[rcoreyus]

Is it really true that that most women want an agressive lover in bed (code for "bent over and shagged")?

Wonder if women who enjoy sex more, and more frequently also enjoy it rough? What is cause, and what is effect?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Is it really true that that most women want an agressive lover in bed (code for "bent over and shagged")?

Wonder if women who enjoy sex more, and more frequently also enjoy it rough? What is cause, and what is effect?

I think what we don't want is "boring"... "Bent over" is still adverturous, and exciting and you feel sexy, a Woman, just as much as being pushed against a wall, or hand's held back whilst making love...

Just not boring, jump on top do it, it's over..

It's control, then man is in control and it feels good to feel submissive, a little girl, un-able to resist.

The effect is extremely turned on, instant as apposed to having to think, relax, feel, it's there and then, created in a few seconds not minutes, just as much as it's over, there and then as well, so to speak.

Raw passion, immediate passion....

Not what i would want all the time, certainly but something i love never the less.

CW

[rcoreyus]

I ask because I know my wife doesn't like anything that even hints at being agressive. But then here interest in sex seems very low in any case.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I guess it's a bit "cave man" man taketh the woman...

Some women like that feeling, not always, there is room for different forms of passion obviously, that one is just in my books "horny", whilst other passions are "sensual" or "sexy"...

Perhaps your wife is purely a "sensual woman" or as other's would say i am sure, the way she was bought up and can't change that thought.

CW

[Guest]

Is it really true that that most women want an agressive lover in bed (code for "bent over and shagged")?

Wonder if women who enjoy sex more, and more frequently also enjoy it rough? What is cause, and what is effect?

Not really.

[maz33]

My thoughts:

Women want to feel like their man could protect them and himself if necessary. So if a man is too nice and gentle we subconsciously worry that he wont be able to, and this can be a turn off.

We always want what we can't have so tend to chase the men who play "hard to get"; men do the same when it comes to women don't they?

Also, from my personal experience in younger years, I didn't always trust the decent guys who were really nice to me- I tended to think they were just doing what they thought was necessary in order to get their wicked ways. So I'd choose the ones I thought were not playing a game!