[GlasFel]

Up to you how you reveal things to your OH, you know better than anyone how he's going to react. Personally I think you're still worrying too much and overthinking everything. Just do whatever you feel like doing and hit hubby with it full on, see how he takes it. What choice has he got? You're the one in charge now, you're the cuckold wife. It's a dominant role, live it to the full and enjoy it!
The thought you're with your bull right now is so hot. I'd give anything to be in your OH's shoes.
Please update us soon!

[jane86]

Up to you how you reveal things to your OH, you know better than anyone how he's going to react. Personally I think you're still worrying too much and overthinking everything. Just do whatever you feel like doing and hit hubby with it full on, see how he takes it. What choice has he got? You're the one in charge now, you're the cuckold wife. It's a dominant role, live it to the full and enjoy it!
The thought you're with your bull right now is so hot. I'd give anything to be in your OH's shoes.
Please update us soon!

I read this quickly last night but didn't have time to reply. However I totally agreed with what you said and I applied it. I decided honesty was the way to go, and if my husband couldn't take it, tough. After all, we're on this journey together and if we're going to make it work, we need to be on the same page. He needs to be able to withstand the jealousy and I need to feel empowered, not ashamed of what I'm doing.

But I was nervous. You must understand that I'm not used to being dominant in the relationship. When we role play, I'm always submissive, he's the one in charge. This role reversal is exciting for me, but I didn't know how he was going to take it.

I knew I couldn't do it "cold", so I did something I hadn't done before, which was to touch myself as I told him about the session with my lover. At first I did it subtly, under the covers like he does. I wasn't even sure if he could tell I was doing it. As I got more into the story and I came to the part about the BJ, I made it more obvious, until we both ended up out of the covers and openly masturbating together, which was a new one for us but I loved it.

Just as I was about to climax, I told him the guy had cum in my mouth and I'd swallowed him. He said 'OMG did you?' and I was so close by that point, I went 'yes and it tasted amazing' and I came, and straight away he came too and it looked to me like he was in absolute ecstasy, so I don't think I traumatised him.

Later when things had cooled down he asked me if it was true that I'd swallowed him, it was harder to say it again from cold but I did and I was very matter of fact about it. I told him yes, it just felt natural to do it and I enjoyed it. He started touching himself again but I made him stop, told him to save it. I loved being bossy with him, telling him what he could and couldn't do. I feel I could get used to it, it's such a buzz. And if he enjoys it, as he clearly does, then it's all good, right?

[GlasFel]

what a very sad situation. it’s amazing how temptation can grow into full blown sin. and now what was once a marriage of 2 awkward people is now ravished in sin. we shall see who comes out of this unscathed. my guess is none of the 3 of you. sure sin is fun, but it always comes with consequences. you may be experiencing the fun part now, but i can guarantee that you will reap the consequences of your actions later.

I thought we weren't supposed to judge in this forum? You're entitled to your opinion, but belittling the experience these three people are having just because you don't agree with what they're doing, or because you personally consider it sin, isn't acceptable IMAO.

Jane, I'm delighted for you and hope this new chapter in your sex life keeps delivering everything you hope for and more. And could you please talk to my wife and try to explain how good it can be? Maybe if she hears it from another woman, she'll start to listen!

[Wednesday L.F.]

Apologies for the above comment. It has been deleted and the commenter contacted.

[Marknblue]

It’s funny how you remove my comment because “it’s judgemental” yet EVERY single post has someone’s perspective or opinion. you just don’t like the fact that i disagree with the behavior. i guess you can give an account yourselves because i will be reserving this one for judgement day. 1 Corinthians 6:2

and if you don’t like my judgment, you most certainly won’t like the judgment that awaits you for your actions. 1 Peter 4:17.

[jns]

Thanks for not judging. God knows I judge myself constantly, I know that from what I've written so far I must come across as a selfish, uncaring person but there's a lot I'm not saying because it's too complicated and boring. Like my daily struggle with guilt, the constant fear that this whole thing is going to blow in our faces, that my husband will suddenly snap out of the altered state of mind he's in at the moment, realise what he's done and not only call the whole thing off, but break up with me for allowing it to happen in the first place.

