[CHANDLERS WISH]

he said he couldn't handle the stress

The stress of cheating? The stress of what if I get caught? How much do I lose? The house, the superannuation, child support, child support, child support... ........$$$$$

Not, I love you and I want to be with you, only you... I am stressed....

and when he had free time he wanted to spend it with his kids

Because, I can't bare to lose them, she will not let me see them if she finds
out I am cheating, I don't mind her but she isn't giving me enough sex, I need more, bugger, but there are the kids, well I won't lose them, sorry your not worth that.

I am only 21 and he is 35,

Mmmm... I am King, I am the man... you could be my daughter... How exciting, I can snag myself someone so young and sexy and beautiful.

there's so much he keeps hidden from me

If I read his mind? That is what I would have read....

Let's take that he's married aside.

He lies you know it... He lies to his wife... He says it's stress but then he misses the sex and love you shower on him, that makes him feel special that he is not getting at home... But, it's short term, he has no intentions of leaving her, do you really want to waste your life?

No one can tell you to leave, you won't...

He will come back and get more.

He will tell you again he is stressed, and it's his kids, and he will lie again.

One day you will feel horrid , discusted and used and when you do you will walk.

Nothing we can say... I've helped enough here and only a couple listened, the rest kept going with much regret, much....

One day sweet.

In this situation I am angry with him... Because you could be his child, 14 years is old enough... I don't like users.

I am ommitting the cheating side.... He is a user. And, taking away your youth tell him this..

What do you have to lose? Say to him... I could be your daughter, you are using me, and you are taking away my youth..... If you love me leave... Stop making excuses or walk away, have some guts to let me suffer and be hurt and cry and be in pain but let me find my way in life you had your chance...

CW

[iltfoou]

If you discovered a burried treasure, would you take a peak and then reburry it?

Life is too short to give up. Every situation, whether it ends happily or badly, causes growth. Pain and heartache build character and beauty, although sometimes we doubt our ability to get through it.

If you believe in your heart something to be true, it is only fair to YOU to see it through. Otherwise, you face the possibility of living a life of "what if?" or "what if I didn't get scared?"

Some men treat women poorly, but deep in our hearts we know whats up. A man being married does not mean he is incapable of loving another woman with his whole heart. Love changes, and people fall out of love.

[jschurma]

okay, so i was debating on posting a thread on here until i saw this one... now i dont have to. it is the hardest thing to go through and never imagined i would be in the situation. to me, i would rather spend the time i have with one i love regardless of the situation and if it doesnt work (which 9 times out of 10 it wont) then at least you gave your heart and i would rather hurt and have the pain and have the time then to not have had any of it. sometimes though things dont work with couples bottom line, divorce, break ups, etc and if it's meant to be then it will happen (in my mind). i dont believe "once a cheater always a cheater" but i do think that we have probably all been in a relationship that we sometime into it realized we were not really right for that person or that you didnt really "love" them, this could happen at 30 days or 10 years. so, from one from both sides of the fence i say spend what time you have with someone you love and enjoy every minute of it, but keep it in the back of your mind incase you are heartbroken.

[teresa kow]

I can't imagine how a woman could do this - not to another woman but to herself???
can you imagine how much you degrade yourself when you accept to be "the mistress"??

He did it with you
He will do it to you.

I totally agree with you.
If he can do it with you, he willdo it to you!!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Sorry guys, but this is an old thread that people are replying to, the OP has gone.

Therefore, closing this thread.

CW