[CHANDLERS WISH]

Sarah, it takes time to "bond", and in that, "feel"... give it time.

Getting something like that, may make him feel in-secure, in-adequate, not good enough, and you don't want to put that message across to a new potential boyfriend.

PS: This, post may go before yours, we are having trouble with the site in posting, for some reason, I'll move it later, if it does, or else you won't get to read it

CW

[sarahlee20]

penis extenders?

Hey all! I had a few questions about penis extenders. I was at a sex shop the other day and found one. I've recently been dating someone about a month now and can't help but notice we're in sync in every way but in the bedroom. I care about this person very much and we get along so well and all the feelings are there and there's great foreplay and i can always feel the love he has for me. However due to his size when we make love or attempt it i am not satified. I would say he's about 4' sometimes 5" hard. I've tried to through him giving me oral or fingering but i want to feel that phyiscally connection with him inside me. I was looking into penis extenders. I am wondering about if they were safe to use with condoms? Will it make him feel bigger and i feel "filled" up when we make love? Just those are some basic questions i had. Also has anyone used them and have a good sex life with their loved ones? Will it make me feel like we're making love? Just wondered. Thanks all for reading take care

[WildChild]

Get a kegel master and start using it regularly, it just may make the difference.

[sarahlee20]

thanks for the response. we talk about it. I'm just used to my ex partner having a big penis. Trying to be patient and get the feel of his body. We are working on it. Just used to being pounded hard...just remembering how good it felt so sorry for the R rated talk... lol

[Hopeless Dork]

Sara, bringing home a penis extender to a guy you've been dating a month would be the equivelent of him stopping over with a douche and saying here honey I think we both can benefit from this... I just want you to feel fresh!

Its insulting in my opinion, 1 month just does not have the level of depth in the relationship to even need to explore other sensations besides your partners natural body.

4-5 inches is pretty average and can satisfy most women just fine. I agree with WC, work on the kegals, and also you can try having sex in positions that shorten the length of your vaginal canal, such as doggystyle and missionary with your legs above his shoulders.

If you think his pretty normal sized penis is t0o small for you and you've only been dating a month you might want to reavaluate entering more seriously into this relationship, both for his happiness and yours.

For a lot of men, their male ego, self-esteem is so tied into their penis, their ability to please a woman, be a man... to date a guy a few weeks and say honey we need to get you a penis extender... is harsh, and unecessary in my opinion.... not to mention the fact that hes fairly adequetly sized to begin with.

If having a much larger than avg penis is crucial to your happiness you should consider dating someone else, as you've only been with this guy a month... and neither of you have too too much invested in each other.

[Guest]

Yet again I am agreeing with Hopeless Dork. It's insulting, and unncessary.

[sarahlee20]

I never meant to be insulting with him

I am not an unsensitive,unreasonable person.... now i feel like I just really care about him and want it to work in all aspects. I mean it's not too far fetched is it?

[Fallen1]

thanks for the response. we talk about it. I'm just used to my ex partner having a big penis. Trying to be patient and get the feel of his body. We are working on it. Just used to being pounded hard...just remembering how good it felt so sorry for the R rated talk... lol

Only dating someone a month and wanting to go out and by a penis extender is not what one would call being patient and you can be pounded hard no matter what size he is.

I'm with CW. You need to give it time - and more, much more than a month. If this is truly the man for you then you two will (should) "click" and it won't matter how big or how little he is. It will be wonderful.

[Mes T]

Sarah it's not too far fetched for us women, but that's because we're not involved in the immense connection most guys have between their penis and self-confidence.

Have you already talked with him about his size? If so, how did he react?

If you haven't brought it up yet, I'd wager that he would get very upset.

I think it'd be similar to a guy telling his new girlfriend: "Hey honey, when we're having sex, why don't ya wear these strap-on fake boobs so I can feel more of you. My ex had big knockers and I miss that feeling." See?

If penis size is really important to you, as someone mentioned I'd consider finding someone else while the relationship is still so young.

Otherwise, I think an option that might go over better would be to use toys in the bedroom. You could get some for both of you so he wouldn't feel left out.



You're not a bad person for wanting this, not in any way. It's just... SUCH a sensitive subject.

[sarahlee20]

Sarah it's not too far fetched for us women, but that's because we're not involved in the immense connection most guys have between their penis and self-confidence.

Have you already talked with him about his size? If so, how did he react?

If you haven't brought it up yet, I'd wager that he would get very upset.

I think it'd be similar to a guy telling his new girlfriend: "Hey honey, when we're having sex, why don't ya wear these strap-on fake boobs so I can feel more of you. My ex had big knockers and I miss that feeling." See?

If penis size is really important to you, as someone mentioned I'd consider finding someone else while the relationship is still so young.

Otherwise, I think an option that might go over better would be to use toys in the bedroom. You could get some for both of you so he wouldn't feel left out.



You're not a bad person for wanting this, not in any way. It's just... SUCH a sensitive subject.

Thank you Mes-T i feel a little better now. I am seeing him this evening so excited. I can't wait to see him. I've been missing him.