I'm also constantly battling with my own sexual greed. This sexual discovery has been invigorating as you say, but the trouble is that it's really, really addictive. My lover has a very high sex drive, even higher than mine. And he's made it clear that his door is always open, he's not seeing anyone else at the moment so I'm welcome to visit any time I want.

I work from home but right now there isn't much work for me, so apart from doing the housework and getting the groceries in, I have a lot of free hours during the day. The temptation to just get in the car and go visit my lover (who also works from home by the way) is almost overwhelming at times. The worst part is that my husband said I can go whenever I want, he'd prefer to know but it's entirely up to me. But I don't know if he's being 100% honest with me. I keep thinking 'what if he's just testing me? What if he actually wants to see how often I sleep with this guy if I'm given free reign?'

So I stop myself going as much as I'd like to, but it's torture. So far, every single moment I've spent with my lover has been utter bliss. And I know we're at the "honeymoon stage" as people call it, eventually I'll get used to him and it won't feel so special. But so far there's no sign of the excitement wearing off. I've seen him four times, twice with my husband present and twice on my own, and each time it's been better and better. I'm learning so much about sex and about my own ability to give and receive pleasure, and I'm still hoping that I'll be able to pass all this knowledge onto my husband, if he ever allows me to. Right now he seems to just want to hear about it and touch himself.

There's so much I've done with my lover that I'd never done before, and I'd love to be able to tell my husband, in case he wants to try it, but at the same time I'm so afraid of how he's going to react if he finds out I've done this stuff with someone else, when for years he's been asking for it and I've not allowed it.

In the early part of our relationship we tried anal a couple of times and I absolutely hated it, it was just painful and I couldn't see the point of it, when vaginal penetration felt so much better. So I made it clear it wasn't for me, and even more recently when we were trying to spice things up and he tried to suggest it, I I told him I wasn't interested.

But when my lover asked if he could do that I was already so aroused, I felt like I wanted him to do it. I was also curious to see if it would feel better with him. And now I'm a convert. Who knew it could feel so good? Who knew I could achieve orgasm from anal penetration? It's such a revelation, I feel like I need to share it with my husband, but how do I go about telling him about it, after denying him for so long?

As for oral, I do it sometimes with my husband but it's usually very brief and mainly a lead-up to penetration. I know what some people will say, 'can't you just do it as a treat for your husband like other women do?' and I guess this is another thing where I've been really selfish, but the truth is I never particularly enjoyed doing it to him. Once when we were young he got carried away and came in my mouth without warning me. I'd never allowed him to do that, so it took me by surprise, I ended up swallowing some of it and I was so disgusted and so angry with him, it caused one of the worst arguments we've ever had. It nearly ended our relationship. I felt used and betrayed, in hindsight maybe I overreacted but I wasn't very sexually adventurous back then (how things change...)

So I think the reason I never did it for very long was that I didn't want to risk him losing control and accidentally finishing in my mouth.

Now, I want to preempt any criticism by saying that my lover, as someone who used to swing with his ex-wife and still has casual encounters through dating sites, is usually very careful when it comes to protection. Even so, he gets himself screened regularly for STIs and even showed my husband his most recent test results when they initially met to discuss things.

On our two threesomes he always used a condom, so even when he came inside me there was no risk. When I first went to see him on my own, we started with a condom, he came once inside it, we then later resumed and he wore another condom but didn't cum. We stopped to rest for a bit and he took it off, then we were cuddling and kissing for a bit and I felt the urge to go down on him. He tried to stop me and said he was going to put on another condom, but I really didn't want the rubber in my mouth, I wanted to feel and taste his skin.

