[jns]

I'm attracted to short women. I was also attracted to her. I meet her in Thailand, a country that has a lot of short women, so If I was overly attracted to short women I would have had too many options.

[jen1447]

jen's widening stance for height difference works for some but not all. My wife and I have a 20 inch height difference, so accommodations have to be made. I sometimes see women shorter than their men but with a higher butt line: they have significantly longer legs. Anyhow, to accommodate, find something of the right height that can make up the difference. Maybe the edge of the bathtub. Maybe a step on the stairs. Maybe a short stool for working in the kitchen. The only real requirements are that it is the right height and that it is sturdy enough to not fall over during the games.

You can also modify the basics, like do it in a kneeling position with your torso bent at a similar angle on the floor or bed. She'll have any easier time mounting you that way but you can still spoon. She can even be on her feet if need be while you're on your knees.

If you really want to explore the whole mistreatment thing with this, another good (if bizarre) position is with you on the bed doggy style but with your head down on the mattress (butt in the air), her rotated 90 degrees along the length of your body, penetrating you while straddling you with one leg toward your feet and the other toward your head, with her head side foot actually on the back of your head, your neck, or your face if its turned. It's a very submissive position and her foot involvement holding your face down just makes you a more objectified 'b**.'

[Something_Awesome]

If you really want to explore the whole mistreatment thing with this, another good (if bizarre) position is with you on the bed doggy style but with your head down on the mattress (butt in the air), her rotated 90 degrees along the length of your body, penetrating you while straddling you with one leg toward your feet and the other toward your head, with her head side foot actually on the back of your head, your neck, or your face if its turned. It's a very submissive position and her foot involvement holding your face down just makes you a more objectified 'b****.'

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[jen1447]

SumSum, is that a footprint I see on your face?

[Something_Awesome]

SumSum, is that a footprint I see on your face?

Jen, I tried explaining the move to her, and she thought the idea was extremely hot even though I was probably not visualizing the move properly lol. When showing her the move I though "hmm, this may not work." Not sure how she can go it with a foot on my face?

So... Since I started this post the GF and I have done pegging quite a few more times, and while it's only been quite a few more times, I'd guess that our sessions have been a lot longer than average (just a guess). This makes me feel like I have a say on the topic of pegging. I really feel like I need to write about the effects of pegging after what transpired this past weekend. Specifically, there are a couple things things I want to cover:

1) The theoretical effects of pegging on a relationship.

2) The actual effects of pegging on me and on my relationship with my GF.

This past weekend was interesting, and I don't know what to make of it. I am not going to be seeing the GF again until the weekend (our schedules are not very compatible this week), and you know what? I think I'm glad (OMG shocker!). I am actually pretty confused right now and don't know where I am going with this post as I write it. I am hoping that writing about it helps me make sense of everything, I guess. By the way, some of this may sound cheesy to you guys.

First, let's start with the "theoretical" effects. I've read a lot about begging before the GF and I started doing and have continued to read about it (there isn't actually too much out there though). A lot of the articles I've read have referred to the effects of pegging your guy as "breaking" your man/boyfriend/husband (honestly? Like breaking a horse? wtf?). One article stated:

Men who enjoy butt play do tend to go through some changes, but the majority of these changes are in understanding their partner’s needs. We all know that it’s hard to empathize with someone if you have never been in the situation yourself and studies have shown that men who let their girlfriends peg them are often more considerate and understanding of how not being in the mood can completely ruin the sexual experience or how damaging a headache can be. They understand better that careless pounding away with no other stimulation can sometimes be nice, but often just leaves someone feeling sore and that when they’ve gone hard one night, it’s harder to just pick up and have hardcore sex the next day as well. This is not being feminized, this is having your mind opened and your understanding broadened.

