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  • Texinator
    Veteran Member
    • Sep 2009
    • 5556

    I wonder if he'd agree to that, since many men think that anything having to do with their anus is "gay."

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    • WildChild
      Banned
      • Sep 2008
      • 14142

      Statistically gay men have far less anal sex than heterosexual couples. They favor oral sex. Why don't men worry that wanting bjs is gay?

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      • Texinator
        Veteran Member
        • Sep 2009
        • 5556

        I don't know... I guess I don't think that anything a man and a woman do together is gay. ...unless of course he's fantasizing about some big butch dude while they're doing it.

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        • Hopeless Dork
          Veteran Member
          • Dec 2008
          • 4255

          Men want to plant a flag... lol. They want to be everywhere your body can hold a penis. They watch a lot of movies that depict anal sex as the bee's knee's... they hear rumours on the internet about how its such a tight tight spot and feels so good... though many men admit its not as good as the vagina, for some guys (especially bigger guys) they say it can actually hurt their penis trying to be in such a little spot, some say its not as hot temperture wise as the vagina, some can't get past the idea of when the last time poop was there or if it might happen while they are visiting lol.

          Its not for every guy thats for sure... but for some its just a curiousity, they want to do it so they can check it off their sexual scavenger hunt list. Some turn it into a fetish and they just love the idea of where they are doing it and its not about sensations its about doing something forbidden.

          For some guys, and especially guys with smaller members and major ego needs... it can provide them with great pleasure to be causing a woman to scream in pain because of their penis -- something that doesn't happen as often for them during vaginal sex.

          A lot of guys are curious about it, want to do it, do it, then wonder what all the fuss was about and leave it alone.

          As for you, lube lube lube and more lube and then add more lube. Have him be slow... google some sites that give very specific instructions on cleanlyness and personal safety as doing it wrong can yeild catostrophic medical results... he should never force his way in anally, it should be a slow process so that no tearing occurs.

          Some people can make it happen the first night... for others it can take days or weeks of building up little by little getting your body use to being relaxed enough and ready enough to take it.

          My boyfriend is the only one I ever tried it with and it took us a few different occasions of attempts before we made it happen... but as much as it did hurt... to be honest I did recieve some really good sensations, though not in my back door. It felt like the wall the penis was pressing against was stimulating a spot in my vagina very intensly... it causeed me to get more wet than I ever have.

          Its not something I would ever want to do on a routine basis, too much prep and too much damage control after (butt queefs for at least a day) but I'd do it again on a special occasion for sure.
          Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.

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          • LanaBear
            Veteran Member
            • Jul 2009
            • 8373

            Originally posted by Hopeless Dork
            Men want to plant a flag... lol. They want to be everywhere your body can hold a penis.
            Oh my, that is freaking hilarious!

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            • kake
              Junior Member
              • Aug 2010
              • 6

              ok--trying to humor him, but was just playing around and jst slipped the tip of my vibrator in his while I was giving him a bj....and now he's found a new playground. at first, it was like, ok.....now he's wanting it like that alot more and more. I know that physically the sensation is supposed to be mindblowing for the guy, if he actually wants it, but he's like addicted now......normal or not for a straight guy
              Kake

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              • Texinator
                Veteran Member
                • Sep 2009
                • 5556

                Originally posted by Hopeless Dork
                They want to be everywhere your body can hold a penis.
                Ooh, how about 'auditory sex'... "I hear you coming, babe!" LMAO

                Well, maybe if the penis were tiny or the ears elephant size.

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                • WildChild
                  Banned
                  • Sep 2008
                  • 14142

                  Originally posted by kake
                  ok--trying to humor him, but was just playing around and jst slipped the tip of my vibrator in his while I was giving him a bj....and now he's found a new playground. at first, it was like, ok.....now he's wanting it like that alot more and more. I know that physically the sensation is supposed to be mindblowing for the guy, if he actually wants it, but he's like addicted now......normal or not for a straight guy
                  Not at all unusual

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                  • Texinator
                    Veteran Member
                    • Sep 2009
                    • 5556

                    I should mention that even a tongue or a finger back there can do wonders for a woman if done right. As long as she is healthy and hygienic and he isn't squeamish, it can make for a great experience. Yeah, it doesn't do as much for the man physically as having his penis there, but sometimes it just should be "ladies first."

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                    • Rediscovered
                      Senior Member
                      • Feb 2010
                      • 118

                      My partner and I both enjoy anal play/sex and men have all sorts of fun areas they like to have touched and massaged between the "back door" and their manly parts...there are lots of books on the subject if you want to learn more about their anatomy and why it all feels good!

                      As for me, I love anal sex when I'm in the mood and I'm prepared for it...I actually get a bit of a craving for it and typically will ask him for it. He's the perfect size for me, though...and I'm sure that has a lot to do with whether a woman really enjoys it or not.

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