I told him that hubby and I have never been with anyone else and we're clean, and he said 'oh I know that, I'm saying it for you'. It was nice that he was concerned about my safety, but we'd seen his test results and although I knew there was still a slight risk, I felt that on balance it was a risk worth taking. I'm sure I'll get judged for it, but it felt right at the time and I'm not regretting it. My husband had said 'do whatever feels right with him' and this felt right.

By the way, I never planned on letting him finish in my mouth. I was just going to do what I do with my husband, get him hard that way and then ride him. But I never expected to get as aroused as I did. The skin on his penis felt and tasted so different from my husband's, and he had such a wonderful way of voicing his appreciation of what I was doing, it made me feel really good. He was holding my hair and sometimes pulling it harder, which hurt a bit but in a good way, like he was communicating his arousal through his hands as well as his voice. There was also this intoxicating aroma coming from his pubic area, which I guess was from the orgasms I'd had on top of him earlier. Somehow smelling my own vaginal fluids on him really went to my head, I felt ridiculously turned on and I reached down to touch myself. I gave a few strokes and started to cum, and at the same time felt his penis throbbing in my mouth. He tried to pull my head away, but I was already mid-orgasm and found that I didn't want to pull away, I wanted him to cum in my mouth. I signalled this by pushing my head back down and he gave up struggling and let himself cum.

It was incredible to feel myself cum, and at the same time feel his semen shooting out inside my mouth. He's very vocal with his pleasure which I love, he was screaming, grunting and wriggling underneath me and his stuff kept gushing out. I began to taste it and incredibly I found I wasn't disgusted in the slightest. It tasted how I remembered it, which is the the same way it smells, so that in itself wasn't a big shock. The shock was that I found myself wanting to swallow it, and I did. It was only the second time in my life I'd ingested semen, but it couldn't have been more different from the first time. There was no disgust, no gag reflex, it felt natural and loving, it felt like a special treat I was giving the man who'd been pleasuring me for hours. It just felt right.

For me it was another life changing moment and I wish I could do that for my husband. But if I did, I know what he would think. He'd immediately figure out that I'm doing it to him because I've already done it with my lover. It would be like admitting I'd kept this secret from him.

To be clear, I did confess to my husband that I'd given the guy a bj without a condom, and that I'd subsequently also had penetration with him without protection. He kept asking me for more details while he masturbated over it and I'd run out of things to say, so I took a risk and told him about taking off the condom in the hope that he'd find it a turn-on. Which he absolutely did. But for all the reasons I already explained, I didn't feel that I could tell him about the swallowing, so I told him I let the guy finish on my boobs.

I don't like the dishonesty, but I know that to confess to the swallowing and the anal would really hurt his feelings. Why would I do that to him? I'd rather deal with my own guilt and tell him other stuff that I know he can deal with. Or am I just digging a deeper and deeper hole of deceit that I'll never be able to climb out of? These are the fears that go through my mind all the time at the moment.

I think that if you include the new activities with your husband, he will be supportive of your exploration. Maybe you can include some instructions so he understands what you want better and how to be a better lover. I would think that some instructions while making love would work but instructions afterwards may be better and he may have a better chance at following them the next time. After all, it is hard to think straight during extremely good sex, which is what he may consider it. This also gives anticipation of the next time.

Have your kids started wondering what is going on? Kids are very perceptive. Good sex often seems to make women glow. From appearance to attitude to actions, many things change in often subtle ways. Further, your husband may be doing things with the kids that he normally wouldn't do solo. Do you have a cover story for their curiosity??

[Marknblue]

I think that if you include the new activities with your husband, he will be supportive of your exploration. Maybe you can include some instructions so he understands what you want better and how to be a better lover. I would think that some instructions while making love would work but instructions afterwards may be better and he may have a better chance at following them the next time. After all, it is hard to think straight during extremely good sex, which is what he may consider it. This also gives anticipation of the next time.

Have your kids started wondering what is going on? Kids are very perceptive. Good sex often seems to make women glow. From appearance to attitude to actions, many things change in often subtle ways. Further, your husband may be doing things with the kids that he normally wouldn't do solo. Do you have a cover story for their curiosity??

