[Nique 30]

Ok so my guy came home from work this morning, 6 a.m. to be exact. He's a cook at IHOP, works the grave yard shift. I cuddled under him like always, once he laid down, he got rock hard, so I asked if he wanted me to handle him, (since it's my job to make him soft, every time he gets hard). So I climbed on top, I'm riding, then he grabs his phone and starts watching porn. Holding the phone right in front of him like I'm not riding him. What does it mean? I need to know before I put him on punishment! Then I will be no cookies for him, no time soon.

[jns]

Do you two ever view porn together? Has he used in the past to climax faster or get even harder? It sounds rude and many will take it that their guy doesn't think that they are attractive or sexy enough. Is there another reason or was he acting like a jerk?

[Texasred]

It really does sound odd.
Do you have a light on in the bedroom? I cannot imagine anything more stimulating than seeing a woman riding me, but when it's dark, I feel like there's something important missing.

[atskitty2]

Yeah some background would be helpful, such as what's asked above.

Is this a boyfriend, fwb, husband? How long have you been together?
Did you ask him why, or what he needed that you weren't providing?
What exactly did you do or say at that time?

Generally speaking it seems there's a lack of communication between you.

[Texasred]

...since it's my job to make him soft, every time he gets hard...

What an interesting turn of phrase!

[WaveRider]

It's insignificant. My ex-g/f and I used to watch porn a lot. It made her very horny. I have her on video masturbating while she was watching porn. She loves "amateurs" which aren't amateurs; they're actors. She also likes bondage, a woman being worked by multiple men, and anal. Well-endowed porn actors get her attention. I can't recall ever banging her while watching porn, but I can remember her giving me hand jobs while we were watching porn.

My ex-g/f was an authentic bedroom porn star. She told me she could've done porn while she was in college if her parents wouldn't have learned of her extracurricular activity.

Watching porn is a huge nothing. If he has to watch porn to get off, porn ain't the problem.

[Ashlee T.]

It would not be insignificant to me. If I offered to "handle" my man and he watched porn instead of me, like I wasn't even there, I'd be livid. Unless it's something we had discussed previously (which in the OP's case it doesn't sound like happened), then she has every reason to feel used, disrespected, etc in my opinion.

[Baboy]

Nique, in your position (so to speak) I think I would be a tad put off. When a girl is riding me, I want to see her face, her body, reach for her breasts and be in the moment. Here, what is stimulating him is not you, but the porn. You could be a fleshlight for all he cares.

I can see several possible responses, apart from ignoring it as WaveRider suggests. One would be to immediately jump off and join him in watching the porn on his phone. It must be pretty riveting stuff indeed, so he should share. Another would be to stay in place, but grab your own phone and watch your own porn. Or call your mother and ask about shopping together tomorrow. Or grab that cookbook and start thumbing through recipes. Or start singing a rousing rendition of "100 Bottles of Beer on the Wall". Just a few ideas.

BD posted while I was composing at a snail's pace. Let's just say that with her post I find myself in respectful agreement.

[Ashlee T.]

LOL Baboy . I love those suggestions. "99 bottles of beer on the wall........99 bottles of beeeeeer" in a very monotone depressed voice. LOL

[Baboy]

LOL Baboy . I love those suggestions. "99 bottles of beer on the wall........99 bottles of beeeeeer" in a very monotone depressed voice. LOL

And I love your suggestion. I suggested a "rousing rendition" of 99 bottles of beer. But the monotone, depressed voice rendition would be wholly suited to the situation.