[LanaBear]

I think relationships are the most beautiful because it is a choice. My man chooses to be with me, come home to me every day, to be faithful to me. If he is forced to then does it really mean anything anymore. I was never interested in owning a piece of property called a boy friend or husband, but a willing relationship, that to me is true love.

Ditto here!

If he can't keep it in his pants or is tempted enough not to, there are other issues that need to be dealt with.

[nightqueen]

I find this entire thread disturbing. I've never heard of such a thing and in a million years would NEVER suggest such a thing my DH. He does not need a crazy contraption around his penis to remember that he's married and faithful to me.

[samuraki]

misunderstood

people who seem to be getting angry on here or defensive about this and calling people sick or crazy just dont know what they are talking about. My wife and i are in a very loving committed relationship. I discovered chastity recently and introduced it to her. We decided to give it a shot for fun and see what happens. What happened was a deepening of trust and respect between each other. I have never been concerned with my frequent masturbation and she always said she didn't care what i did with myself. Now that she wears a key to my member around her neck, i can no longer relieve myself. when i think of it, i think of her. when i get aroused, i think of her. In the meantime, i have more energy and emotion and time to devote to more important and productive things. I feel like i did when we first dated. i want to go to sleep with her when she does instead of staying up late to watch tv and eat. And in return I get a sense of her taking care of me. I trust her with that which fundamentaly makes me a man and it has made our relationship even better. More exciting and more deeply emotional. If you have absolutely no submissive nature, then it would be difficult to do. I have always wanted to lavish my wife and give her anything she needs. Now i find it much easier to do these things. Knowing that she has control and trusting her with that responsibility is the hottest thing to me. And i actually feel more free than before. Free from my childish masturbation, inappropriate day dreams of other women, and laziness in my relationship. Dont knock it if you dont understand it.

[StillLearnin]

Wouldn't this be called "castration?"

[Texinator]

Dddduuuuddddeeee!!!!

That's just..eh I don't have anything nice to say so I won't say anything at all other than no Wiener Boot for me, thank you.

[WildChild]

If it works for you and you consent, then it's your business.

[StillLearnin]

But know when to pull the plug (pun intended) when you start feeling resentment towards her.

I don't understand how a healthy relationship can occur with this type of control, but to each his own. Maybe for a short time to try something new for a while to bring excitement into the relationship. But definitely not long term.

[d4lly]

i dont get it...if u dont trust ur husband or wife, why r be married to them? and if theyre gonna cheat then leave them!! y use a chastity? i think its cruel, controlling and unhealthy (just my opinion). and that whole thing about not letting ur man masturbate or watch porn or empty himself is selfish thing...theres a lot of women who do that too!! wats wrong with masturbating? id never ever make my bf wear something like that around his penis. as if a guy needs that to remind them who their wife or gf is? and if they do they probably not worth it!

[caterpillar79]

Everybody has his/her own way to do it...for as long as it works, it works - Period!

[Mbelgarion]

Hi,

Chastity devices are first and foremost toys.

There is a lot of fantasy rubbish out there about masturbation prevention, preventing cheating and the like.

As with many things there are a whole range of games people play with chastity devices. Some use them as part of bdsm, D/s or M/s relationships, forced feminisation, cuckolding, small penis humilation, and a whole host of other non mainstream kinks, but not all.

To those who haven't tried it it undoubtedly seems weird. If you search the internet and find all those fantasies dressed as reality then you'll likely be put off.

However a lot of couples play with periods of chastity and use chastity devices with full mutual consent, a fairly vanilla toy for tease and denial games.

That is the way my wife and I play. I'm not forced into it, not turned into a sissy, not cuckolded, not her submissive slave. I do no more and no less housework. I don't become more or less romantic towards her. I love her no more or less. We do however have fun.

Some of our games have been based on chance like the roll of a die, some an agreed time period and others simply open ended. When we are playing we tend to have more sex and intimacy.

Michael