[miffed23]

Do you get as much sex as you want from your male partner? And is it "the way you like it?"

No. And no.

Single at the moment, but my past relationship (3 years) ended for this reason (amongst other things). I dont believe in this nonesense that men have a higher sex drive than women, ive never managed to find one that'll even match mine.

In all fairness, the second part of your question "is it the way you like it" - depends on how much communication you have in the relationship. If you dont tell him what feels good, you cant expect him to read your mind.

As far as future relationships go, i will be asking the man in question how much sex he likes to have before i involve myself... hahaha, im kidding... although....

[owlhunter]

Owlhunter if its not too snoopy what meds are you taking that does this? I have an internet friend whose husband was taking some kind of depression meds and they switched to WellbrutenXL and it kept his depression in check but let him have a normal sex life.

Meds are antidepression meds. Efxor 150 mg per day. When I was on 75 per day situcation was much better. Hope to go back to lower level as soon as I sort out some personal problem.

I'll check out the meds you mentioned. Thanks.

[C]

Meds can be a big cop out...I have been on meds for years...High blood pressure, Zocor, Valium, Lorazapam and now settled on Zoloft...Down to 50 mg. a day plus blood pressure and Zocor...So many things are in your head that a person uses as an excuse...At age 47 they wiped me clean in a surgery...Took my uterus and ovaries out while I was sleeping..Tore me apart and then I started losing my hair...I will be doing a blog on my site on this tomorrow...Too many letters asking me this...So with me it was sink or swim...Big hunk of a man that women would bed down just like that...Either go find myself and turn into what I used to me or sulk and lose him...

I found the woman that I used to me...Without anything but Premarin....Hard drugs did not start until 15 years ago when a child tore my heart out...Believe me, I was on much higher doses then...BUT I forgot the problems...Became what we can all be...My husband needed Viagra...Used it for about 5 years...I took him off of this near 3 years ago...Did it in 3 months...Just became the sexual woman that I knew I was inside and turned her loose...Not only did I do that but I ejaculated and went wild...How wild this Forum will never know because the full extent of it has never been written....But believe me, I know what I am talking about....All this without ovaries, uterus and taking anti depressants...

So many problems that man and women have are mind games...Only finding themselves can they go forward....D*m, I just never learned to go go in reverse...Never taught myself....My worst problem of all the things that I have ever encountered is dealing with youth.... Blows my mind but then it shouldn't....I wouldn't have believed a woman could be how I was when I was young either......So I write and my lover grins...Life is good..TC, C

[C]

Owlhunter: I did want you to know that I was not trying to put you down about the anti-depressants, but instead letting you know what you can do without them..Not that I am trying to talk you out of them, but sometimes things can work on our minds and make them happen because we expect it...I know this more than anyone, but I battled it...Just because they say this will do this, does not mean that it will. A jar of something can say it will make me fat, but it is me that will make me fat, and not the contents...The same goes for pills...I believe women slowly die from worrying about aging and losing their hair and just about every other thing that there is to worry about..They hide their age rather than tell it...All in the games that we people play....When I changed my husband around he never knew what I was doing...He found out when he was reading over my shoulder as I was writing it up...Now I work with him....Never let him think about not getting hard...Keep him hard...Sexual contact...Dirty talking...Playing my game of baby come and get me....Playing with him when he needs it...Never letting him know what a hot and sexual piece of meat he is....

It is funny...Today we went out to lunch...Actually we do this just about every day...He drives me wild...I mean it has been 5 weeks since I have been mounted and I am hot...I was sitting next to this gorgeous hunk of man and looked at him and said....Baby, you make me feel so sexy.....His answer, honey, you are one of the hottest and most sexual women in the world.....This is how two people can make each other feel so good...Of course, I know I am and love it.....Keeping him there is much more of a challenge...Seeing this thread is about getting enough sex....My answer is NO....I could have it five times a day and never get sore....BUT man ages....He can only go so far....He must not be over used or feel he is inadequate....He must be put on a pedestal and worshipped for all that he is.....And he should be cherished until the day he dies because when this happens, part of you will die too...

These are my thoughts of the day....I just drop something every now and then that I feel is also important to all the silent readers...They are the ones that listen to me....TC, C

[Nerd]

No, I can never seem to get enough

What I do get is fantastic! We generally go 4-7 times a week. I would like more more more...maybe because it's so fantastic

~Nerd

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Owlhunter, i noted also something very endearing..

That being that you stated that you make an attempt to remember to cuddle your partner after sex, i think that emotional connection and bond is highly important instead of "deed is done" roll over and sleep...

Good for you.

CW

[Machine]

Hello everyone I am new here and been reading this forum and is very informative. I am a male 33 just married (4 months) and she is 36. I have the opposite problem as owlhunter or any of your ladies. I almost alway want it (i can have it 3x a day) and she doesn't feel that way. We have sex about 2x a week, but thats not enough for me. When we were going out about 2 years ago WOW it was great. It is still GREAT "when we do it" but is just not enough. And i don't know what to do and I don't want to be angry about something like this. I kinda can't help it....

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hello everyone I am new here and been reading this forum and is very informative. I am a male 33 just married (4 months) and she is 36. I have the opposite problem as owlhunter or any of your ladies. I almost alway want it (i can have it 3x a day) and she doesn't feel that way. We have sex about 2x a week, but thats not enough for me. When we were going out about 2 years ago WOW it was great. It is still GREAT "when we do it" but is just not enough. And i don't know what to do and I don't want to be angry about something like this. I kinda can't help it....

Hi Machine, welcome to the Forum (is that why you picked your screen name?) Only joking.

If you view the sex threads, you will note that there are quite a few men that have protested simular to you.

The only difference is time ( 4 months ).. I take it you've only been together a couple of years based on your post?

It's strange how the "lust period" dwindles away and becomes here and there instead.

A lot of women complain that the man makes her feel like she is a "machine" instead of making love to her, making her feel wanted...

Maybe you can add to this for other readers to answer, although if i can suggest, start a new thread as otherwise you are taking away from this particular threader.

CW

[Machine]

Kool thanks, and no I didn't pick Machine for my name cuz of that. Really i just didn't know what to pick. I thought it was funny too after.

[nasan36]

Hi there! I'm new to this site. I actually searched and then signed up for this very reason. I'm 36, my husband is 37. We have been together a couple of years now and been married for about 5 months, but living together for a year. We have always had the problem of me not getting enough sex and having to initiate it most of the time as well. It was a problem before we married and still is now as well. I have confronted my husband about it quite a few times now and he always makes an effort after the discussion, but it never lasts. I have tried to be patient about it as he works a of a long day - up every morning at 5.45am and getting home at about 6.30pm some nights. We usually always do it a bit over the weekends, but maybe only once during the week, which isn't enough for me. When it disturbs me enough to upset me I find it effects my self-esteem because I feel like he isn't that attracted to me anymore (I had a baby 5 weeks ago). Sex isn't that spontaneous any more either. Not sure what to do about it. Any ideas most welcome.