[DarkFrost]

o_o Duh :P

[CHANDLERS WISH]

o_o Duh :P

Don't be cheeky or I won't answer you when you come back with something else

[Clara1983]

I agree I think she feels safe with you that you haven't asked or pushed her too much. You have the rest of your life to experience sex. You should just take i easy work up to it slowly. When I was your age I had already lost my virginity but I as a bit of a different kid in general. anyways the way I did it was going from heavy make out sessions and working my way up to full intercourse slowly step by step wth all the things in between if you knwo what I mean...and I kept my boyfriend on hold for a while there right at the edge of sex and he never gave me any trouble or it..was just patient .. I loved him for it...one day 3 or 4 months into our relationship I just told him I wanted to. I wish he would have put more priority in making it a bit more special but nothing is well thought out or organized when you are a teenager. Plus it's hard with planning around school and parents and finding a place... i remember

[Davey]

Ya, you have to be able to make it at least remotely special. I was in a similar situation as u, and we had our first time in a classroom at school (long story)

[Richard S]

There is always a risk in crossing the line into a sexual relationship. It's something we all face no matter how old or how young. The only difference with being older is you get better at managing the risk because you know yourself better. But you can never really know what's going on inside a girl's head when she's thinking about you. You have to guess, and sooner or later it comes down to you just being a guy, and letting her know that you want to take things to the next level. Then you take a step back and give her the space to make that choice. But you can never know where she's making that choice from. Maybe it's because she likes you too, maybe she feels she ready to lose her virginity and figures you may as well be the one. Or maybe she will just say "yes" in a single moment of time, and there is no reason, no reason at all. (Now please go back and read that last sentence again because it's important. Thank you.)

Good luck. Moments like this are the stuff of which lifetimes are made. But don't let that fact mess you up. Keep your head in the game.

[silvertae]

Actually, I really love her, and I really agree with you, Davey. It's just that I'd rather not cheat on her or something, I'd rather have sex with her, get it over with, experience it, and then go on loving her.
[And maybe some more later ]

There's no excuse for cheating. If you can't wait for her, break up with her. Don't cheat. The options are not "have sex with my girlfriend OR cheat". The options are "wait til my girlfriend's ready to have sex and then do it with her, making sure we're both happy and comfortable with the situation..OR...break up and find someone else who is willing to have sex with me".

I had sex with my boyfriend when I was 16 after waiting 5 months. That was the right time for me. But everyone is different. And I agree with someone else who said that if you can't talk to her about it, you shouldn't do it. But here's some practical advice. If you do have sex (or even just while you're still doing other things before sex) if you can't talk about it in person, hop online and chat with her. My first boyfriend and I spent a lot of time chatting on instant messenger talking about what we liked, what we didn't, etc going over our sexual encounters. I think this was a great way to communicate without the blushing that might occur face to face. It really worked for us.

[miffed23]

There's no excuse for cheating. If you can't wait for her, break up with her. Don't cheat. The options are not "have sex with my girlfriend OR cheat". The options are "wait til my girlfriend's ready to have sex and then do it with her, making sure we're both happy and comfortable with the situation..OR...break up and find someone else who is willing to have sex with me".

I had sex with my boyfriend when I was 16 after waiting 5 months. That was the right time for me. But everyone is different. And I agree with someone else who said that if you can't talk to her about it, you shouldn't do it. But here's some practical advice. If you do have sex (or even just while you're still doing other things before sex) if you can't talk about it in person, hop online and chat with her. My first boyfriend and I spent a lot of time chatting on instant messenger talking about what we liked, what we didn't, etc going over our sexual encounters. I think this was a great way to communicate without the blushing that might occur face to face. It really worked for us.

Great advice silvertae.

Dark, the fact that you havent even talked to her about it concerns me... you cant plan on having sex with her when you havent even received her consent and as much as you think youre in love (and you probably are to the extent that you know about), communicating with your partner is an important factor in a 'loving' relationship.

My advice, sloooow down and masterbate more

[Richard S]

Silvertae,

I like the tension between the contents of your post and the contents of your signature. Therein lies beauty, and wisdom.

[silvertae]

Silvertae,

I like the tension between the contents of your post and the contents of your signature. Therein lies beauty, and wisdom.

Why thank you. Can't take credit for the words of the signature. It's from a Mary Chapin Carpenter song. But the lines sure make me feel better when I'm freaking out about stepping out of my comfort zone.

[Uneeklyme]

Thanks xD Yeah, going to use a condom for sure. ... Anyways, Dunno how she feels about it, never asked her, to be honest, a tad too scared to ask -.-.
I was scared it might ruin our relationship because y'know.... Dunno how to put it, heres all I got - I'm scared it'll ruin our relationship because maybe she thinks [JUST MAYBE] I'm just dating her for the sex...

This right here is one of the biggest factors in the decision. Not even knowing how she feels about it and not communicating to find out. You may be as ready as you have ever been but she may be of the mindset that she is not having sex until she is married. Then again, she might be wondering why you haven't tried. Sex in a loving relationship, especially with virgins involved, pretty much requires discussion. If you are not comfortable talking to her about it how could you possibly be comfortable getting naked and intimate and have it go even remotely well.

FIrst step... Talk to her. Find out where her head is at in the situation. Tell her how your feeling ( i feel like i might be ready, I am worried you might think I am dating you for sex, c, d, e) Its great that you would wear a condom. Maybe she would feel better with some other forms of birth control as well. Discuss birth control with her. Talk about what your and her expectations are of having sex. Maybe the two of you could visit the local family planning office together. There are always some willing people to counsel and great pamplets on the walls.

Communicate. Prepare. Make sure you are ready to deal with the ramifications of first time sex as well. As great as it may be, it really is a huge deal for a virgin to lose their virginity.

Best of luck