When I first read the above, it did not make sense to me. Why? Well, because just about every pegging experience I read about involved a couple where that guy wanted the pegging, or convinced his lady to do it, etc. There was no way that a guy was going to understand the woman's perspective of giving herself up to a "careless pounding" when he actually desired such a pounding. Pegging is supposed to make us (the dudes) more sensitive/caring lovers (according to the articles I've read). Some of the articles I've read have had funny names too. Such as Wanna Save Your Marriage? Try Pegging Him... I also read another forum post asking if anyone REGRETTED pegging their boyfriend or husband. This was a post I stumbled on before the GF and I started pegging. It seemed like a weird question at the time, but I think I get it now (though not necessarily in the context intended by the person originally asking the question). I think that question is a question that I should pocket and try to answer at the end of this post

So, how has pegging impacted my relationship? I am not one of those guys that desires to be pegged. I do not get off on having my prostate stimulated. Pegging was strictly something that started because my GF wanted it really freakin' bad. Interestingly, I think my lack of enthusiasm has allowed pegging to have an impact on me. This past weekend the GF and I have done nothing but peg. Again, not because I desired it. It doesn't actually feel that great (IMO). I do get aroused by feeling my GF's body smack against mine though. I also like seeing her do it. I also like seeing/feeling the sense of power she has. But to the point... I think I can relate to what the pegging-articles said; how pegging should impact the man of a relationship. All weekend my GF just grinded me down. Lots of hair pulling, frequent balls-smacking (even got to the point where she fakes the balls-smack and I'll, almost involuntarily, close my legs and cover my balls with my hands), and non-stop pegging. I am completely burnt out. She really wore me out this past weekend. During some moments of the pegging I really did feel like I was being carelessly pounded. I mean, it's hot, but you can only take so much. The GF just was not interested in conventional sex. We did do conventionally sexual things, but she preferred to peg. She has an insatiable hunger for it (guessing it won't last). Even giving her oral seemed uninteresting to her. There is a position we sometimes do where she climaxes fairly quickly (where I pick her up), but it did not work this past weekend. I probably would have been able to get her to climax if I did not get so tired holding her up, but that is usually a non-issue because it does not take forever for her to climax in that position. Her mind was on the pegging. I asked her why she just wanted to peg. I mean, she gets very aroused during pegging and yet she seems like she does not feel like she needs to break away from the pegging to climax. She said (and this is interesting since it comes up in the forum a lot) that pegging me is like me "going down" on her. She said she gets that going down gives me great pleasure even though my penis is not being sexually stimulated, and that pegging is like that for her. Her rationale made sense to me. The only thing though is that nobody is getting their sexual organ stimulated. I'm just there, taking it.

So while I honestly get the woman that "gives it up" for her guy when she genuinely isn't in the mood, or when the guy does not care about the woman's pleasure, what I do not get is how this new understanding helps me. I was never that guy. I was never the guy that tried to convince people to do something they did not want to do simply because it would mean a great time for me. I want people to WANT to do what I am in the mood to do so that everyone enjoys the experience (doesn't matter what it was, doesn't have to be sex). I'm sorry, but I think I am a great BF to SAGF and that I do not have any behaviors to change when it comes to being careless about my GF's sexual needs or convincing her have sex (she doesn't need convincing lol) when she does not want to. I don't even ask to receive oral sex FFS! All I know is that she's "broken" me so hard that I am sort of glad I don't have to see her until next weekend (shocking, I know). I expect more of the same next weekend So I guess for the first time in our relationship, I can say I need a little break from her lol.

My balls have felt a little numb/tingly all day (they were even being hit during the pegging). As for my butt, well, it's felt like it's been leaking a runny fluid all day (thanks to the pegging) and every time I went to the bathroom to check, it was dry (I know it sounds gross, but nothing was ever there). After several checks I decided to not bother checking if it was leaking. The leaking just felt so convincing that it compelled me to check if my butt was dry even though I knew it was. So weird. Oh, and for proof of just how into it my GF was, she slapped me (only once) in the face real hard. She isn't a slapper because it reminds her of domestic abuse, but this slap of hers had some force behind it. You can tell she got so intoxicated with the feeling of dominance that she had to let a slap loose. Caught me a little by surprise tbh.

