Helllllllllllpppp!!! I am in my 50's very happily married and going through a major sex surge!!!! My insides ache!! I want and think about it all the time!!! with my hubby AND others!! I want to have an affair to fulfill my fantasies!!! I am driving myself crazzzzzzzzzzeee.
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Welcome, Lucy!
Did you have a high sex drive before and it has just gotten higher? Was it a sudden change? Any idea what brought it on?"Those sowing seed with tears
Will reap with a joyful shout." - Psalm 126 -
Hi Lucy!! Sounds a hormonal surge. I'm assuming you have not yet started menopause?
As long as you're feeling great otherwise, just enjoy the surge while it lasts. But enjoy it with your hubby or through masturbation. Don't ruin your marriage over it.Comment
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Have you talked to your husband about it? Looked at how to spice things up? There's a lot to do without actually having an affair.Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)Comment
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I agree it's probably a hormonal change. have you seen your doctor about it?<br />
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If bringing new people into the marriage isnt accepted by your husband, I hope that you will discuss the issue in detail with him and make a way to satisfy yourself without ruining your marriage. <br />
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This likely will pass. Assuming your marriage is good and you want to stay married, don't make choices that you will regret once the hormones have leveled out.<br />
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Talk to your doctor, talk to your husband.Comment
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No I haven't talked to my doctor or husband about it. Too embarrassed. I thought too it could be hormonal as I haven't gone through this since my 30's (while going through a divorce). I have a wonderful marriage, so an affair is not an option.Comment
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PS No menopause yet. I am 54, just recently no period for three months and then I got it for 4 days, so my body is changingComment
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So this is the second time the surge has happened? What do you think triggered it 20 years ago? The emotional upheaval from the divorce? Was it the same as now?
I'm wishing what you have was contagious or at least reproducible? I don't see why you feel embarrassed about it."Those sowing seed with tears
Will reap with a joyful shout." - Psalm 126Comment
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20 yrs old I had a reg partner. More sex back then. No it is definitely different now. More so. I do have non-cancer fibroids in my ovaries.Comment
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