[Hopeless Dork]

I think it'd be similar to a guy telling his new girlfriend: "Hey honey, when we're having sex, why don't ya wear these strap-on fake boobs so I can feel more of you. My ex had big knockers and I miss that feeling." See?


You're not a bad person for wanting this, not in any way. It's just... SUCH a sensitive subject.

True and True.

Sarah you are not bad for wanting what you want... but its just important to realize that he has feelings too... you would be real hurt if the above situation happened to you. And we'd tell you the guy was a jerk if you told us someone did that to you.

If a guy was only dating you a few weeks and told you, you know what I am just not going to enjoy sex with you until you drop 50 pounds, it would cut you to the core... he'd need not do that. If he was not attracted to you he could simply move on with out breaking your spirit.

Thats all we're trying to say here... and as sensitive we women are about our weight, our boobs... men are 10 million times more sensitive about their penis. So to take a deep breath and think of how the situation would make you feel and act accordingly.

Wanting a bigger penis isn't a bad thing. Making a guy that didn't choose his penis size feel bad for just being who he is , is what would be bad.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Man, the site was so messed up that it looks like I started this thread....

For all, again I re-uterate, my post just went up the top, Sarah started this thread

Sarah, you went from one relationship straight into another... You wanted to let your wings fly, well do so...

You "love" the idea of being in love.. But remember, you shouldn't change anyone in life, they are who they are, if that is not for you, then let them go and find what you are looking for, when you are ready.

CW

[sarahlee20]

yeah, I guess I haven't thought of it that way. Aside from the sex and penis issues theres other ones that need to be resolved as well.So I am sad to say i think i will have to let this relationship go. I care about him and want him as a bf but comes with too much strings. As I've mentioned in eariler posts. He's at home totally under his moms control and can't seem to change and lately we haven't been spending as much time together so. I mean i understand he works hard at two jobs none the less. Just wish he could make more time for me.I wish he would make more of an effort. I just miss him. So what would someone do in my situtation? any ideas? I think as much as i love and care for him. I need to see other people.

[Hopeless Dork]

I think its good for you to see other people, you've only been dating a month. When you let yourself fall in love too quickly... you are not falling in love with the person, but the idea of them -- you don't know them well enough at a couple weeks to love the 'real' them, and then by the time you figure that out you have all these emotions to deal with that ideally wouldn't have been in place yet.

You just got out of a long relationship, takes some time to be you, to date and have fun and find out more about you and what you like.

[sarahlee20]

I think its good for you to see other people, you've only been dating a month. When you let yourself fall in love too quickly... you are not falling in love with the person, but the idea of them -- you don't know them well enough at a couple weeks to love the 'real' them, and then by the time you figure that out you have all these emotions to deal with that ideally wouldn't have been in place yet.

You just got out of a long relationship, takes some time to be you, to date and have fun and find out more about you and what you like.

How do i tell him? I do love him and enjoy his company but i do believe i moved too quickly. There's somethings about him that have been bothering me about his family.The controlling issues of them.Like i've been reading my respones and seeing other responces as well from everyone on here. I mean I want to see him maybe just not exclusivly yet. How do you take back an I love you when you mean it but maybe just not in love? We also had sex last night too. That was probably a no no but it just felt right at the time. Just realized he's maybe more in love with me then i am him?

[Hopeless Dork]

Just tell him the truth (leaving out of course any issues with his penis size, and family because ... again... dating a month just doesn't have the kind of depth to try to tell him you think his mother is controlling etc) but the truth as in you just came out of a serious relationship and want to take things a bit slower, a bit more casual ... that right now you are just figuring out what you want for yourself and maybe jumped in a bit too soon. That you still like him and want to see him (if you in fact still do) but that you are not ready to be exclusive with ANYONE just yet.

[maverick]

Select a neutral place or his place (so you can tell your story and leave). Don't do it at your place or you may be faced with the unsavory task of pushing him out the door. Leave out the details of things that he cannot change, like the length of his penis. And yes, that is unchangable short of reconstructive surgery. Despite all of the ads for pills and vacuum pumps, none of these work except for one system where progressively heavier weights are added and that system resulted in minimal length increases combined with a girth decrease. (Who wants a pencil ?)

If you are really hung up on size, seek out someone who is more physically compatable with you the next time around. Just don't be suprised if you can't find them. 4-5" is on the low end of normal for penis size. By any means, its not the size of the wave, its the motion of the ocean!

[sarahlee20]

update!!!

I told him how i felt and that we can still go out and date just not excluisive yet. We still talk and im still dating him just not having a relationship. I also am hanging out with someone my brother introduced me too over the weekend and started my english class!!!!!!

[darcdante]

... men are 10 million times more sensitive about their penis.

Truth. Many men who have an above average sized penis and would typically be thought of as well-endowed by a woman actually think they are below average. Porn has done a terrible thing to the male psyche. Men place an extreme amount of emphasis on their penis, far more than I think most women do (this thread being the exception more than the rule).

[Guest]

I care about this person very much and we get along so well

If you really care about him you're going to kill any chance of a happy future if you bring up the subject of a penis extender. It'd be like him suggesting you go on a diet or get a breast enlargement. Would you think he really cares about you if he did that? You either need to love him the way he is or find someone else. He should still be able to get you off. Try different positions, try anal, have him use toys on you, do lots of oral, but for God's sake don't mention his manhood. Men have TWO things in life you must never make fun of: their penis and their hair. That's it. DON'T INSULT THE PENIS.