When Sunday night arrived, the GF and I cuddled up and she mentioned how she wanted me to take a bigger dildo. I asked why the heck she wanted that. She said she wanted me to feel pain; she said she wanted me to feel really uncomfortable. My GF looked excited when she said that (with a huge smile), but I was also able to tell that she felt guilty for feeling that way. I now understand why she has not been trying to "prep" me with her fingers. She's just been going in with the dildo and lube with the hopes of seeing me in some type of pain or discomfort. As worn out as I was, I found it a little bit of a turn on and sort cheered my GF on (I know, weird). The truth is that I am a fan of my GF the way some people are fans of their favorite sports teams. I want her to always WIN and for her to always get what she wants. The only thing is, I am not so sure I want pegging being the meat & potatoes of our sex life.

I don't know how pegging will impact my relationship, or if this is just a phase that will pass. I know if I tell my GF that she kicked my butt too hard last weekend that she'd feel extremely bad. She'd even dial back the aggressiveness I'm sure. She'd essentially be acting outside her nature because she'd probably be afraid of scaring me away or something if she continued being aggressive in the bedroom. I don't know. In any case, nobody should act out of nature in a relationship.

Look, I can handle pegging, but five sessions (very long sessions with no prep) spread between two days in a row? Going to try to tough this out and see where all this takes us for now... Totally did not expect the GF's aggressiveness to get fueled (and escalate) thanks to pegging. And I did not expect it to dwarf the time we spend doing more conventional sex acts.

So do I regret introducing pegging into our relationship? I don't know. I don't think so. I think that she might just be making up for lost time. If any of you have read earlier posts, you'd find that my GF has had a pegging-esque fantasy for 10 or so years.

I am not sure I've touched on everything I intended to touch on, or that I explained myself properly, but it's late. I feel like I lost my structure as I kept going and that I may have been all over the place. At the very least I hope this thread will help a couple down the road. Just don't introduce pegging to a female Sagittarius and you'll be fine lmao.

[Motorguy]

Jen, I tried explaining the move to her, and she thought the idea was extremely hot even though I was probably not visualizing the move properly lol. When showing her the move I though "hmm, this may not work." Not sure how she can go it with a foot on my face?

So... Since I started this post the GF and I have done pegging quite a few more times, and while it's only been quite a few more times, I'd guess that our sessions have been a lot longer than average (just a guess). This makes me feel like I have a say on the topic of pegging. I really feel like I need to write about the effects of pegging after what transpired this past weekend. Specifically, there are a couple things things I want to cover:

1) The theoretical effects of pegging on a relationship.

2) The actual effects of pegging on me and on my relationship with my GF.

This past weekend was interesting, and I don't know what to make of it. I am not going to be seeing the GF again until the weekend (our schedules are not very compatible this week), and you know what? I think I'm glad (OMG shocker!). I am actually pretty confused right now and don't know where I am going with this post as I write it. I am hoping that writing about it helps me make sense of everything, I guess. By the way, some of this may sound cheesy to you guys.

First, let's start with the "theoretical" effects. I've read a lot about begging before the GF and I started doing and have continued to read about it (there isn't actually too much out there though). A lot of the articles I've read have referred to the effects of pegging your guy as "breaking" your man/boyfriend/husband (honestly? Like breaking a horse? wtf?). One article stated:

Men who enjoy butt play do tend to go through some changes, but the majority of these changes are in understanding their partner’s needs. We all know that it’s hard to empathize with someone if you have never been in the situation yourself and studies have shown that men who let their girlfriends peg them are often more considerate and understanding of how not being in the mood can completely ruin the sexual experience or how damaging a headache can be. They understand better that careless pounding away with no other stimulation can sometimes be nice, but often just leaves someone feeling sore and that when they’ve gone hard one night, it’s harder to just pick up and have hardcore sex the next day as well. This is not being feminized, this is having your mind opened and your understanding broadened.

