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Uneeklyme
Desire for your partner should reflect in many more areas of your life than just in the bedroom but if its not there it will eventually be an issue.

That's a good comment, actually we all posted at the same time, must like Milfred...

I think if your desire is there sexually, it over flows in lots of other areas of the relationship...

The guy feels like a King and she feels like a Queen and everything is roses, even an arguement, and especially the making up....

CW

[miffed23]

Thank you my little sugar plums - I should let you know that this isnt a current problem, the thread was about a past partner. I guess i was just thinking if it was the right thing to do or like Misslady said, its seems a 'waste'.

He was perfect in every other aspect, just nowhere near as...um.....dirty... as me I was never satisifed.

"What is the point in staying in a relationship that is predominately built on friendship"? - Yup, i totally agree, and this is what it was based upon.

[quote] "I see something lacking in you...A feeling that has not surfaced...A hot woman that does not know how to find that place within...Slowly dying and not knowing what she is dying from....If this is true and you marry someone that does not bring you to hot orgasm and continues to make that pot warm but not boil it will probably be disasterous...I say this for one reason...You already feel the heat pains of want...What if this man does not make you sexually explode like a woman should? That is a joy that no woman should be deprived of....Unless she truly does not want to visit heaven....."[quote]

Caroline, i am convinced that you know me...lol....you are always spot on. Unfortunately, the married man helped me find that place within and now, i doubt anything will equal that experience.

So, basically i need a combination of a man that matches the married man sexually and matches the ex's personality.


Anon, what you said about fearing being alone and not wanting to cause someone else unhappiness is very true. It took me a year to work up the courage, i did not want to hurt him, as he hadnt neccessarily done anything wrong, we just werent sexually compatible.

Uneeklyme - you brought forward great pointers, it is possible to improve someone that is so-so in the sack....which he was....he wasn't appauling or completely useless...i believe it was more a case of me developing and seeking more, i was only 19 when we first started dating, and back then i remember thinking wow, this guy is hot....but after 3 years together, id explored myself sexually, so to speak, educated myself much more and basically wanted more. He was, unfortunately, still stuck as a 19 year old....

Thank you all for your responses, sorry this reply is a long old story....

Love and chocolate, MILFRED xxx

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Milfred, Milfred, Milfred.... lol....

That's unfair? This was your past? lol... Sucked in to all in a good way

Good to compare hey...

Good to comprehend the difference of the two...

But, one was hot, hot, hot, and you are well, hot, hot, hot, so the sparks flied ten fold.

The other was oh so nice, care, care, care, ?

There is a mixture, there is a soul connection in dirtiness ( hehehehe) there is.... trust me as well as "nice"... cool, etc....

All i'm saying...

It can happen remember and believe that, it's as true as i'm typing, true.

The hot desire Caroline talks about? Absolutely fact...

Find little Miffed23? WHo the hell is she? Sorry Milfred.. And you won't need to find other's they will find you... This also is a "fact" um, true, the barman 26 ( sorry Anon) came over with venue tickets today after working hours to me, a month ago, he followed me where ever i went? Tonight a MySpace saw me and wouldn't leave me alone? 28 back luck Anon... lol, can't help myself...... 55? Na... 20's ..

The Point being, i can go there, but i prefer passion...

The rest i can't discuss here But, the point again being, i'd go and you'd go with sexual desire with lust and passion ( as C) preferred to a romp of sex? WT? What for?

So you have learnt lots about you, keep learning babe...

And, don't need to seek, they will find, you just have to choose wisely...

xxxx


CW
Chandlers
Kel? Who is she?

Who cares...

[C]

[quote=miffed23;41295]Thank you my little sugar plums - I should let you know that this isnt a current problem, the thread was about a past partner. I guess i was just thinking if it was the right thing to do or like Misslady said, its seems a 'waste'.

He was perfect in every other aspect, just nowhere near as...um.....dirty... as me I was never satisifed.

"What is the point in staying in a relationship that is predominately built on friendship"? - Yup, i totally agree, and this is what it was based upon.

[quote] "I see something lacking in you...A feeling that has not surfaced...A hot woman that does not know how to find that place within...Slowly dying and not knowing what she is dying from....If this is true and you marry someone that does not bring you to hot orgasm and continues to make that pot warm but not boil it will probably be disasterous...I say this for one reason...You already feel the heat pains of want...What if this man does not make you sexually explode like a woman should? That is a joy that no woman should be deprived of....Unless she truly does not want to visit heaven....."

Caroline, i am convinced that you know me...lol....you are always spot on. Unfortunately, the married man helped me find that place within and now, i doubt anything will equal that experience.

So, basically i need a combination of a man that matches the married man sexually and matches the ex's personality.


Anon, what you said about fearing being alone and not wanting to cause someone else unhappiness is very true. It took me a year to work up the courage, i did not want to hurt him, as he hadnt neccessarily done anything wrong, we just werent sexually compatible.

Uneeklyme - you brought forward great pointers, it is possible to improve someone that is so-so in the sack....which he was....he wasn't appauling or completely useless...i believe it was more a case of me developing and seeking more, i was only 19 when we first started dating, and back then i remember thinking wow, this guy is hot....but after 3 years together, id explored myself sexually, so to speak, educated myself much more and basically wanted more. He was, unfortunately, still stuck as a 19 year old....

Thank you all for your responses, sorry this reply is a long old story....

Love and chocolate, MILFRED xxx

Wonder why I call you Miff: Must be hardening of the arteries..

Point #1...Get one dirty...They are the most wonderful in the world..Point being...They let you be dirty and feel good about it...I know I live with one...

Point #2 and #3...Married man showed you how erotic that sex can be....That is good...Now you know what many, many, many, many, many women will never know nor felt what you have found as a woman...Find it again with the right guy.....I am sorry hon, but mine is taken....

Remember all those hot feelings and go with them....Otherwise you will live with another pretending that you are not there, but instead in another man's arms...Much love, Caroline

Point #4...I will take the love and make it See's Chocolates...Three pound box of mixed milk chocolates...xxx

[shopgirl]

Maybe just bear in mind too that no one on earth will satisfy every single one of your needs so be cautious of thinking there might be someone else better out there.

Thats down to you to weigh up though.

Good luck.