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Hi Texasred,
You're right, that could be a very broad range.
Keeping in mind that over the 10+ years I've on & off dated her, she' has told me a lot about her sex life. Two things that I remember about her many package encounters & she'll often repeat are small packages won't work for her, and one of her first boyfriends had a long package. He loved her blow jobs (she gives above average head), and he got a lot of 'em. What she didn't like was when he came, he'd grab the back of her head and shove it down her throat causing her to gag. She said that he was young and couldn't help himself. She did learn to look for cues that a dude was about to cum which allowed her to prevent gagging. It also helped her to prevent becoming a young mother.
When that woman gets three glasses of wine in her, I'll never know what she's gonna say.Comment
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I only once recall a woman mentioning my penis size. She said it was thick. A compliment I thought. Maybe she meant your short or not long lol. Naa I took in a positive way. Another time a recall a woman measuring it with her fingers has she was about to give a bj. She never said a thing. I know another women, (one my GF and I had threesomes with) said her ex was huge but she never said anything negative about mine and added I was a much better lover. Outside of this the penis size never came up. My sample size is about 25. Do women really talk about penis size behind mens backs??? Seems to me men have the hook ups about penis size and often over state what they have.Comment
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Lovcookie,
I wouldn't say that women talk package size behind "dudes' backs". But they will talk about package experiences. A woman I dated when I was in my early 20's told me that her former b/f was so tiny she she could give him head and suck his nuts at the same time. She was another woman who told me size does matter.
My ex-g/f didn't like tiny packages. It was a deal breaker for her. She likes 'em thick. She wants to feel a dude inside of her. 7" long & thick & she's happy. She didn't like dudes with long ones shoving them down her throat. She once asked me why all dudes wanted her to deep throat them. Youth.Comment
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Well, one thing I can't seem to stop doing is comparing my husband to my ex that I cheated with, and regret.
Everytime I pull my husbands penisout and hold it in my hand, I feel guilty because I think about how longer and thicker my ex was. I can close my eyes and feel it in my hand.
I can't seem to shake that thought.
We use a sleeve now, intermittently.
However when holding my husbands penis, I think of how he is smaller. It's not as exciting.
It does not make me as excited as when I held my ex's larger penis. I compare everytime. I wish it would go away.
I don't want my ex. It doesn't make me want to ho and cheat. However it does make me feel various things. Guilt, and a little angry that I can't be holding a larger penis.
Now, It was most likely also more exciting just holding the ex's because we were an old thing. It was like new again. I now had something in my hand to compareto my husnand.
I just hope anyone considering cheating with a larger ex, will see this and not do it.
I had forgetten how the ex felt. Now, It will forever be etched in my mind. Especially how it looked and felt in my hand. How I couldn't even barely put my mouth on it. That excited me because I knew I was going to get a larger penis.
I also don't make much noise with my husband. I moan with pleasure, here and there.
However for the minute or so my ex was slowly thrusting, I couldn't help but make louder vocal noises because I was excited, it felt larger and more stimulating. It was like an out of breath feeling from making noises and trying to gasp for air because my exhalation with noise was longer than my air intake. Hard to explain, I had no control over it.
I don't remember it being like that with the ex. Probably because I was with my smaller husband for so many years.
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Truthbombs4u,
Most women prefer girth & length to the opposite. There is nothing wrong with that. There is nothing wrong with comparing. Men do it all the time. There is a lot wrong with talking to your husband about it. I'm sure that every time he has to affix an apparatus to his package to give you the feeling you desire, he's reminded of your fling with Mr. Large.
Many years ago, while my friend & his wife & my ex were at a sports bar, my friend's wife told me that my friend was small & couldn't satisfy her. She wanted more. Then she hit on me. I lost all respect for her. She cheated on him many times before he yanked the plug on that relationship.
Think and fantasize as you desire. Don't demean your husband due to something beyond his control.
My ex-g/f has a huge mean streak. During her divorce, she yelled at her ex that he was the worst she's had. I politely told her that that was a horrible statement to say to any man, even if it were true (it was, according to her). Worse, she said it in front of her teenage son. The manner in which she said it made her look like she was promiscuous (she was). Soon after, her son called her the "W" word. She should've predicted consequences of her mean-spirited comment.
I've never, ever demeaned a woman. I certainly would never criticize a woman for her physical appearance (small breasted) or bedroom performance.
A side thought: **** shaming seems to be in en vogue or the meme of the moment. I think it reveals the true character (rotten) of the one airing private affairs. What happens inside of a bedroom ought to stay inside of a bedroom. There are exceptions that aren't **** shaming; e.g., forced sex. But what a woman might have done, who she's might've done, and how many she might've done is only her business. Revenge porn is worse.Comment
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Omg your post and replies infuriate me to no end. I'm sorry, but it's really hard to be sympathetic to you. The fact that you so effortlessly mentioned all of these details such as that you guys slept in the bed you and your husband shared, and that you told him your exs sizes. And to add the cherry on top you held his penis comparing it.
My God I feel for that poor guy, he's putting on a tough face but you've seriously made him feel less of a man and inadequate and the worst part? Sadly like some women you're being patronizing for the sake of "feelings" which to us hurts even more. RIP the bandage off and let him heal, but don't keep him in this state of limbo where his heartbroken, his own wife not only cheated on him but rubbed it in his face in a scorching way and worse yet, she's lying and I know she is
It messed you up? Honey, this is all your fault.the man's penis is above the world average and he's still made to feel inadequate and worst yet he's willing to stomach the already emasculating penile comparison by adding a sleeve, because his penis can't statisfy you.
And what's ****ing me off is why can't some women just say what they mean or say the truth without the hurtful part. Why do add the extra lies that dont make sense. You say he's the best sexual partner you've had and he doesn't have a small penis, yet the majority of this post is you reminiscing the phantoms of your ex in you, who I might add probably got a kick out of humiliating you and your husband (I slept with your life and she let it happen).
If you truly thought about your husband you'd get a divorce and really really work on a speech to him that will tell him the truth but also genuinely establish that your actions have disqualified you from being worthy of being his wife and that he has every right to hate you and he deserves someone who respects him and acts like it.Comment
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