When I first read the above, it did not make sense to me. Why? Well, because just about every pegging experience I read about involved a couple where that guy wanted the pegging, or convinced his lady to do it, etc. There was no way that a guy was going to understand the woman's perspective of giving herself up to a "careless pounding" when he actually desired such a pounding. Pegging is supposed to make us (the dudes) more sensitive/caring lovers (according to the articles I've read). Some of the articles I've read have had funny names too. Such as Wanna Save Your Marriage? Try Pegging Him... I also read another forum post asking if anyone REGRETTED pegging their boyfriend or husband. This was a post I stumbled on before the GF and I started pegging. It seemed like a weird question at the time, but I think I get it now (though not necessarily in the context intended by the person originally asking the question). I think that question is a question that I should pocket and try to answer at the end of this post

So, how has pegging impacted my relationship? I am not one of those guys that desires to be pegged. I do not get off on having my prostate stimulated. Pegging was strictly something that started because my GF wanted it really freakin' bad. Interestingly, I think my lack of enthusiasm has allowed pegging to have an impact on me. This past weekend the GF and I have done nothing but peg. Again, not because I desired it. It doesn't actually feel that great (IMO). I do get aroused by feeling my GF's body smack against mine though. I also like seeing her do it. I also like seeing/feeling the sense of power she has. But to the point... I think I can relate to what the pegging-articles said; how pegging should impact the man of a relationship. All weekend my GF just grinded me down. Lots of hair pulling, frequent balls-smacking (even got to the point where she fakes the balls-smack and I'll, almost involuntarily, close my legs and cover my balls with my hands), and non-stop pegging. I am completely burnt out. She really wore me out this past weekend. During some moments of the pegging I really did feel like I was being carelessly pounded. I mean, it's hot, but you can only take so much. The GF just was not interested in conventional sex. We did do conventionally sexual things, but she preferred to peg. She has an insatiable hunger for it (guessing it won't last). Even giving her oral seemed uninteresting to her. There is a position we sometimes do where she climaxes fairly quickly (where I pick her up), but it did not work this past weekend. I probably would have been able to get her to climax if I did not get so tired holding her up, but that is usually a non-issue because it does not take forever for her to climax in that position. Her mind was on the pegging. I asked her why she just wanted to peg. I mean, she gets very aroused during pegging and yet she seems like she does not feel like she needs to break away from the pegging to climax. She said (and this is interesting since it comes up in the forum a lot) that pegging me is like me "going down" on her. She said she gets that going down gives me great pleasure even though my penis is not being sexually stimulated, and that pegging is like that for her. Her rationale made sense to me. The only thing though is that nobody is getting their sexual organ stimulated. I'm just there, taking it.

So while I honestly get the woman that "gives it up" for her guy when she genuinely isn't in the mood, or when the guy does not care about the woman's pleasure, what I do not get is how this new understanding helps me. I was never that guy. I was never the guy that tried to convince people to do something they did not want to do simply because it would mean a great time for me. I want people to WANT to do what I am in the mood to do so that everyone enjoys the experience (doesn't matter what it was, doesn't have to be sex). I'm sorry, but I think I am a great BF to SAGF and that I do not have any behaviors to change when it comes to being careless about my GF's sexual needs or convincing her have sex (she doesn't need convincing lol) when she does not want to. I don't even ask to receive oral sex FFS! All I know is that she's "broken" me so hard that I am sort of glad I don't have to see her until next weekend (shocking, I know). I expect more of the same next weekend So I guess for the first time in our relationship, I can say I need a little break from her lol.

My balls have felt a little numb/tingly all day (they were even being hit during the pegging). As for my butt, well, it's felt like it's been leaking a runny fluid all day (thanks to the pegging) and every time I went to the bathroom to check, it was dry (I know it sounds gross, but nothing was ever there). After several checks I decided to not bother checking if it was leaking. The leaking just felt so convincing that it compelled me to check if my butt was dry even though I knew it was. So weird. Oh, and for proof of just how into it my GF was, she slapped me (only once) in the face real hard. She isn't a slapper because it reminds her of domestic abuse, but this slap of hers had some force behind it. You can tell she got so intoxicated with the feeling of dominance that she had to let a slap loose. Caught me a little by surprise tbh.

