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  • ThexMrs, is discussing her own situation, simular as ages go in relationships with the threader.
    Yes, I sure am.
    "All the beats and melodies keep realities at bay but what happens when the records done and starts to fade away? Alone within myself again, I try to veil away my pain. The dirty grey surrounding me 'round..... And now I hear no sound."

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    • Your situation sounds more of a sugar-daddy as i read through.U love the fact that he is old enough to take care of u,sweet,loving etc.But deep down in your heart do u realy want this man or just in it for the protection & all that.Tell u what sweety never let a broken heart stand in your chance to love & be loved because u state that u have been hurt before & dont want to go through it again.The age gap is also a big deal here,he has done it far more times than u have & believe me he gets irritated everytime u say it hurt & cries.U cant be in a relationship simlpy because he protects u & takes care of u,are u sure thats how u want to live.Having to wonder what to do to avoid sex with him when he comes over everytime,i dont think so.If u cant stand the heat,Get out of the kitchen.Simple as that my dear,the decision is yours.Stay & suffer yourself emotionally & physically or find someone you can explore with since you are inexperienced.NEVER say u are scared to be hurt again,NEVER.There is always a good guy somewhere there.

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      • NEVER say u are scared to be hurt again,NEVER.There is always a good guy somewhere there
        I really had to highlight that... It's like if you don't dream, you will never wake up......

        Well said.

        CW
        PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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        • i think that you really do need to look into counseling for yourself. it is not healthy for you to be so dependent on your bf. you need to love yourself first! tell your man that you need some time away ( like a month or 2 with no contact!) seek counseling, then re-evaluate the situation. you are not breaking up with him, just give yourself some space. You never know, you might surprise yourself with how well you do without him!!
          Smile...it's not so bad.

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          • Originally posted by lovemyself1 View Post
            tell your man that you need some time away ( like a month or 2 with no contact!) seek counseling, then re-evaluate the situation. you are not breaking up with him, just give yourself some space. You never know, you might surprise yourself with how well you do without him!!
            I think this is a good idea. Have you found out if he is definately married yet or not? Its been a little while since you started this thread. Let me tell you something. Before I had my son, I was never single. However, once I got pregnant with him, I was with his 'sperm donor' for over a year. I only stayed with him to have someone. I THOUGHT that he was there for me and I THOUGHT that he took care of me. BUT, the truth is, looking back at the diary entries I had posted on my online thing, I was unhappy. I just felt like I should stay in that relationship. I am so glad that I got out. I didnt not feel comfortable having sex with him. I didnt not LIKE kissing him after I got pregnant. , I didnt even want to hold his HAND! After we broke up, I stayed single for almost two years. I had the best time just hanging out with my sisters and my son. No one to answer to, nobody that I had to BEG for a little bit of money, no one to STRESS ME OUT. That was EXACTLY what my relationship was with that guy. Maybe I didnt want to have sex with him because I knew he'd be a terrible father. Who knows. BUT, now, I am with a guy that I have known since High School and we were friends for a long time before we started dating. We were friends before my son was even thought of. Andrew has truely been here for me through a lot. More than any man ever has. I may g through periods when I dont want to hav sex but Im sure every woman who gets stressed out about things does.
            Anyway, what I am trying to say is, if I can leave that sperm donor who hardly gave me the time of day and always griped about me spending money on things for MY son, then you can lose that guy and find someone MUCH better! I found my guy. Go find your true guy.

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            • Originally posted by KateyBaby View Post
              I didnt not feel comfortable having sex with him.
              I didnt mean I didnt not feel comfortable. lol. I meant I DIDNT. oops. Lets get that one clear. I hated the THOUGHT of having sex with him. We didnt have sex for the year we were together after I got pregnant. And when I tried to, I cried...I just didnt want to touch him and didnt want him to touch me. I also didnt give him bjs like you give your guy.

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