kiss her to thank her for allowing me to pleasure her, but I see where she is coming from…

She is worried that if she masturbates me / gives me foreplay before we make love then I won’t last long during sex – and I can only last about 2 minutes normally anyway…
Plus she said if we don’t make love straight after she has orgasmed then she will ‘lose the mood’

I don’t want to force her to masturbate me or give me some foreplay, but it would be nice if she did every now and then,

Does anyone else have a similar problem with their partner?

[amy40]

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muffin70

[Stillness]

I think it's easy to oversimplify male sexuality. A woman sees her man with an erection and imagines that he doesn't need foreplay. He has an orgasm and in her mind he's satisfied. Because "men are simple creatures."

[amy40]

muffin........sex is not that complicated, talk to her some more and ask her to try things differently
also, nothing will change unless you BOTH try to change your routine

[WaveRider]

I've been hanging with the woman I'm seeing for 11 years. We used to be in an intense bf-gf relationship. Now we're mostly sex partners. For the most part, I no longer much care for her elitist and entitled personality. But the sex is the best I've ever had. At her age, she can have sex for hours. The other night she again discussed a threesome with another man. She has told me that it would turn her on to bang another dude and swallow his entire member while I can only watch and not participate. When he's done with her, then I can do her. I don't know the origin of this fantasy, but she has it planned intricately, including how he's to bang her and how I'm to watch her give him head. The point is, she's the most horny woman I've known.

As far as foreplay, I have to be very careful. If we have hours, I'm good for two. If not, I have to conserve. I'll make sure that she'll cum many times. When she tells me, "I want you inside me," she'll give me head until I have to stop her, bend her over, and bang her like a screen door in a hurricane. She loves rough sex.

I have no clue of how many sex partners she's had in her life. She was a rich girl at college far from home, with a hyperactive libido. The other night while we were dining and drinking at a sports bar, something on TV motivated her to mention name she hadn't before. She said that she had forgotten about him because they were just hook-up buddies. She always had to have a dude on line who'd bang her brains out when she needed it. And as hard as this is to believe, she told me that after she hit puberty, she needed it every single day and many times a day.

So with her, I know that foreplay to her satisfaction is of paramount importance. If I cum too early, she'll want more. And she can go for at least two hours.