When Sunday night arrived, the GF and I cuddled up and she mentioned how she wanted me to take a bigger dildo. I asked why the heck she wanted that. She said she wanted me to feel pain; she said she wanted me to feel really uncomfortable. My GF looked excited when she said that (with a huge smile), but I was also able to tell that she felt guilty for feeling that way. I now understand why she has not been trying to "prep" me with her fingers. She's just been going in with the dildo and lube with the hopes of seeing me in some type of pain or discomfort. As worn out as I was, I found it a little bit of a turn on and sort cheered my GF on (I know, weird). The truth is that I am a fan of my GF the way some people are fans of their favorite sports teams. I want her to always WIN and for her to always get what she wants. The only thing is, I am not so sure I want pegging being the meat & potatoes of our sex life.

I don't know how pegging will impact my relationship, or if this is just a phase that will pass. I know if I tell my GF that she kicked my butt too hard last weekend that she'd feel extremely bad. She'd even dial back the aggressiveness I'm sure. She'd essentially be acting outside her nature because she'd probably be afraid of scaring me away or something if she continued being aggressive in the bedroom. I don't know. In any case, nobody should act out of nature in a relationship.

Look, I can handle pegging, but five sessions (very long sessions with no prep) spread between two days in a row? Going to try to tough this out and see where all this takes us for now... Totally did not expect the GF's aggressiveness to get fueled (and escalate) thanks to pegging. And I did not expect it to dwarf the time we spend doing more conventional sex acts.

So do I regret introducing pegging into our relationship? I don't know. I don't think so. I think that she might just be making up for lost time. If any of you have read earlier posts, you'd find that my GF has had a pegging-esque fantasy for 10 or so years.

I am not sure I've touched on everything I intended to touch on, or that I explained myself properly, but it's late. I feel like I lost my structure as I kept going and that I may have been all over the place. At the very least I hope this thread will help a couple down the road. Just don't introduce pegging to a female Sagittarius and you'll be fine lmao.

Well a Scorpio women of my wife loves me reading your story SA, to the point she was using one of her toys are her self. While i read word for word to her. She gave her intense orgasm SA, so thank you for that just turn her on even more. As you can see I as not complaining either lol. Keep up the good erotic writing it's for sure getting read here by other members lol.

[jen1447]

Ok, I've been too busy to delve into this to the extent that it deserves, but now I'll try. Rather than give some comprehensive overview I think I'll just stick to commenting on various statements. If I don't finish it all, I'll pick it back up later.

First of all, I have to commend you on your dedication to this and to SAGF's satisfaction SumSum. You're a trooper. Good job!

Not sure how she can go it with a foot on my face?

It won't exactly be power thrusting but it can be done. Try it, you'll see.

First, let's start with the "theoretical" effects.

The theoretical effects and scholarly articles are all well and good, but sometimes women just like to eff guys and it's nothing more than that.

Pegging was strictly something that started because my GF wanted it really freakin' bad.

Hmmm. Hmmm! I seem to recall some stories about a video of a "greek wife" that you looked up on the internet without any instruction from SAGF. You sure it was all her?

All weekend my GF just grinded me down. Lots of hair pulling, frequent balls-smacking .... and non-stop pegging. I am completely burnt out. She really wore me out this past weekend. During some moments of the pegging I really did feel like I was being carelessly pounded. I mean, it's hot, but you can only take so much. The GF just was not interested in conventional sex. We did do conventionally sexual things, but she preferred to peg. She has an insatiable hunger for it

That sounds hot. What's the problem?!

