[WaveRider]

Hi Jessa1998,

Do you enjoy threesomes with two dudes? I'm asking because my g/f has asked me many times to bring another dude for a threesome. I'd do it for her if circumstances were close to perfect.

BTW, my g/f has had many sex partners. She prefers girth to length. She has told me many times that my package is perfect size for her.

[a_dub]

The sex I have enjoyed most has not been with the men who have the biggest packages. They have been mostly average.

Is that around 5-6 inches?

[amy40]

the past couple weeks a lot of neighbors have been out and all us women with kids have been talking a lot

yes you're right, waverider about conversations

but I'd rather do it, then talk in detail about it
especially since discovering the back of our vehicle in garage works quite nicely

WaveRider

[WaveRider]

Hi amy40,

Women conversations are a lot different than a man-woman intimate conversation.

My g/f and I were (we still are) able to have extremely explicit sexual conversations very early in our relationship. I'd listen intently while she talked about sex. She'd tell me what she liked & didn't & what she wished men would have done to her. She does not like tender love making. She wants rough, hard porn star sex. She wants her butt slapped and dirty talk, graphic dirty talk. She made that very clear early on.

The best sexual conversations we've had were while we were eating dinner & drinking wine. After 3 glasses, she has no inhibitions. That's when sh'd become graphic, which was how I knew what to do after she got naked. When she's naked, I treat her like a porn star. Outside of a bedroom, I treat her like a queen, especially in front of her family.

Sexual incompatibility can destroy a relationship. Open & honest communication about sex without judgments can cure sexual incompatibility. Many men seem to allow illusory pride and preconceived notions to prevent them from talking sex with their wives and girlfriends. I've always been able to talk sex with women I've dated. I knew very early on, maybe on the first date or no later than the second date that my current g/f has had a lot of sex with a lot of sex partners. I don't do the numbers thing, and what she's done before she's met me is none of my business, but were I to guess, I'd go with her having done somewhere in the vicinity of 30 dudes. That's going all the way back to her high school, risky sex years. She was very promiscuous in college. I'd guess that college dudes probably referred to her as a s_l_u_t. I don't care what she did in college. I care about what she wants me to do to her in bed. So far, assuming she never does another dude, she has said I'm the best she's ever had. It's not even close: she's the best I've ever had. We owe a lot of our incredibly fantastic sex to our ability to communicate openly and honestly about sex without judgments, and almost all of our sex talk is out of bedrooms.

I cannot emphasize this enough: men need to talk to their wives and girlfriends about what they want from sex. There must never be judgments. Never demean a woman for what she tells you. If she trusts you, she'll tell you the truth. Were she to tell you that she did orgies with her college football team, never, ever demean her. That was years ago. Look at the future. Never dwell on what a woman might have done. If you do, if you violate her trust, and your relationship will be on a highway to a destruction zone.

I wish I knew when I was younger that talking sex before sex was a lot better than tying to figure out what she wanted during sex.

If I were able to give dudes advice, not that I claim to be a sexpert: never demean a woman for her sexual past (all women have a sexual past), never violate a woman's trust.

[amy40]

Women conversations are a lot different than a man-woman intimate conversation.

WaveRider

we've never had such detailed sex conversations
maybe if we ever drank together, our conversations would be more like yours?

[Jessa1998]

Hi Jessa1998,

Do you enjoy threesomes with two dudes? I'm asking because my g/f has asked me many times to bring another dude for a threesome. I'd do it for her if circumstances were close to perfect.

BTW, my g/f has had many sex partners. She prefers girth to length. She has told me many times that my package is perfect size for her.

YES. Yes, yes, yes. OH yes.

Does that answer the question?

[WaveRider]

Hi Jessa,

Thanks

For about a month, she didn't mention it. The other night, she was graphic about wanting another dude in bed with us. She wants me to find a resort where she can watch other couples having sex. But what she really wants is to be watched while having sex, that and completely submitting herself to the desires of another dude.

[Texasred]

Is that merely the opinion of two wined to the limit women, or is it true with most women?

There's a Latin term that appllies here, I think:
"In vino, veritas"
But this is one hilarious thread!

[Texasred]

All men should know that regardless of their package size, they should always listen without judgment, to their wives or girlfriends if they suggest a sex act or something she likes.

Especially their girlfriends! :-)
Mine tells me girth is much more important than length, but I suspect she's just trying to spare my feelings ! :-))

[Texasred]

WaveRider

we've never had such detailed sex conversations
maybe if we ever drank together, our conversations would be more like yours?

I'm going to refer you back to my "In vino, veritas" comment...
:-)