[WaveRider]

Well, let me start by asking what IS he doing? Is it intercourse? Is it manual stimulation or oral?

Excellent question.

[WaveRider]

Hi nyged5,

I hope this helps. Sex begins long before you get your clothes off. I'll use my ex-g/f as example again for a lot of reasons.

She'd get me going the second she got in my car. She didn't have to say a thing. Her look and clothing gave her away.

After her 3rd glass of wine, she'd talk sex, and graphically. She'd tell me about her teenage years when she used to sneak boyfriends into her parents' house and bang their brains out. The more she talked the hornier she got, and me too. Her road head stories were extremely erotic.

Often she'd start taking off her clothes on the way home.

She was naked before the bedroom door closed. Behind a bedroom door, she's a porn star. There is nothing she won't do.

I'd dirty talk the heck outta her. I was all over her breasts until she could no longer restrain herself. She'd push my head between her legs, but I wasn't ready to play tongue music. I'd lick all around her most sensitive area until she was begging to cum. Then I'd begin to play soft melodies on her clit. She LOVES rough sex, as do most women, I suppose. Then I'd get the band involved. I'd insert a finger inside of her and massage the inner ridges of her vajayjay. Then I'd insert a well lubed finger inside of her butt. Now it was tongue music time. I knew just the right tune (pressure on her clit) to levitate her. When she came, she'd literally lose her breath.

Since then, I've bought her at least a half-dozen vibrators, one costing close to 2 hundred bucks, for her pleasure. She wanted butt plugs. I bought two for her. Her orgasms became astronomical. With a butt plug in place, I'd work her vajayjay's inner ridges with a black (color was her idea) vibrator while my tongue played heavy metal on her clit. Her orgasms were explosive.

After many orgasms, she'd rest for a few minutes. Then it was man handling time. She has never liked tender loving. She wants her brains banged out. I'd push her to her knees and tell her to open her already awaiting mouth. I'd rarely cum in her mouth, and when I did, she insisted I did. Then I'd yank her to her feet, turn her around, push down on her back (She loves it when her fingertips touch the floor, but this requires sobriety on your husband's part. He has to hold you to prevent you from falling forward.), give her a couple smacks on her butt, tell her to put it in, and I'd bang her like a cheap screen door in a category five hurricane.

She's recently stayed at my house for a week. She told me that after having sex with me for as many years as we have, she can't do it with another dude. So I worked her like the bedroom porn star she is.

If I were to opine what's most crucial for euphoric sex, I'd say begin long before you get in bed. Go out to dinner. Unintentionally intentionally flash him so only he can see. Tease the heck outta him. Wear revealing clothes. Grab his package and tell him what you're going to do to him. Lots of wet tongue dancing should get you horny. Finally, I've yet to meet a woman who couldn't cum from tongue music.

W/o revealing too much, my ex-g/f has had more than the average number of sex partners. She has told me many times that none were close to my performances. She's told me that I'm the only one who knew what to do between her legs. Her ex-husband and she were a sexual mismatch. He used to frustrate her when he went down on her. If your husband lacks musical talent, teach him how to play heavy metal on your clit. In fact, if he hasn't gotten you off in 15 years, he needs a lot of teaching. Tell him to get the band (his fingers) rocking, too. Tell him to dirty talk you.

BTW, the other day my ex-g/f asked me to buy a long, FAT black dildo for her. She has a pronounced fantasy for black dudes.

[Texasred]

nyged5, may I suggest that you try manual clitoral stimulation at the same time as you are being penetrated? One good way to do this is the "cowgirl" position which puts you in charge of the motion but lets your husband touch your clitoris with a thumb. Or you could use your vibrator at the same time.
I think you might like the result.
Best of luck!

[WaveRider]

Years ago, I knew a woman who had told my wife that she had never had an orgasm. Her husband of 20+ years had no clue of how to do it & she was too inhibited to teach him. So my then wife bought her a vibrator.

My ex-g/f told me last night that not being able to orgasm is a medical problem & nyged5 should see a physician. But that's not the case. She can orgasm. Her husband can't get her off, which is the problem.

Best advice: teach him how to get you off.

[Vistabella]

The problem is psychological. May be you are used to masturbating

[a_dub]

Sometimes I think guys think they need to "hit the gspot". Some "hitting" might be okay at times, but for the most part, it's consistent and gentle massage of the gspot that brings about the best orgasms. For me at least.

Is it easy to locate the gspot? I've heard its a spongier area of the vagina and that a guy can find it using his finger first and then he knows what to aim for with his penis.

Is there a role that penis shape (or size) plays in g spot orgasms?

[atskitty2]

It's an illusive thing a_dub. It's a small area on the inside wall, facing frontward. When your fingers are inside, it should be felt, or it should be close if you gently bend your finger toward the front side of her. Mine is placed oddly, tho, so it may take some effort. It's not always a "there it is!!" moment. It's a small area, and is supposed to have a slightly rougher feel than the surrounding tissue, however, mine does not. It is difficult to make contact during intercourse, but can be done. The anatomy of both partners, sexual position all are factors.

[Texasred]

It's worth the search... :-)