Her mind was on the pegging. I asked her why she just wanted to peg. I mean, she gets very aroused during pegging and yet she seems like she does not feel like she needs to break away from the pegging to climax. She said (and this is interesting since it comes up in the forum a lot) that pegging me is like me "going down" on her. She said she gets that going down gives me great pleasure even though my penis is not being sexually stimulated, and that pegging is like that for her. Her rationale made sense to me. The only thing though is that nobody is getting their sexual organ stimulated. I'm just there, taking it.

Actually no ....her mind (the most significant sexual organ) was being stimulated. Hyper-stimulated even.

So while I honestly get the woman that "gives it up" for her guy when she genuinely isn't in the mood, or when the guy does not care about the woman's pleasure, what I do not get is how this new understanding helps me.

I don't go in for the quasi-psychology stuff so much honestly. I would have figured that the obvious reciprocation was simply in the 'taking it,' being a receiver.

All I know is that she's "broken" me so hard that I am sort of glad I don't have to see her until next weekend (shocking, I know). I expect more of the same next weekend So I guess for the first time in our relationship, I can say I need a little break from her lol.

Let's see, that was Tuesday, this is Thursday ....you don't feel the same way today, do you? Bet you can't wait to see her again now.

When Sunday night arrived, the GF and I cuddled up and she mentioned how she wanted me to take a bigger dildo. I asked why the heck she wanted that. She said she wanted me to feel pain; she said she wanted me to feel really uncomfortable. My GF looked excited when she said that (with a huge smile), but I was also able to tell that she felt guilty for feeling that way. I now understand why she has not been trying to "prep" me with her fingers. She's just been going in with the dildo and lube with the hopes of seeing me in some type of pain or discomfort.

Here we're getting into 'dark corners' of sexuality that aren't really dark when looked at from an adult context, and one that accepts certain realities. The fact is, not everything about sex is cuddles and candles and romance. There are parts (maybe even a majority) that are a bit shocking in their reality. For example, some women fantasize about being raped. Some men fantasize about other men taking their women. Some women like to be 'slapped around' during sex, tied up, held down, 'forced' to do this or that. Some men likewise. All those things can appear ugly to some on the surface, but the fact is, sex is an adult matter that simply isn't restricted to what the poet's talk about in their more smarmy works. Sometimes it's rough, sometimes it's even brutal, sometimes the motives are impure, sometimes the outcomes aren't nice, and sometimes people get bruised. It can be loving, gentle, and kind, and other times it can be almost violent. Welcome to the world of adult sexuality in all its crazy nuances.

I'm glad you're not judging SAGF for this, because people tend to be very vulnerable to assertions that they're depraved or perverted when really all they're doing is exploring the more extreme reaches of consensual sex. Society (modern western anyway) definitely favors traditional values here, the porn industry aside. No one advertises that they trussed up their wife like a Christmas turkey last night, but they freely admit to hardcore cuddling. So letting SAGF explore these 'dark corners' is doubtless very liberating for her, and I'm sure that's why she's going all 'animal' on you - it's primal and rawly appealing in an instinctual way.

The only thing is, I am not so sure I want pegging being the meat & potatoes of our sex life.

I doubt it will be. If she's anything like me, once she gets the discovery and novelty out of her system (in other words, once she works it all out), it'll probably be relegated to a once or twice a month activity.

Look, I can handle pegging, but five sessions (very long sessions with no prep) spread between two days in a row? Going to try to tough this out and see where all this takes us for now... Totally did not expect the GF's aggressiveness to get fueled (and escalate) thanks to pegging. And I did not expect it to dwarf the time we spend doing more conventional sex acts.

I was like that when I first started getting into it too ....sounds normal to me.


SumSum, it's normal and expected that you'd take a journey of your own in your role with all this. It's understandable that SAGF would, being as it's 'discovery' for her, but for you it's broadening your mind and your sexuality. There's a lot to overcome here, from the physical aspects of taking something into your body like that to the societal ones that stereotype any male anal activity as automatically homosexual. You don't just blink your eyes one day and accept all that. You work on it, and over time you become good with it. Your doubts and uncertainties here are normal and understandable. Just please hang in there for SAGF's sake and yours as well. It's obvious this is very important to her. And I really think it's almost as important to you. It'll have to be, because the genie's out of the bottle now and you know what the say about putting it back.