You are disgusting. you bring children into your sin? Let me just say that there is a special place in hell for people like you. Luke 17:2. I will gladly see you enjoy the fruits of your sins

[jns]

jane86 somewhere down the line you will look back on this and realize that your rational mind was not in charge. You are taking chances that the old you would have never taken. I am not saying this to put you down in any way. Besides the dopamine that I talked about earlier, you have extra serotonin and extra oxytocin running around. A very mind bending mixture that I have experienced though probably not to the same degree you are currently having. Best wishes on everything coming out perfect.

[Marknblue]

jane86 somewhere down the line you will look back on this and realize that your rational mind was not in charge. You are taking chances that the old you would have never taken. I am not saying this to put you down in any way. Besides the dopamine that I talked about earlier, you have extra serotonin and extra oxytocin running around. A very mind bending mixture that I have experienced though probably not to the same degree you are currently having. Best wishes on everything coming out perfect.

why do you quote Patrick Henry? He, like you, was a slave owner. Your advice is NOT from God. You speak from the perspective of your Father, the Devil. Please stay away. Your ways are evil

repent! for the Kingdom of Heaven is near

[jns]

In my humble opinion, you and your husband have fundamental problems. I don’t think it’s sex related. From your original post and subsequent post, it’s clear that you are dishonest with your husband. I think that is something you need to consider. Any relationship, either with your husband or perhaps lover, ought to be based upon truth. If you experience a 99 out of 100 with your new partner and only 1 out of 100 with your husband , i would encourage you to be straight with your husband. It might be extremely painful for him to hear, but it is necessary. Please, as a man who is experiencing his 2nd marriage ending, communication is important. honest communication is vital.

I understand you are now being satisfied by your threesome lover. It also sounds like you are concerned that your husband’s needs are not being met. Both are understandable. That being said, the two of you might want to consider “swinging”. You can find couples like yourselves who have similar interests and desires. That way it’s not just you getting her needs met with the “new” guy. It’s the two of you getting each other’s needs met even if it’s not from the other

ok. the weird thing is he wanted the threesome originally. now it’s you who is dictating the sexual fantasy and erotic experience. you got your needs met. am i right? exceeded your expectations? when are you going to reciprocate? he still hasn’t had another woman. all you seem to mention is your “wonderful experience” that never would have happened if it wasn’t your husband’s idea. frankly, i don’t think you are really even trying to meet his needs. if you were, you’d invite one of your female friends over so your husband can have his way with her

must be nice. and convenient for you. i guess you get to have your cake and eat it too! lucky you!! too bad it’s mostly about your pleasure and comparing your husband to your lover. you get to choose which one YOU want. i sure hope it’s all you want. but then again. it’s you, you , you.

what a very sad situation. it’s amazing how temptation can grow into full blown sin. and now what was once a marriage of 2 awkward people is now ravished in sin. we shall see who comes out of this unscathed. my guess is none of the 3 of you. sure sin is fun, but it always comes with consequences. you may be experiencing the fun part now, but i can guarantee that you will reap the consequences of your actions later.

It’s funny how you remove my comment because “it’s judgemental” yet EVERY single post has someone’s perspective or opinion. you just don’t like the fact that i disagree with the behavior. i guess you can give an account yourselves because i will be reserving this one for judgement day. 1 Corinthians 6:2
and if you don’t like my judgment, you most certainly won’t like the judgment that awaits you for your actions. 1 Peter 4:17.

You are disgusting. you bring children into your sin? Let me just say that there is a special place in hell for people like you. Luke 17:2. I will gladly see you enjoy the fruits of your sins

why do you quote Patrick Henry? He, like you, was a slave owner. Your advice is NOT from God. You speak from the perspective of your Father, the Devil. Please stay away. Your ways are evil

Do you have a point? You seem to be all over the place.

[Wednesday L.F.]

Methinks Mark likes to stay up late judging people. He is banned.