[Something_Awesome]

First of all, I have to commend you on your dedication to this and to SAGF's satisfaction SumSum. You're a trooper. Good job!

Hmmm. Hmmm! I seem to recall some stories about a video of a "greek wife" that you looked up on the internet without any instruction from SAGF. You sure it was all her?

Yeah, I thought that video would be brought up. That video is easily one of the hottest videos ever (for me) and I just thought, while laying in bed with the GF, that it'd be fun to show her the video. Even after seeing the video for the first time (without the GF) I would have strongly wagered that I would not do pegging (even though the video was hot). However, I like to play with fire. I knew that when I showed the video to my GF that she might like it and that she then might want to do it to me, which would make me consider pegging.

Well, I never expected to see/hear the reaction she had to that pegging video (and the ones we watched thereafter). Actually, iirc, I offered to let her use the Iris on me that night (she did not ask to use it). It was stupid to wait for her to ask. Her level of excitement over what she saw in the videos was so high, so unexpected, that there was no way I would have dared deny her pegging. I mean, if someone really wants something that bad then I'd be happy to be a little uncomfortable so that you can have a ton of pleasure. But don't get me wrong, while my butt feels uncomfortable, my eyes and mind are being stimulated immensely. Not just from watching her peg either.

That sounds hot. What's the problem?!

It was just tiring. It actually takes a toll on you. I was in a depressed state of mind the day I wrote the post (which was more like on Monday, even though I posted the message at 12:30 midnight on Tuesday morning).

I'm perfectly OK today though!

Let's see, that was Tuesday, this is Thursday ....you don't feel the same way today, do you? Bet you can't wait to see her again now.

Let's call it a Monday. And yes, I can't wait to be with her again (and not just for the sake of pegging).

Here we're getting into 'dark corners' of sexuality that aren't really dark when looked at from an adult context, and one that accepts certain realities. The fact is, not everything about sex is cuddles and candles and romance...

I'm glad you're not judging SAGF for this, because people tend to be very vulnerable to assertions that they're depraved or perverted when really all they're doing is exploring the more extreme reaches of consensual sex...

Neither of us are actually judgmental. Also, I hate making people feel uncomfortable. You'd be surprised at the extremes I've gone to so that someone else feels comfortable. I've been told it's a Capricorn thing (Yeah, yeah... Call your astrologer ).

Oh, and as for the Dark Corners thing, I told you she wanted to cause me pain, but there was more to it than that (I kept a small detail out). I just did not want to make people that read the post feel really uneasy.

I doubt it will be. If she's anything like me, once she gets the discovery and novelty out of her system (in other words, once she works it all out), it'll probably be relegated to a once or twice a month activity.

Well, I'm more OK with it now than I was a couple days ago. Maybe I needed to process the weekend.

There's a lot to overcome here, from the physical aspects of taking something into your body like that to the societal ones that stereotype any male anal activity as automatically homosexual. You don't just blink your eyes one day and accept all that. You work on it, and over time you become good with it. Your doubts and uncertainties here are normal and understandable. Just please hang in there for SAGF's sake and yours as well.

That's exactly why I was in such a confused and depressed state of mind on Monday. I did not expect to feel that way. I mean, after the first time we did it felt exciting, new, and fresh. I think all the stuff you mentioned sunk over the weekend, especially with how much we did it.

Yeah, I'm totally hanging in there. We still have not done missionary though. I am extremely nervous about looking her in the eyes while doing it . She's suggested doing missionary (or me being on my back) but I just tell her that I think it'd be weird with my "thing" dangling in our faces lol.

[jen1447]

If she wants it, do it. And your penis is actually in a convenient place to be 'jerked' in that position too.

The real test will be reverse cowgirl.

[Something_Awesome]

The real test will be reverse cowgirl.

LMAO no way!